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 Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 3:32 pm
So, as most of you already know there is this guy I like that's 5 years older than I am. I was recently talking to him online, and he was flirting with me. So of course I was flirting back. He gave me his number, and no matter what I just can't get the courage to dial the number. I don't know why, I just can't. Part of me is afraid that I'll get hurt again if he knows I like him, and I don't want to make the first move again. There was a survey on a website we filled out and sent to each other. One question asked: "Would you go out with me?" I answered, Maybe. And he answered, Sure.
My hopes are already set up too high, I'm afraid I'll be a big mess if they all get shot down. So what should I do? Call him? Tell him I like him? or What?
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:13 pm
Call him and just talk to him for a bit.
See how it goes. :]
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:18 pm
If I call it would be next week when I get my voice back to normal. >o<
EDIT: But I don't know what to say.
Hahahaha.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 5:50 pm
CALL HIM.
Gawd, you like him and you know that he'd be willing to date you. That's so much better than most people with crushes' situations. About a bazillion times better than mine XDD
Just talk about something. Anything. A show you're watching, something you have in common, almost anything works. I can see how you can fear making a phone call, but it's alot easier once you're actually in the convo. Plus if he's really talkative, he should be able to lead the conversation.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 6:08 pm
Kitty Krazy CALL HIM. Gawd, you like him and you know that he'd be willing to date you. That's so much better than most people with crushes' situations. About a bazillion times better than mine XDD Just talk about something. Anything. A show you're watching, something you have in common, almost anything works. I can see how you can fear making a phone call, but it's alot easier once you're actually in the convo. Plus if he's really talkative, he should be able to lead the conversation. o_o >o< Tehee, he could've been nice and just said that. That's what I'm worried about. I've been used by a guy before, and then tossed aside when he knew I liked him. And I don't want to go through that pain again. >o< This is probably how it would go: "Hello is (insert his name here) there?" "This is" "Ummm...." *hangs up* ^^; *smacks head against the wall*
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 6:25 pm
Meiko_Michan Kitty Krazy CALL HIM. Gawd, you like him and you know that he'd be willing to date you. That's so much better than most people with crushes' situations. About a bazillion times better than mine XDD Just talk about something. Anything. A show you're watching, something you have in common, almost anything works. I can see how you can fear making a phone call, but it's alot easier once you're actually in the convo. Plus if he's really talkative, he should be able to lead the conversation. o_o >o< Tehee, he could've been nice and just said that. That's what I'm worried about. I've been used by a guy before, and then tossed aside when he knew I liked him. And I don't want to go through that pain again. >o< This is probably how it would go: "Hello is (insert his name here) there?" "This is" "Ummm...." *hangs up* ^^; *smacks head against the wall* Ano, how is answering "Sure" to a dating question on a survey not just saying it? I mean, sure it's not directly asking you to date him, but how many people are actually good at directly doing things like that? I've heard quite a few stories about people starting to date, and not many of them had one person straight-out asking the other to date them. And how were you used? :curious: And how about instead of the "Umm", you try something along the lines of "Hi, this is _______.". Let him reply, and he should probably say something that starts a conversation. And if he doesn't, and there's an akward silence, instead of panicking and hanging up, say the first thing that comes to your mind, or if you can't think of anything, simply say "Sorry, I'm not used to talking on the phone.". You have no idea how many times I've had to use that line in a phone conversation. XDD
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 6:37 pm
Kitty Krazy Meiko_Michan Kitty Krazy CALL HIM. Gawd, you like him and you know that he'd be willing to date you. That's so much better than most people with crushes' situations. About a bazillion times better than mine XDD Just talk about something. Anything. A show you're watching, something you have in common, almost anything works. I can see how you can fear making a phone call, but it's alot easier once you're actually in the convo. Plus if he's really talkative, he should be able to lead the conversation. o_o >o< Tehee, he could've been nice and just said that. That's what I'm worried about. I've been used by a guy before, and then tossed aside when he knew I liked him. And I don't want to go through that pain again. >o< This is probably how it would go: "Hello is (insert his name here) there?" "This is" "Ummm...." *hangs up* ^^; *smacks head against the wall* Ano, how is answering "Sure" to a dating question on a survey not just saying it? I mean, sure it's not directly asking you to date him, but how many people are actually good at directly doing things like that? I've heard quite a few stories about people starting to date, and not many of them had one person straight-out asking the other to date them. And how were you used? :curious: And how about instead of the "Umm", you try something along the lines of "Hi, this is _______.". Let him reply, and he should probably say something that starts a conversation. And if he doesn't, and there's an akward silence, instead of panicking and hanging up, say the first thing that comes to your mind, or if you can't think of anything, simply say "Sorry, I'm not used to talking on the phone.". You have no idea how many times I've had to use that line in a phone conversation. XDD >o< That's true, hmmmm. Well, a close guy friend of mine would flirt with me a lot, I would flirt back. Then when I was hanging out with him one day he kissed me. So, I told him I liked him. And he said, "That kiss meant nothing." And he stopped talking to me after that. o_o Yeah, hahaha. That would be a good thing if I said my name. That sounds good, because I'm not used to talking to people on the phone right away. >o< Thanks.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 6:40 pm
YOU SHOULD POST HIS NUMBER AND LET US CALL HIM!!! 8D
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 6:52 pm
Edmond Dantes YOU SHOULD POST HIS NUMBER AND LET US CALL HIM!!! 8D Neva! ;D
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 6:54 pm
Wow... that one guy there... that hurt you... was a complete and total a*****e (forgive my french? o_o)... and an idiot for turning you down...
