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 Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 7:50 pm
When a girl first starts having sex, she is supposed to see a doctor, am I correct? So if my girlfriend and I had sex, how would she be able to go without telling her mom? We love eachother and its going to happen eventually, but her mom won't accept that it will happen. Would it be dangerous if she didn't go to the doctors after? Also, can't you get checked for sexual viruses for free at some hospitals or something? I have 3 small white bumps under the head of my p***s, and I want to get them removed. From what I have read, they aren't dangerous at all, they arent herpes, they aren't warts. They were something like penile pul-something somethingness..... confused
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 7:59 pm
Yes, females are supposed to start seeing an ob-gyn when they become sexually active. Her mother has nothing to do with it. As long as she can drive or get a reliable ride, she can go on her own. She can go to Family Planning or Planned Parenthood. They will give her a pap, birth control, and STD checks if she wants them. Not going to the ob-gyn can sometimes be dangerous, and it would certainly be irresponsible.
It sounds like you might have pearly penile papules. They are not contagious and do not cause any problems. There is no reason to get them removed other than sheer vanity. So my advice would be to just not be vain. xp Become comfortable with your body. Shallowness is not an attractive quality. xp Also, since pearly penile papules are not contagious and cause no problems, I doubt many insurance companies and clinics would be willing to remove them for free.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 8:01 pm
If your girlfriend or you yourself can drive, she can go to a Planned Parenthood. She doesn't have to tell her mother/ they wont tell her mother (though, with this option she/you would have to pay out of your own money).
Also, if she wanted to go to the doctors, she could just tell her mother that she wasn't feeling good, or needed a doctor's form for school/college/sports/anything else. Otherwise, she could tell the truth. wink
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Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2007 6:41 pm
Moonlight:
She couldn't ever tell her mom, and neither one of us can drive. Her mom has problems about us being in an inter-racial relationship, and won't accept the fact that we are going to have sex. I would ask one of my friends to drive, but that would be imbarassing for her and me.
Lorien:
There are home remedies that you can use to get rid of them, and I'm going to go to the doctors just to ask what I can eat, what pills I can take, or what I can do to make them less noticible. And sometimes they hurt, especially when she rubs it for a while. I don't want her to think that it is herpes either when she wouches it bare.
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Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2007 7:01 pm
T e x n o l y z e Moonlight:
She couldn't ever tell her mom, and neither one of us can drive. Her mom has problems about us being in an inter-racial relationship, and won't accept the fact that we are going to have sex. I would ask one of my friends to drive, but that would be imbarassing for her and me. If you two can't get her to the ob-gyn anytime soon, then you should not be having sex anytime soon. T e x n o l y z e Lorien: There are home remedies that you can use to get rid of them, and I'm going to go to the doctors just to ask what I can eat, what pills I can take, or what I can do to make them less noticible. And sometimes they hurt, especially when she rubs it for a while. I don't want her to think that it is herpes either when she wouches it bare. If you are afraid of your girlfriend thinking you have herpes, maybe you should simply educate her. Pearly penile papules are extremely common. She has nothing to fear from them. As I said, they require no treatment. Treatment serves no purpose other than vanity. Treatment is not usually as simple as taking a pill or changing your diet either. The vast majority of men leave their pearly penile papules alone. Of those who do opt to get them removed, surgery or laser removal is usually used. If you feel pain when your girlfriend rubs your p***s, that is probably simply a sign that you need to tell her to be more gentle. Pearly penile papule information for those who want it: "Pearly penile papules refers to the swellings in small, pearl like, strings on the p***s, around the coronal ridge. ...These bumps run around the rim of the p***s head in an almost organized fasion. They can appear as a single papule or one row, but some have two or three strings close together in separate rows. In most cases they cause no pain or discomfort.... The pearly penile papules are a normal part of the skin's anatomy. It's completely innocent and requires no treatment.... Pearly penile papules are not a disorder but a common skin function for certain men. With this said, no therapy needs to be followed other than common p***s hygiene. Do not, under any circumstance, pop, pick or try to squeeze these Pearly penile papules, this will cause scarring and infection which will make the Pearly penile papules seem small in comparison." http://www.mattersofsize.com/2006/03/pearly-penile-papules.html
