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 Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 8:37 am
There is a movie coming out, Juno, about a pregnant teen who chooses [Private] Adoption. Pretty cool, huh?
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Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 11:45 am
I've never seen it but i might check it out later though.
Honestly if I had a unplanned pregnancy (and amusing all went well with no serious complications) I would choose open adopt if I feel if I can't care for the child.
That way they can have a family that does want and care for a child (I wish to check out all the families first and pick with couple (I don't think they allow single people to adopt do they?) that I feel would be the best for my child.
That way if it's an open adoption I can still see the child if I wish and keep in contact with the family so that way I know everything is going well and the child is safe.
I belive they still allow the mom to see the child right?
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Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 2:17 pm
sachiko_sohma I've never seen it but i might check it out later though. Honestly if I had a unplanned pregnancy (and amusing all went well with no serious complications) I would choose open adopt if I feel if I can't care for the child. That way they can have a family that does want and care for a child (I wish to check out all the families first and pick with couple (I don't think they allow single people to adopt do they?) that I feel would be the best for my child. That way if it's an open adoption I can still see the child if I wish and keep in contact with the family so that way I know everything is going well and the child is safe. I belive they still allow the mom to see the child right? Some agencies do seem to allow single people to adopt. I would want to choose a gay couple, because they can't really have children otherwise, and I think many of the ones on Open Adoption sites look like good people. *grin* The movie's a comedy, I don't know if it will be any good or not. But anything that gets the word out about Open Adoption is a good thing.
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Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 3:19 pm
WatersMoon110 sachiko_sohma I've never seen it but i might check it out later though. Honestly if I had a unplanned pregnancy (and amusing all went well with no serious complications) I would choose open adopt if I feel if I can't care for the child. That way they can have a family that does want and care for a child (I wish to check out all the families first and pick with couple (I don't think they allow single people to adopt do they?) that I feel would be the best for my child. That way if it's an open adoption I can still see the child if I wish and keep in contact with the family so that way I know everything is going well and the child is safe. I belive they still allow the mom to see the child right? Some agencies do seem to allow single people to adopt. I would want to choose a gay couple, because they can't really have children otherwise, and I think many of the ones on Open Adoption sites look like good people. *grin* The movie's a comedy, I don't know if it will be any good or not. But anything that gets the word out about Open Adoption is a good thing. I honestly don't care if their gay or not. Alot of people want kids but can't have any on their own for some reason or they think option is a better choice. All I ask for is for them is to take good care of the child and that their good decent people.
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Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 3:26 pm
sachiko_sohma I honestly don't care if their gay or not. Alot of people want kids but can't have any on their own for some reason or they think option is a better choice. All I ask for is for them is to take good care of the child and that their good decent people. I figure that tons of people are willing to give a child up to a heterosexual couple, but that less people are willing to choose a homosexual couple. If I get into that situation, that is why I would choose a nice gay couple. That and probably some whole "that way I will be the only mother involved" little bit of my brain. *wink*
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Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 9:03 pm
This is supposed to be one of the best movies of the year, actually.
Hilarious, Heart-warming, and with a girl in the lead from our very own Nova Scotia, it can't lose.
Also, it's directed by the son of the guy who directed Ghostbusters.
Yes, he's good.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 1:16 am
If it wasn't for that book about gay penguins which made me go all fluffy and happy over gay adoption I would never have considered open adoption if I had an unwanted child in a million years.
I just couldn't bear the thought of someone else raising my offspring with views I might massively disagree with. What if they raised it to be a republican (I live in the UK and am a staunch monarchist) what if they raised it to be conservative or narrow minded.
It would be nice to find someone with similar views but it's hard to find pantheistic monarchist liberal nationalists. I'd rather give it to a gay couple because then at the very least they would know what it would be like to be discriminated against and would teach it not to judge others or be closed minded. Also I've never met a gay man I didn't like, but I've met plenty of straight couples I would have strangled if it wasn't sadly illegal. At least I could be sure then that if it wanted to find me in the future I might get on with it. How awful would it be to meet it/see it grow up into the type of person the parent really couldn't stand.
Hurray for gay penguins! heart I wonder why so many people seem to have issues with it, if it made me consider adoption when I previously hated the idea, chances are it will do the same to some others too. I guess keeping children closed minded is more important to some people than giving alternatives to abortion. sad
One thing though, I don't think I could ever give an offspring of mine to a couple who could have adopted any child but only want healthy white newborns so they can pass it off as their biological child, I just don't agree with it. I've seen children find out at 16 they were adopted and completely go off the rails, social services and whatnot and have to go into care. Which further brings me to think that choosing a gay couple would be better as they are unlikely to do that for obvious reasons.
