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 Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:18 pm
Okay, so, girls...
I guess I've got a bit of a dilemna.
I'm a senior in high school, and we're like, a little more than 1/4 of the way into the school year. So it seems a little pointless to drop out after coming this far, I know.
I'm fairly determined that this is what I want to do, though.
The educational part of school isn't the problem at all. Most of the work is sort of easy for me. Physics is simple once you know the formulas, and I understand the rules of English much better than my English teacher ever could. (He tried to say that "consequently" is a conjunction, and he basically tells us to STUFF our papers, when, in reality, you're supposed to cut out as much as you can and stay to the point. But anyway...)
It's not that I'm having social problems, exactly, but... sort of? I'm very introverted, so I don't talk to people unless they talk to me first; this is okay, people talk to me. I just... feel like I'm going through the motions with the wrong people, I guess.
See, I moved recently, so I don't know people here very well, nor am I interested in getting to know them, since there's less than one year before we all split up anyway. If I graduate, I want it to be with my friends, but they aren't here. Actually... that's sort of a long story too...
To simplify and save time, let's say that I want to graduate with people that I know and am familiar with. I hold a certain fondness for the people at my old school.
I'm also INSANELY stressed out by everything that's going on right now. My ex wrote me a message like, 4 days ago, after ignoring me completely for a year and a half. She makes it sound like she's sorry and wants to be friends again, so I say that she's forgiven and ask what the problem was to begin with, and, today, she writes back with this:
...Ah, well then...I guess...goodbye? Lol, I really don't want to talk about it. >.<
What am I supposed to do with that? Say that it's okay and I want to be friends with her anyway, or stand my ground? One of my friends is always pointing out what a pushover I am, so I'm not sure what's acceptable here.
And what the hell, aren't I supposed to be the one who's hesitant to talk to her? I mean, s**t, she ignored me for almost a year and a half STRAIGHT without even giving me a reason! And now this! What am I supposed to do with this?
And then there's the whole, "do I still love her" issue that I STILL haven't really resolved, because I have no idea. I know for certain that I don't want to date her again, but I don't know what my feelings toward her are. Just friendship? And why even that? Why don't I hate her? Or at least dislike her? And what was her deal in the first place, anyway?
Sorry, girls. I know that you can't answer any of that. I'm just... argh. You know? Argh.
And, as if that weren't enough stress, my dad seems to constantly go on about how the chances of my graduating are getting slimmer and slimmer. Yeah, that's gonna inspire me to go to school, Dad. Great job. Way to motivate.
I don't think that he means to hurt my feelings with that, but he really does. His opinion matters a lot to me, and it hurts when he suggests that I don't have what it takes to graduate.
But of course, this just makes it like, ten times harder to say that I want to drop out and get a GED. I think he'd be okay with it, but it's just... I don't know. I don't know if I can say it to his face, you know?
But... Ha, I ranted your eyes out of the sockets by this point, I'm sure. XD Sorry, girls.
But look, I'm really just asking for any information on getting a GED that you might know. From Wikipedia (which isn't always right) I understand that about 95% of colleges will accept people with GEDs. Are there any jobs that wouldn't accept someone with a GED? I've heard that to work in a library, you need a high school dimploma, but would a GED count in that sense?
Just things like that.
And uh... I dunno, anything else you wanna say having to do with anything in this post, I guess. XD
Edit: Ugh, and now my period's started. >_<
Stress stress stress stress stresssssssssssss is not my friend.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:33 pm
Okay, let's see.... I agree, it seems - not pointless - but sad that you would drop out after twelve years (kindergarten?) of hard work. Yes, you can the GED, but... it's just not the same to me. confused Maybe it is to you. I didn't like school much, either. I was good at it, yes, but I didn't have any friends. Like you, I spoke to people when spoken to but that was about it. You can't imagine how joyful I was when I graduated. Oooh, it was the first time I understood the phrase "heaven on Earth". Check out Melissa O'Neil's song "Alive" if you haven't. It understands, completely.
It's difficult to graduate when you've just moved. What a rotten time to move. I hate parents that do that to their poor children. I wish there was some way that you could move back to be with your friends. Is there anyone you could stay with back there?
Your ex: if she's not willing to talk to you about something that stands in the way of your being friends, she's not ready to be friends. Conversely, neither are you. You shouldn't try to be friends with her until you're absolutely ready for it. If you try too soon, then you'll ruin any chance for you to be friends in the future. It sounds like your ex is just feeling guilty. It's too bad that she feels that way - really - but you can't do anything about that right now. Don't sacrifice your feelings for hers after how she hurt you. It has nothing to do with being a pushover, and everything to do with taking care of yourself, first. [P.S. - it's hard, nigh impossible, for me to hate someone I love who hurts me. When my father cheated on my mother, I still loved him. Perhaps it is the same for you.]
