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That's right...when do you know you're ready for sex?

heh, to be honest, I think about it alot recently >.>;

But, damn!! the guy I love's in another country, so it's crap...'cos, now i have to think "should i be around him for a bit to have sex, even though I may be ready the first or second time we meet?" (first next march, second next september)

it's an awkward subject, i know xD

so, for all you non-virgins...when did you know you're ready?

and for all you virigins, like me, WHEN do you think you'll be ready?

and, do you think it'd be wrong for me to go there the 1st or 2nd time i spend time with my over-sea boyfriend?

i love this guy like crazy already, but we haven't met yet u.u we've known eachother for about 2 and a half years, so when we do meet, it'll be over 3 years...

I guess i'll know when we're together finally, lol whee

Virgin fo' life. talk2hand

The whole having sex jazz sounds pretty disgusting to me. But that's just my personal opinion.

Anywazzz, I wouldn't rush the whole having sex with him thing. I'd wait until you've been with him a lot (in person) and then just go from there.

I do want to have sex at one point in my life, but it seems so scary. D=

Yeah. I guess it'll just happen at some point...It's not like people can tell you how to 'do' it. >.>; Well, they can, but you'll have to do it yourself eventually. xD

Mm... Definetly don't rush into it. I think you guys should spend more time together in real life before you do anything like that. :] No one wants to regret it.

I'd only do it if I was 100% sure I would be okay with it, and no regrets later. And I'd have to love the person alot.

And don't forget ze birth control. >.>

i've got a while to think about it...right now i'm about...75% sure, so, in 7 months i should have a pretty good idea ^^;

yuss, i shall remember xD

There is no such thing as "100% sure".

You will always have a smidge of doubt - and that's not to say it's because it's the wrong decision. It's because doubt is natural when faced with this type of situation. And, you won't know for sure if it was the right decision until after it has been made; sometimes years afterwards.

What you need to know first and foremost is if you're prepared for it. Can you handle what could potentially go wrong? Say you were to become pregnant, do you know what you would do? Would you regret your choice if he left you; be it immediately after the act, or in a year's time? There are some things that need to be thought through before you consider yourself "ready" for sex. Like, another one would be: what kind of birth control would you use? (Don't feel like you have to answer these in the thread - these are just some of the questions you'll have to figure out before you have sex.)

Also, if you feel you're ready to have sex, say, a day after you meet up (not saying it'll happen, but theoretically), don't feel like you have to hold back because society says "it's too soon". If you're both ready, then from that point on what happens is between you two and your doctor - don't worry about what others will think, because it's really none of their business.

With that being said? Know the difference between being ready and being caught up in the moment. The latter is what causes regret.

And, at the same time, if you feel like you're not ready during the first visit, don't let him pressure you, blah blah blah - I'm sure you're smart enough to figure all this out.

Last, but not least, even if you have sex once, it doesn't mean you have to do it again. If you have sex, then figure out that you're still not ready for it, you can say "stop". From there you don't have to have sex again until you know better; and, if he's a decent guy, he'll wait.

If you ever want to PM me with questions, feel free to. Even if your questions are personal, my life is an open book - don't be afraid to ask me anything. I hope I've helped at least a little. smile


And, xeinotsu, if you're a whore, I'd hate to hear what kind of names I'd be called! xd hahaha