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Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2007 11:48 pm
LorienLlewellyn T e x n o l y z e Moonlight:
She couldn't ever tell her mom, and neither one of us can drive. Her mom has problems about us being in an inter-racial relationship, and won't accept the fact that we are going to have sex. I would ask one of my friends to drive, but that would be imbarassing for her and me. If you two can't get her to the ob-gyn anytime soon, then you should not be having sex anytime soon. T e x n o l y z e Lorien: There are home remedies that you can use to get rid of them, and I'm going to go to the doctors just to ask what I can eat, what pills I can take, or what I can do to make them less noticible. And sometimes they hurt, especially when she rubs it for a while. I don't want her to think that it is herpes either when she wouches it bare. If you are afraid of your girlfriend thinking you have herpes, maybe you should simply educate her. Pearly penile papules are extremely common. She has nothing to fear from them. As I said, they require no treatment. Treatment serves no purpose other than vanity. Treatment is not usually as simple as taking a pill or changing your diet either. The vast majority of men leave their pearly penile papules alone. Of those who do opt to get them removed, surgery or laser removal is usually used. If you feel pain when your girlfriend rubs your p***s, that is probably simply a sign that you need to tell her to be more gentle. Pearly penile papule information for those who want it: "Pearly penile papules refers to the swellings in small, pearl like, strings on the p***s, around the coronal ridge. ...These bumps run around the rim of the p***s head in an almost organized fasion. They can appear as a single papule or one row, but some have two or three strings close together in separate rows. In most cases they cause no pain or discomfort.... The pearly penile papules are a normal part of the skin's anatomy. It's completely innocent and requires no treatment.... Pearly penile papules are not a disorder but a common skin function for certain men. With this said, no therapy needs to be followed other than common p***s hygiene. Do not, under any circumstance, pop, pick or try to squeeze these Pearly penile papules, this will cause scarring and infection which will make the Pearly penile papules seem small in comparison." http://www.mattersofsize.com/2006/03/pearly-penile-papules.html I was thinking that we shouldn't for a while either, unless I can get her to find a way for her to have her mom take her. I'm not afraid of her thinking they are herpes. Its just that she overexagerates things sometimes. She would probably say something like "Oh my God, we have to take you to the doctors. Your p***s might fall off." Its cute, but she usually thinks that the worst thing will happen when you tell her something. She isn't rough. We just do that for a long time. Usually around an hour and a half. The area she usually rubs eventually gets raw from my underwear though. And I just read another useful fact. They usually occur in black males, and thats me.
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Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 8:34 am
Ah, I see. Yeah, I can understand that. A lot of people panic the first time they see PPP.
An hour and a half! xp No wonder you get sore! Do you guys use a lubricant? That might help.
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Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 9:55 pm
LorienLlewellyn Ah, I see. Yeah, I can understand that. A lot of people panic the first time they see PPP. An hour and a half! xp No wonder you get sore! Do you guys use a lubricant? That might help. No, we don't use lubricant. I'm kinda embarassed to go and buy that for myself. I'll probably send my friend Lauren, seeing as that she has bought it before. Now, could you tell me some of the dangers of not going to see a oby-gyn? My girlfriend told me that if we had sex, she probably wouldn't go to see one. I asked her if that was bad and shouldn't she see one. But she said she would, but she probably won't.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 8:44 am
