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CaRto0nz

PostPosted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 12:01 am


PPS, I need serious help.
My family is going through really hard times.
To put it in a nutshell, we've known our builder for twelve years.
He built our first house, so we hired him again.
We gave him $170,000 for a down-payment.
Guess what?
He took it and ran.
Now my mom is under huge stress.
She cries on an almost daily-basis.
It's so hard hearing my mom sobbing late at night.
It's so hard seeing her crying in the living-room chair.
It's so hard hearing her talking about how she wants to blow her brains out.
Everyday, I want to tell her about how much I love her.
But I never can.
She's either on the phone with a lawyer, or crying in bed, or at work.
When I do get a spare moment, I chicken out and lock myself in my room.
I wrote a letter for her in one of my notebooks, and I want her to see it.
But I'm also afraid.
I'm afraid of her saying, "That's lovely, now go away."
The only time she wants to talk to me is when she wants a shoulder to cry on.
It hurts my feelings, but I still love her.
She's my mom, and she hasn't totally disowned me yet.
My father has, though.
I can't talk to him without being called names.
I have no clue on what to do about my mother, though.
I want to confront her, but I'm terrified.
What should I do?
Oh, and please no "Oh. Sucks for you." or "Talk to her."
I've tried talking to her.
She ignores me completely, or tells me to go away.
PostPosted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 6:48 am


Um...I'm really not sure how to help you. Sorry...I'd say just take it a little bit at a time though. Just start being around her a bit, and then work your way up to talking about it with her or something. And if she tells you to go away, just go away and come back later.
If that helps any, great, if not, sorry. [school starts tomorrow so my mind's a complete BLANK at everything =P ]

ColorMeGone


Sonic Butterfly

PostPosted: Wed Sep 05, 2007 11:07 am


I hear you calling and it's needles and pins
I want to hurt you just to hear you screaming my name


She probably won't want to hear it, but counseling sounds like a good idea. Group counseling where you can go together and just generally be supportive might be best. Particularly if she's talking about blowing her brains out. >.<

I know there are suicide hotlines, but I don't know what they'd be in your area. It might help if you think she's serious to look one up. If you think she just saying that, then it won't help at all.

All in all, very tricky situation. I hope things work out for you. *hugs*


Don't want to touch you but you're under my skin
I want to taste you but your lips are venomous poison


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PostPosted: Wed Sep 05, 2007 8:11 pm


Sonic Butterfly
I hear you calling and it's needles and pins
I want to hurt you just to hear you screaming my name


She probably won't want to hear it, but counseling sounds like a good idea. Group counseling where you can go together and just generally be supportive might be best. Particularly if she's talking about blowing her brains out. >.<

I know there are suicide hotlines, but I don't know what they'd be in your area. It might help if you think she's serious to look one up. If you think she just saying that, then it won't help at all.

All in all, very tricky situation. I hope things work out for you. *hugs*


Don't want to touch you but you're under my skin
I want to taste you but your lips are venomous poison


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We can't afford it. We can barely afford to pay rent. -_-;;

I'll try to talk to her about it next time she listens.

CaRto0nz


purple_girl_blue

PostPosted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 9:19 pm


When the times right you can tell her that.
PostPosted: Sun Dec 16, 2007 12:40 pm


He destroyed my life...
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You need to show your mum that you don't need money to be happy.
Play little board or card games, show her you have fun doing it.
Try and get her to join in.
There are alot of things you can do without money..
Go on Picnics, go to the park, talk walks in the evening.
And most of all, try and do things as a family.
If your dad is not kind to you tell him that at least for the benifit of your mum he should ease up on you.
When something goes worng, all the tiny bits that go wrong becomne massive. I've been there.
Show your mum things are still fine, try and make her see that you are happier than before.
Even if you are not.
It's hard but your family will feel alot better when you all come out on top of it all.



Now I will destroy him.

Pure Vampyre

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