but meh, the assholes still manage to get all the girls... x_x
But, even if this one turns out the same... you tried. And though the rejection, or just the thought thereof, may hurt... if you don't, then you may very well miss out on getting to know a really nice guy even better... o.o
Besides, placing myself in his shoes, after I said that I "liked" someone (which I probably never will again... ._.( ) ), and they didn't respond, I would definitely get the impression that they didn't want to reciprocate, and probably would leave any thoughts of any future "encounters" behind... o.o
So, go for it... and I think everyone else here has pretty good advice for the call... o.o
Well, except for Edmond... you REALLY don't wanna give anyone you have an interest in's number to the complete and total lunatics here... ^_^( )
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 7:09 pm
Sibeiko Wow... that one guy there... that hurt you... was a complete and total a*****e (forgive my french? o_o)... and an idiot for turning you down... but meh, the assholes still manage to get all the girls... x_xBut, even if this one turns out the same... you tried. And though the rejection, or just the thought thereof, may hurt... if you don't, then you may very well miss out on getting to know a really nice guy even better... o.o Besides, placing myself in his shoes, after I said that I "liked" someone (which I probably never will again... ._.( ) ), and they didn't respond, I would definitely get the impression that they didn't want to reciprocate, and probably would leave any thoughts of any future "encounters" behind... o.o So, go for it... and I think everyone else here has pretty good advice for the call... o.o Well, except for Edmond... you REALLY don't wanna give anyone you have an interest in's number to the complete and total lunatics here... ^_^( ) Thanks, yeah he is. And then the next day he started going after one of my best friends. -o- That's true, didn't really think of it that way. =D Sorry to hear that happened to you. >o< I wouldn't want to leave that impression. I think I want to talk to him on the phone a few times before I tell him I like him. >o< Hahahaha.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 7:42 pm
Sibeiko Wow... that one guy there... that hurt you... was a complete and total a*****e (forgive my french? o_o)... and an idiot for turning you down... QFE And telling your name is a VERY good idea. I forgot to once, and my friend's mom thought I was a teacher (I sound professional-ish on the phone? o.o; ), so she was all ":sigh: What did my daughter do now?"
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 7:56 pm
Kitty Krazy Sibeiko Wow... that one guy there... that hurt you... was a complete and total a*****e (forgive my french? o_o)... and an idiot for turning you down... QFE And telling your name is a VERY good idea. I forgot to once, and my friend's mom thought I was a teacher (I sound professional-ish on the phone? o.o; ), so she was all ":sigh: What did my daughter do now?" ^o^ Oh wow, that would be funny. ;D I would've been evil and played along with it.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 8:02 pm
Meiko_Michan Kitty Krazy Sibeiko Wow... that one guy there... that hurt you... was a complete and total a*****e (forgive my french? o_o)... and an idiot for turning you down... QFE And telling your name is a VERY good idea. I forgot to once, and my friend's mom thought I was a teacher (I sound professional-ish on the phone? o.o; ), so she was all ":sigh: What did my daughter do now?" ^o^ Oh wow, that would be funny. ;D I would've been evil and played along with it. If I had time to preplan it, I might have, but I just said "Oh- no, I'm her friend." Then she apologized like 3 times and handed the phone over.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 9:10 pm
Hmmmm...Don't think I can really help you on this one.I don't really use a phone that much. XD
But, telling someone that you like them.Can be difficult, or easy depending on who you are.
Though.I would say, it would be best to get to know the person a bit better.Get used to talking to them.Then admit that you like them, once you are comfortable enough to say such thing.
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