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My grandpa on my dad's side is a preacher and the last time he was talking to our family about God, my mom later told me she wished she could have walked away from the conversation. It kinda made me mad, and in my mind I disagreed with her.

I wouldn't call her a non-believer, but she's either a non-believer or has no idea what Bible things mean.

Every time I read parts of the Bible, or pull out the Bible, my mom gives another semi-stupid look she's kinda not interested in it or I'm kinda dumb.

Worst of all, she goes to church (sometimes).

What do you think the problem with my mom is?

i dont think your mother totally believes in all that Christianity as a whole has to say. something must have happened somewhere back then that has changed her mind. but she knows it does existed. and the simple fact that your grandpa is preaching in her house, preaching something she doesnt believe in, doesnt help. maybe remind her of your beliefs and just open up to her more and eventually she'll open up to you in return.

i hope this helps. it doesnt say much but still i do believe.

Maybe she's just one of the many Christians who hides behind the label and the obvious core beliefs and who doesn't want to take the time or make the effort to read the Bible.

Maybe she's just having trouble about believing in the Bible?
Try praying for her and talking to her going "don't you believe that there's a God? Someone must have created all of us. The Bible can help you believe or help answer some questions. Give it a chance and try reading a bit of it."
See what she says then?
I used to think to myself "religion is a waste of time. I'm just going to live however I want and not let religion get in my way"
I felt as if I was independant but I wasn't a super bad person. I would still do the right thigns and I was happy. I then realized that God is the one that gave me life and so he also gave me happiness smile

Well, what was your grandfather preaching about in particular? Perhaps your mother doesn't agree with his interpretation, or as others have mentioned, resents being preached to in her own home when she doesn't fully accept the doctrine.

I also noticed that you mentioned he was your grandfather on your father's side. To me, this coupled with the statement that "she's either a non-believer or has no idea what Bible things mean" suggest that she may not have been very religious before marrying your father. Maybe she resents her father-in-law telling her what to believe. Going to church, even if not a believer herself, may be a concession of sorts to the family she married into.

I can't say anything for certain without more information, but that's what first comes to mind.



As well intentioned as this response is, I doubt it'd be well-received. The phrasing is just a little condecending, suggesting that it seems absurd she can't comprehend something so simple (although I'm sure you had no intention of implying that). Asking her what she believes personally as Shiroi suggested would be a better approach. As of now, you don't seem to know much at all about what your mother really believes, and you may find the conversation enlightening.