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 Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 3:47 pm
I'm going to get this out of the way and define "breaking point" now, rather than have Mechanism or someone else do it after ten posts, and change the flow of the debate.
Breaking Point is a band, most notable for the song "One of a Kind", used as the theme for WWE wrestler Rob Van Dam.
A breaking point is also the limit at which any system, including a person's patience, cannot support any more stress on it, and collapses. For reference, I have a very, very accurate quote for me right now.
"That's all I can stands, cuz I can't stands n'more!" - Popeye
Wikiquote is heaven-sent, I tell you.
Now, on to my actual topic. What is the limit at which someone reaches their breaking point?
I'm about to reach mine, I can tell you that. If you've followed my posts recently, you'll know that my former best friend cheated on his ex, and I had to end the relationship because he wouldn't. Since then, I've expressed a desire to annihilate him for being a jackass. His ex made me promise her that I wouldn't hurt him, so I won't.
I have since received a threatening e-mail and phone call from one person. This person is about a month older than me, and knows better, but did it anyway. She was once a friend, but apparently, not anymore. I have called her bluff, and stated that my business is not for other people to solve, and that if anyone wants to make good on the threat, they know where I live, where I work, and when I work. Have fun with that.
I've also been concerned that this person may be telling lies about me to my friends, the ones who are neutral in this. I know I can hold out walking alone in life for some time, even with my g1rlfriend on her way to Japan. What I don't know is how long I can hold out. Eventually, I'll snap. I just don't want to be around anyone when it happens.
How about you? What's your breaking point, or do you not know it? Also, is there any way someone can prevent reaching that point?
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Posted: Fri Aug 05, 2005 1:20 pm
People's breaking points vary throughout their lives. There will always be days when you get frustrated more easily, or days where the world can end and you'll still manage to hang on to your cool somehow.
I don't know my breaking point exactly, but I've become aware of the warning signs/red alerts and so on throughout the years. I found that, once I'm aware of 'hey, I'm getting pissed', I tend to become somewhat more detached to the situation.
That doesn't stop me from being mean or catty in response, maybe, but my brain will immediately inform me of 'hey, saying this will cause that, and if you follow it up with that, they'll be headed for a vulcanic eruption'. As a result, I can usually do some damage control, hehe..
As for preventing someone from reaching that point.. Well, not annoying/provoking them seems like a good place to start, but I imagine that's not quite what you were after..
A few breathing exercises might be of use here?
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Posted: Fri Aug 05, 2005 5:00 pm
A person's breaking point is reached when problems are piled upon them too quickly and too heavily for him to be able to handle it. The only way to prevent the breaking point from happening is to either solve the problems as they come or avoid them all together, neither of which has any guaruntee.
Sorry if this is short; I'm slightly restless this evening.
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Posted: Sat Aug 06, 2005 6:30 pm
Lesidia A person's breaking point is reached when problems are piled upon them too quickly and too heavily for him to be able to handle it. The only way to prevent the breaking point from happening is to either solve the problems as they come or avoid them all together, neither of which has any guaruntee. Sorry if this is short; I'm slightly restless this evening.
A question also came to my mind: once the said "breaking point" is reached, is it possible to recover from it?
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Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2005 5:20 pm
breaking of dawn Lesidia A person's breaking point is reached when problems are piled upon them too quickly and too heavily for him to be able to handle it. The only way to prevent the breaking point from happening is to either solve the problems as they come or avoid them all together, neither of which has any guaruntee. Sorry if this is short; I'm slightly restless this evening.
A question also came to my mind: once the said "breaking point" is reached, is it possible to recover from it? Depending on the person in question, it may or may not be. A determined person is twice as likely to be able to overcome his problems than someone who gives up on everything. the former is also twice as likely not to reach the breaking point altogether, now that I think of it.
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Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2005 6:10 pm
Maze As for preventing someone from reaching that point.. Well, not annoying/provoking them seems like a good place to start, but I imagine that's not quite what you were after.. A few breathing exercises might be of use here? I guess I just needed to realign...
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 4:21 pm
I don't know if you'll buy in to it or not, but maybe some words of advice from a stoic point of view may help.
The only bad things that can happen are things that you do to yourself. If something is out of your control causes something unpleasant to happen to you (your friend spreading rumors) it can only affect you if you let it. If you let it effect you, and you let it upset your calm, and ruin your ability to think rationaly, then and only then has it actually harmed you.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 12:54 pm
a point at which you can't deal with it no more... well then you don't deal or you deal right. you can back out of the situation tell everyone to leave you alone and grow distant or you can keep everything in till it explodes and you can't deal with it internally anymore. you can either back out or deal... it all depends on how you deal with things... you don't have to be civil or nice. some people see there breaking point as when they can't hold the facade any longer.. at that point they may cry or scream or act unseemly but thats just because usually they've been holding it in soo long and not expressing it properly or sometimes at all. i guess it depends on what you consider the point at which you break down... what true breaking is... if it's insanity you're talking about then it's a whole nother issue entirely...
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 9:52 pm
My breaking point can be pretty volatile. Depends a lot on my mood. But, since I'm a really calm guy, you'll rarely see me 'exploding' or yelling out my angst. When I notice I'm starting to get a little pissed, I usually take a deep breath, or even laugh out loud, for no apparent reason. May sound weird, but laughing is still the best medicine wink
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 8:46 pm
I think I've never reached my breaking point. I think of myself as a very happy person, and I try to laugh every time I can. Maybe, as I usually include humor even in the most serious matters, my breaking point doesn't have a chance to manifest.
Anywaym when I really feel I have had enough, I just leave the situation. You know, facing a problem once you have reached your breaking point can be dangerous. Better wait till you cool down and face it later.
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