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Alright so I am having a problem, it involves me and the person I’m dating right now. He is a believer to say the least and as the days go on and our six month has come and gone, I am finding it harder and harder to talk to him. I feel bad but I really like discussing things that make people of the church(s) uncomfortable, topics that I can discuss freely and deeply with my atheist friends. But that’s not even my problem. No, not at all, I think that I have been very tolerant of his faith and he has sort of been tolerant of my lack of faith. However something has happened recently that I found to be (1) highly offensive and (2) highly insightful to how narrow minded those of faith are.
Here’s the scoop: For the past couple of weeks the guy I’m dating has been stressed out, and on the down low. He told me that his mother had taken him aside one night to have one of those “so what about your life blah blah blah” talks. My reaction was typical, ‘Parents do this all the time, its what they do, especially for people like us who are so close to being out of their control’. He spent about an hour dogging the subject until I finally told him to get to the point or leave, and he said that his mom thought I was the problem. But no, no my friends the twisted tales of a teenager doesn’t stop there, his mom thought that I was causing his bad mood all because a little idiot decided it would be cool to tell her that I was an Atheist. She then apparently spent the rest of the conversation trying to convince her son that because of my athleticism he was become stressed and less happy. And the problem is, as much as he tries to hide it I think he took what his mother said to heart. Which is very sad because I thought I was dating someone with a lot more balls than to be swayed by that. I haven’t tried in any way to make him think like I do, but when he want’s to talk stem cells or abortion or stuff like that I let him have it, bluntly. Because that’s what I do, bluntly state fact.
However he has tried to put his faith on me, very discreetly that is. He invites me to do things with his youth group, or his family that always have to do something god-related while their together. He once took me on a canoe trip and they stopped on this little piece of land in the middle of the river to have a communion…a ******** communion! In the middle of a ******** river with crackers and juice and all that jazz. I told him point blank that I would not take part in any of it and promptly walked away to have a gander at some aquatic life, far, far away from their patch of holy land.
The more I think about the more I would much prefer us being friends but he doesn’t want that, because he loves me. But I can’t say the same, because I don’t…however I’m a ******** nice person and can’t tell him that I just want to be friends because then he will slip into depression and crap. But I am SICK of the religion thing. What the hell should I do? I have already told him that I will not change for him and that I don’t appreciate him using religion in every freakin debate I try to have with him. Someone help me for the love of evolution! None of my other religious friends try to push their faith on me, even my best friend and we are at polar opposites when it comes to these things, why should by “boyfriend” be any different?
Alright so I am having a problem, it involves me and the person I’m dating right now. He is a believer to say the least and as the days go on and our six month has come and gone, I am finding it harder and harder to talk to him. I feel bad but I really like discussing things that make people of the church(s) uncomfortable, topics that I can discuss freely and deeply with my atheist friends. But that’s not even my problem. No, not at all, I think that I have been very tolerant of his faith and he has sort of been tolerant of my lack of faith. However something has happened recently that I found to be (1) highly offensive and (2) highly insightful to how narrow minded those of faith are.
Here’s the scoop: For the past couple of weeks the guy I’m dating has been stressed out, and on the down low. He told me that his mother had taken him aside one night to have one of those “so what about your life blah blah blah” talks. My reaction was typical, ‘Parents do this all the time, its what they do, especially for people like us who are so close to being out of their control’. He spent about an hour dogging the subject until I finally told him to get to the point or leave, and he said that his mom thought I was the problem. But no, no my friends the twisted tales of a teenager doesn’t stop there, his mom thought that I was causing his bad mood all because a little idiot decided it would be cool to tell her that I was an Atheist. She then apparently spent the rest of the conversation trying to convince her son that because of my athleticism he was become stressed and less happy. And the problem is, as much as he tries to hide it I think he took what his mother said to heart. Which is very sad because I thought I was dating someone with a lot more balls than to be swayed by that. I haven’t tried in any way to make him think like I do, but when he want’s to talk stem cells or abortion or stuff like that I let him have it, bluntly. Because that’s what I do, bluntly state fact.
However he has tried to put his faith on me, very discreetly that is. He invites me to do things with his youth group, or his family that always have to do something god-related while their together. He once took me on a canoe trip and they stopped on this little piece of land in the middle of the river to have a communion…a ******** communion! In the middle of a ******** river with crackers and juice and all that jazz. I told him point blank that I would not take part in any of it and promptly walked away to have a gander at some aquatic life, far, far away from their patch of holy land.
The more I think about the more I would much prefer us being friends but he doesn’t want that, because he loves me. But I can’t say the same, because I don’t…however I’m a ******** nice person and can’t tell him that I just want to be friends because then he will slip into depression and crap. But I am SICK of the religion thing. What the hell should I do? I have already told him that I will not change for him and that I don’t appreciate him using religion in every freakin debate I try to have with him. Someone help me for the love of evolution! None of my other religious friends try to push their faith on me, even my best friend and we are at polar opposites when it comes to these things, why should by “boyfriend” be any different?
