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 Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 6:23 pm
Well, I've had my boyfriend for ten months now.
So we talk about sex. possibly having it. Tonight he asked
me if I had climaxed while we were making out. I honestly
couldn't tell him, I don't know what it feels like. He's my first
REAL boyfriend. Also we both want to have sex, but we're afraid
that it'll make things awkward. We're also afriad of the side effects....
I just need a bit of help.
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Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 6:30 pm
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 11:26 am
The best way to start is to talk about it to each other, exactly what you might be worried about, what you can do to not be so worried, what sort of protection you're going to use and stuff like that. If you both aren't able to talk about it openly, then you're not quite ready yet. And hey, if you guys CAN talk about it, I think it would make your relationship stronger! It certainly did for me and my bf. If you do it too soon, without being able to talk about, I think that's when sex starts to ruin a relationship. Not all the time for both cases though.
And from what I've heard, an orgasm is mainly just the contractions of your muscles (not sure which ones sorry) really quickly. I've never had one myself so I wouldn't be able to tell you based on experience.
But yeah... talk about it. Even after, talk about what you liked, what you didn't like if you decide to do it. Communication is one of the strongest parts of a relationship.
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 11:59 am
I would recommend masturbating if you don't already. If you masturbate, you'll learn a lot more about your body. You should know about reproductive anatomy, birth control, pregnancy, and what feels good for you before you ever have sex.
Masturbating can also help you learn about orgasms. Very few people can orgasm just from making out.
Sex really should not make things awkward unless you rush into it. If you feel comfortable and close with someone and ready to have sex with them, sex isn't going to change that.
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