Though, my brother in law (to be) and his brother were adopted together which is lovely although not when they were newborn as far as I know, and his mum also fosters children. My sister was telling me how his mum fosters part time a beautiful baby girl to give her adoptive parents a break as she has special needs. It is sad her biological parents gave her up for this reason but wonderful that her adoptive parents and my brother in law (to be)'s mum all chose to care for her and love her. So however cynical I may be, there are truly good people out there to adopt children ^_^
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 12:14 pm
Anardana Though, my brother in law (to be) and his brother were adopted together which is lovely although not when they were newborn as far as I know, and his mum also fosters children. My sister was telling me how his mum fosters part time a beautiful baby girl to give her adoptive parents a break as she has special needs. It is sad her biological parents gave her up for this reason but wonderful that her adoptive parents and my brother in law (to be)'s mum all chose to care for her and love her. So however cynical I may be, there are truly good people out there to adopt children ^_^ I can understand giving up a special needs child. I don't think I would have the patience or knowledge needed to raise a special needs child.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 12:20 pm
WatersMoon110 Anardana Though, my brother in law (to be) and his brother were adopted together which is lovely although not when they were newborn as far as I know, and his mum also fosters children. My sister was telling me how his mum fosters part time a beautiful baby girl to give her adoptive parents a break as she has special needs. It is sad her biological parents gave her up for this reason but wonderful that her adoptive parents and my brother in law (to be)'s mum all chose to care for her and love her. So however cynical I may be, there are truly good people out there to adopt children ^_^ I can understand giving up a special needs child. I don't think I would have the patience or knowledge needed to raise a special needs child. I can understand it, although I still think it is a shame. They probably feel really guilty but if they feel they couldn't give her a good life then they may well have done the best thing for her. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 12:47 pm
Anardana 3nodding I can understand it, although I still think it is a shame. They probably feel really guilty but if they feel they couldn't give her a good life then they may well have done the best thing for her. 3nodding And since she sounds like she is having a good life, what with her parents and her foster (grand?)mother taking good care of her, I think that their choice was the best thing for her.
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 12:48 pm
WatersMoon110 Anardana 3nodding I can understand it, although I still think it is a shame. They probably feel really guilty but if they feel they couldn't give her a good life then they may well have done the best thing for her. 3nodding And since she sounds like she is having a good life, what with her parents and her foster (grand?)mother taking good care of her, I think that their choice was the best thing for her. Yup. Happiness all round smile
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 1:18 pm
WatersMoon110 Anardana Though, my brother in law (to be) and his brother were adopted together which is lovely although not when they were newborn as far as I know, and his mum also fosters children. My sister was telling me how his mum fosters part time a beautiful baby girl to give her adoptive parents a break as she has special needs. It is sad her biological parents gave her up for this reason but wonderful that her adoptive parents and my brother in law (to be)'s mum all chose to care for her and love her. So however cynical I may be, there are truly good people out there to adopt children ^_^ I can understand giving up a special needs child. I don't think I would have the patience or knowledge needed to raise a special needs child. I can understand that as well. Some people are just not capable of handling a child with special needs. Raising a child is hard enough and it already takes alot of time,money, and patience to care for them, but rasing a child with special needs child takes more time and patiences and some people can't do it. Luckly, there are people is able and willing to take care ofchildren special with needs child (they deserve a nice home and family as well).
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 1:29 pm
sachiko_sohma WatersMoon110 I can understand giving up a special needs child. I don't think I would have the patience or knowledge needed to raise a special needs child. I can understand that as well. Some people are just not capable of handling a child with special needs. Raising a child is hard enough and it already takes alot of time,money, and patience to care for them, but rasing a child with special needs child takes more time and patiences and some people can't do it. Luckly, there are people is able and willing to take care ofchildren special with needs child (they deserve a nice home and family as well). I feel that I need to say that I would be fine taking care of a child that has a physical ailment, so long as their mind worked okay. Maybe I'm a bad person, but I don't think I could raise a child that would be at the four year old mindset forever. As far as things like Downs Syndrome go, if I knew I might not continue the pregnancy. Though I plan to be sterilized long before I hit the 35-40 mark when the risks of Downs Syndrome start really increasing (I will not birth more than two children and am planning on just one - then adopting - so after a second I would for sure get sterilized).
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Posted: Tue Dec 18, 2007 1:38 pm
WatersMoon110 sachiko_sohma WatersMoon110 I can understand giving up a special needs child. I don't think I would have the patience or knowledge needed to raise a special needs child. I can understand that as well. Some people are just not capable of handling a child with special needs. Raising a child is hard enough and it already takes alot of time,money, and patience to care for them, but rasing a child with special needs child takes more time and patiences and some people can't do it. Luckly, there are people is able and willing to take care ofchildren special with needs child (they deserve a nice home and family as well). I feel that I need to say that I would be fine taking care of a child that has a physical ailment, so long as their mind worked okay. Maybe I'm a bad person, but I don't think I could raise a child that would be at the four year old mindset forever. As far as things like Downs Syndrome go, if I knew I might not continue the pregnancy. Though I plan to be sterilized long before I hit the 35-40 mark when the risks of Downs Syndrome start really increasing (I will not birth more than two children and am planning on just one - then adopting - so after a second I would for sure get sterilized). If I do plan on getting pregnant and having a child, I plan to have it before I'm 30. The older you are when getting pregnant, the more chances of complications. I really depends on what kind of special needs my child has. I can't care for one now but maybe later I on I care for them and be able to handle caring for some special needs the child may have.
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Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 10:30 pm
Wasn't it a closed adoption though?
Babies want to be borned! Babies want to be borned!
I almost cried towards the end. It was so touching.
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