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My personal opinon? Well I won't stop anyone from having an abortion or force them to stay pregnant, I just think abortion is wrong except for a few cases.
There are many options and many places willing to help pregnant woman and poor families and there is also adoption. Some jobs and schools even have daycares and some schools are made just for pregnant woman/teens so I feel there are so many options but most are over looked or people don't even at least think about them before making a final decision. Main problems is some of the systems and health care and they need to seriously be fixed.

Personally I would do all I can to prevent pregnancy (even use EC if I had to and was avible) but once i'm pregnant and it's an embryo or fetus and starts to devolp (I would stop it before the fertilized egg attachs to the uterus) i'll do all I can to take care of myself and the baby and if I feel I don't want it or can't care for it I go with adoption (I would go with the one that would let choose the family I would want to take care of it).

I would only abort if there is an emergency but I would think of all the options first and see what the doctors think and what they can do ( maybe get more then one opinon from other doctors as well if possible).

I'm more personally pro-life I guess you can say. I stayed in this guild cause people seem to understand my reasons more and seem to respect me then people in the pro-choice guild (I left long ago due to the way I was treated).

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I understand why people want to kept it legal (especially if needed due to an serious life and death situtation). I'm not trying to ban it but if there are ways to help limit it that would be good I think.
Though the best thing someone can do is to learn about all the options and think cafefully first before making any life long decisions that one could possibly regret.

Right on. I think you might want to limit abortion a tad more than I do (I want to remove non-life-saving 3rd trimester abortion, and I think that a short waiting period might be a good idea), but we basically agree.

I already think a lot about all the different options of what I would do if I got pregnant (hence this thread). I really don't understand how someone could not fully think out any choice they made after finding out they were pregnant.

I cant say much, honostly, that hasnt been said sofar...other then when then if my mother told me I was had by choice...I'd be horrified and insulted. Thats just me though.

I wasn't planned at all, and it doesn't bother me. Now what would bother me is if my mother ever told me she considered abortion (although it was El Salvador so she didn't have a legal choice, but still). It's never settling to know that at one point in your life, you where like an insect. Where your only protection, was from the one who chose to keep you. Although, this doesn't really apply to me, since my country was pro-life.

My mother once said somethign to me that I'd rather not go into, when I was younger. But, to answer your question...or atleast mabey passify your statement...which ever. I would consider it horri because of how the idea of telling your children that they were chosen seems to trivialize their lives, atleast it does to me. The idea of simply saying "I chose to have you" can make it sound as thouh their life was only let to burn and fluish because it was at a time that was not an inconvinience. It makes it sound as though the idea of your mother at some other point in time choosing not to have you seem more apparent, and far more real. The reason why such words have such an inpact on me is combined with what my mother once said when i was younger and she was angry, and the fact that I latter learned she ws both personaly and politicly pro-choice. Many people would consider themselves blessed. Such a feeling is comparable to greed and selfishness as far as I'm concerned in this situation. "I'm here because my mother chose me, yippy" and never considering their mother could not have chosen them. I'm convinced most dont, as every one I've met who has, is horrified by the thought.

The short answer to this would be: A child chosen is not blessed, but lucky.

Sorry, I didn't mean to seem to pry into something that is so painful and personal to you.

Mothers can be pretty horrible. My mother has told me (more than once, actually) that having children ruined her life (isn't that a wonderful thing to say to your child?).

That makes sense, thank you for answering my question.

I feel differently on the matter, and I have considered the possibility that, since my mother was/is Pro-Choice, that she could have terminated the unborn human that grew into me.

I think it's a little mean to say that a chosen child is not blessed. But I guess I do see the point you are trying to make (that it seems rather odd to you when people are proud of their mothers choosing not to terminate their pregnancies and prevent them from being born).

I'm a little proud of being a planned pregnancy, though. I really want for my kid to know that I had them because I wanted them. But that is just me.