Your dad is a dickhead. Tell him to ******** off. He should be motivating you, not stressing you out. I want to mention - the best way of proving him wrong? Yeah, graduating. Put that diploma in his face and tell him to swallow it, baby. Show him what you can do. smile Parents opinions matter an unfortunate amount, but sometimes... *shakes head*
I don't know anything about a GED, sorry. But I hope I helped in some way...
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:35 pm
Wow, that sucks.
I'd say try to stay in school as long as you can possibly bear it.
But then you know, my advice sucks. xP
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:36 pm
  Sweetie, I'm going to tell you very bluntly Dropping out to get your G.E.D. is very stupid and unwise. At least in my eyes. You are a senior. You're going to waste twelve? eleven? years committed to school at the last 3/4s of your senior year? I know it's tough, and dropping out seems better to you, but just stay in school, and get your high school diploma. Why do I think this? My mother-- She went up for a job, with a person who had the SAME experience as her (She worked with, and was friends with this person for a long time), except, this other person had a diploma, and she had her G.E.D. My mother didn't get the job, her friend did. (Lol, they barely talk now, rofl) That job would've made it a LOT easier to support three kids, pay rent, bills etc... So when they say having a diploma makes a difference, it's true. I'm not saying the same thing will happen to you, I'm just saying, it's more likely, you know. A Diploma shows that you have endurance, and the skills to get throught high school which, some think, can be a harder environment to be in, than a work place... As for your ex, ignore her. Seriously... Let HER talk to you, if she wants to you know, resume a regular friendship... One of my exs ignored me for a month, and I wasn't mad or anything, just a little sad, but I told him, I'm not going to say hi, you'll have to initiate the conversation from now on... yea.... I hope things will get better though... Don't dwell too much on your problems, just relax, mmkay?
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:39 pm
D: Stay.
Even if it DOES seem rather pointless, you need something to prove your intelligence or else they won't take you seriously.
Unfortunate,but true.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 7:53 pm
I'm going to have to agree with everybody else on this one.
Stay.
I know it sucks not to graduate with people you care about,
but it's just school, you know.
Be with your friends, laugh with your friends and have fun with your
friends, but don't let that decide your future.
My sister spent two out of three years of her high school almost
completely friendless. She didn't go to her prom, or any of those events.
But she now has a diploma.
And it's true that they are better than a GED.
I know this is entirely your decision, but my advice is to not drop out.
Or, at least, hang on untill you are absolutely positive that you can't deal
with it anymore.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 8:11 pm
Chibilicious: Well... It's not that my parents moved. My Mom lives in Indiana, and I lived with her, but we had a lot of issues, so I moved in with my Dad in Kentucky. My school was in Indiana. And as much as I would love to go back, I don't think I could live with Mom again, not to mention there's been a bit of a fight between Mom and Dad over all of this, so moving back wouldn't be fair to Dad at all.
Maybe you're right about my ex, though... It's just that if I don't respond, she'll probably never talk to me again. I'd like to be friends, I really would, but I don't know.
And I'll try to remember to check that song out. Thanks.
Captainlicious: I think I'm about to that point as it is. XD And thanks, I think it's good advice.
Breathalicious: Yeah, you're probably right about the job thing...
But I dunno if she'll talk to me.
And yeah, relaxing is probably a good idea. XD Thanks.
Bombsaulicious: The GED is a proof of having a high-school-graduate-level of intelligence, though. ._. You can get into most colleges with it and everything. I've heard that in some places, the highest scorers on the GED get scholarships and stuff. Thanks for the input, though.
Shindiglicious: High-five your sister for me, and thanks for the input.
And YES, I did feel the need to add "licious" to all of your names. Sorry. XD
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 10:45 pm
 You got so much love in you I seriously, am going to say this with force. It would be completely stupid for you to drop out right now. If you're not having problems with the studies or anything, that means you can actually finish. Yeah, social issues, other issues can push you over the edge. But you're so close, it'd be ridiculous to just waste it, when you can just go straight to a university after Highschool unlike if you got a GED, you'd have to go to community college first.
I dropped out of highschool. But I dropped out at the beginning of my 11th grade year. I was like 3 classes behind. Then had to get a job to support myself because I was going to be 18 soon and my mom was going to make me pay rent. I was going to be 18 in the 11th grade, because I started school a year late growing up due to my parents moving so much.
So, I just dropped out. It was just too much trying to stay in school, having a job, paying for your own stuff, having a boyfriend who lived several states away, and already being 3 classes behind. And I didn't have any friends in highschool really, maybe a couple, but I always hung out with them on the weekends anyways.
I'd say, stick it out, and pull yourself through the rest of this year. It'll be worth it, and you won't have to pay to take the stupid GED test. :] You look like the songs that I've heard my whole life coming true.
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