T e x n o l y z e No, we don't use lubricant. I'm kinda embarassed to go and buy that for myself. I'll probably send my friend Lauren, seeing as that she has bought it before. Now, could you tell me some of the dangers of not going to see a oby-gyn? My girlfriend told me that if we had sex, she probably wouldn't go to see one. I asked her if that was bad and shouldn't she see one. But she said she would, but she probably won't. Being ready for sexual activity means not being too easily embarrassed! You need to be able to buy lubricant, buy condoms, and ask your doctor questions as needed. Females need to be able to see an ob-gyn, ask tons of questions, and talk to the ob-gyn about hormonal birth control. Anyone who is not ready for that stuff probably is not ready for sex. So if your girlfriend won't see an ob-gyn, I would say don't have sex with her. Consider it her way of telling you that she is not ready to have sex in a safe and responsible way right now. Tell her to see an ob-gyn before you two start having sex. The ob-gyn is very important for sexually active girls. They are supposed to go to the ob-gyn every year. The ob-gyn will give the girl a pap smear, which checks for cervical cancer. Exactly what the ob-gyn does in addition to the pap varies a bit from place to place and person to person. At my ob-gyn, she checks urine for urinary tract infections. She also checks blood for signs of diabetes. She also gives a breast exam. If the girl wants a hormonal form of birth control, the ob-gyn would talk to her about all of her options and help her pick one out that is right for her. The ob-gyn can also check for STDs. Girls can only get hormonal birth control from the ob-gyn. Hormonal birth control is more effective than anything you can get over the counter. So it would be best if your girlfriend saw an ob-gyn and got on hormonal birth control before having sex.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 5:39 pm
LorienLlewellyn T e x n o l y z e No, we don't use lubricant. I'm kinda embarassed to go and buy that for myself. I'll probably send my friend Lauren, seeing as that she has bought it before. Now, could you tell me some of the dangers of not going to see a oby-gyn? My girlfriend told me that if we had sex, she probably wouldn't go to see one. I asked her if that was bad and shouldn't she see one. But she said she would, but she probably won't. Being ready for sexual activity means not being too easily embarrassed! You need to be able to buy lubricant, buy condoms, and ask your doctor questions as needed. Females need to be able to see an ob-gyn, ask tons of questions, and talk to the ob-gyn about hormonal birth control. Anyone who is not ready for that stuff probably is not ready for sex. So if your girlfriend won't see an ob-gyn, I would say don't have sex with her. Consider it her way of telling you that she is not ready to have sex in a safe and responsible way right now. Tell her to see an ob-gyn before you two start having sex. The ob-gyn is very important for sexually active girls. They are supposed to go to the ob-gyn every year. The ob-gyn will give the girl a pap smear, which checks for cervical cancer. Exactly what the ob-gyn does in addition to the pap varies a bit from place to place and person to person. At my ob-gyn, she checks urine for urinary tract infections. She also checks blood for signs of diabetes. She also gives a breast exam. If the girl wants a hormonal form of birth control, the ob-gyn would talk to her about all of her options and help her pick one out that is right for her. The ob-gyn can also check for STDs. Girls can only get hormonal birth control from the ob-gyn. Hormonal birth control is more effective than anything you can get over the counter. So it would be best if your girlfriend saw an ob-gyn and got on hormonal birth control before having sex. I know exactly what a GYN does, but I didn't know why it would be soo dangerous not to go. My girlfriend would go if either of us had a liscance and had money. We can't tell her mom to take her, so I don't know how she will go. I can but condoms, but its the lubricant part that makes me embarassed. At all the drug stores around my house, people from my school work there, and they would make fun of me. Thats why I can't buy that.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 5:43 pm
That's exactly my point. If you're afraid of people seeing you buy it and making fun of you, then once again, you're not ready for sex. People buy lubrication and condoms. So what? If anyone makes fun of you for it, they're probably 12 years old. When you are actually ready for sexual activity, then you will be ready to buy everything you both might need whether it is condoms, lubricants, home pregnancy tests (hopefully not anytime soon), etc. no matter who might see it. Children are squeamish about sex and everything that entails, not adults who are ready to have it.
You know what an ob-gyn does but don't understand why that stuff is important!? xp Cancer is a very dangerous thing especially if it is not caught early enough. Many people die from cancer. Many STDs are also dangerous, some of them even life threatening. It's also important because your girlfriend should talk to an ob-gyn about birth control since I assume you two are not trying for a baby right now. That stuff all sounds pretty important to me! xp
If you two know any other friends or relatives who can drive, she can go with them.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 5:58 pm
LorienLlewellyn That's exactly my point. If you're afraid of people seeing you buy it and making fun of you, then once again, you're not ready for sex. People buy lubrication and condoms. So what? If anyone makes fun of you for it, they're probably 12 years old. When you are actually ready for sexual activity, then you will be ready to buy everything you both might need whether it is condoms, lubricants, home pregnancy tests (hopefully not anytime soon), etc. no matter who might see it. Children are squeamish about sex and everything that entails, not adults who are ready to have it. You know what an ob-gyn does but don't understand why that stuff is important!? xp Cancer is a very dangerous thing especially if it is not caught early enough. Many people die from cancer. Many STDs are also dangerous, some of them even life threatening. It's also important because your girlfriend should talk to an ob-gyn about birth control since I assume you two are not trying for a baby right now. That stuff all sounds pretty important to me! xp If you two know any other friends or relatives who can drive, she can go with them. I just hate it when peole make fun of you for buying these thing. When I went to look at condoms, these two kids from my school started making fun of me. I thought condoms prevented STDs. Also I got checked for STDs a while ago, but I don't think she has soo... yeah. Nevermind that. I have a friend that could possibly drive us, but I'm not sure. What are the price of seeing a GYN? Also, I'm not sure where the closest planned parenthood is. Could you give me all the ones in Michigan?
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 6:17 pm
T e x n o l y z e I just hate it when peole make fun of you for buying these thing. When I went to look at condoms, these two kids from my school started making fun of me. I thought condoms prevented STDs. Also I got checked for STDs a while ago, but I don't think she has soo... yeah. Nevermind that. I have a friend that could possibly drive us, but I'm not sure. What are the price of seeing a GYN? Also, I'm not sure where the closest planned parenthood is. Could you give me all the ones in Michigan? Yup, there might be a few "children" who make fun of you. Who cares about them though? If they laugh at you, feel free to laugh to yourself about how childish they are! xp Since you two are so young and I assume are still in school, places like Planned Parenthood and Family Planning should charge you little or no money. I went to Family Planning for years when I was in school without ever paying them anything. You can find the nearest Planned Parenthood by visiting www.plannedparenthood.org
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Posted: Sun Oct 21, 2007 4:34 pm
Honestly, I think you're going to a bit too far, Lorien. I personally was raised in a house where sex wasn't talked about, wasn't explained, and is still considered a bad thing (I'm 17, my brother 14- my mother changes the channel if people start kissing and more on TV).
Because of this environment, I'm extremely shy and embarrassed about sexual things. Condoms, birth control, doctors, friends sharing stories at school... I don't like talking about these things/buying these things/etc in public. But at the same time, I understand that a person must be mature about these topics if they want to have sex.
Uhh. Where was I going with this. Yes! You can be embarrassed about buying condoms and lube in front of kids from school, and still be ready for sex. My suggestion would be to grab the lube, grab the condoms, and then grab a funny birthday card. If anyone asks, it's a gag gift for a friend of yours. No one has to know any different.
Texnolyze- is there any public transportation in your area that she could use to get to the planned parenthood? There's 34 in Michigan, so you should be reasonably close to at least one of them. If not, I still think it would be possible for your girlfriend to just ask her mother to take her to the doctor for a checkup, and then talk to the doctor in private.
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Posted: Sun Oct 21, 2007 4:40 pm
Moonlight Silver
Honestly, I think you're going to a bit too far, Lorien. I personally was raised in a house where sex wasn't talked about, wasn't explained, and is still considered a bad thing (I'm 17, my brother 14- my mother changes the channel if people start kissing and more on TV).
Because of this environment, I'm extremely shy and embarrassed about sexual things. Condoms, birth control, doctors, friends sharing stories at school... I don't like talking about these things/buying these things/etc in public. But at the same time, I understand that a person must be mature about these topics if they want to have sex.
Uhh. Where was I going with this. Yes! You can be embarrassed about buying condoms and lube in front of kids from school, and still be ready for sex. My suggestion would be to grab the lube, grab the condoms, and then grab a funny birthday card. If anyone asks, it's a gag gift for a friend of yours. No one has to know any different.
Texnolyze- is there any public transportation in your area that she could use to get to the planned parenthood? There's 34 in Michigan, so you should be reasonably close to at least one of them. If not, I still think it would be possible for your girlfriend to just ask her mother to take her to the doctor for a checkup, and then talk to the doctor in private.
She just tried asking her mom to take her to the doctors, but she won't be able to. Its really not fair. Her mom just doesn't want to schedule an appointment and drive her to the office.
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