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 Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 1:56 pm
Does anyone have have a family memeber that drives them crazy? Do they make fun of you or bash you? How about not treat you like you are human?
In my family that would be my Mom. She bashes my weight all the time. She thinks I'm gay, for I never had a boyfriend and don't talk about boys. She claims I'll never be an actress on Broadway for I'm not skinny enough and could never be. She blames me if something is eaten. I was just blamed for eating a whole thing of cookies, and the funny thing is I didn't eat on. It was my brother, but she loves her lovely son..We are twins, and sometimes I feel I should of been the twin that died or something.
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Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 2:41 pm
My parent tell me im fat everyday and that i should lose weight. The irony is that they are overweight too.
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Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 2:45 pm
Well my family cant really bother me about my weight because we are all on the heavy side.
But my sister when we ever get into an arguement always likes to bring up my weight.
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 1:09 am
Meet my dad's entire family: these people can't stand me. I'm fat, I'm highly intelligent and I don't speak the local Dutch dialect (hey, I'm tri-lingual; give me a break). I used to care a lot about that when I was younger and this group of people can be single-handedly credited for destroying my self esteem. Fortunately I ran into a group of loving friends who've restored the damage done.
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2005 5:00 am
u_u mom isnt some type of Nazi to me, but every now and then she really hurts my feelings.
A few years ago i thought trying to get into a culinary arts school, i love cooking and creating with food. but she told me three things that basically crushed that dream:
-You shouldnt live your life around food/eat to live,dont live to eat
-you have to cook for the people you feed/cater to their tastes.
-culinary arts school is too expensive.
Yet, im basically the only person who cooks in our house(5 or 6 days out of the week,give or take a few eating out). Also, everything i make i ask her to try, and she loves it; I have never used a since recipe unless absolutely nessesary. And mom herself went to the most expensive art school in the south, maybe even on the east coast.(she jokes about owing a house in student loans.)
along with the whole food thing, whenever it comes to me and college, she'll say one thing then claim to give up. Hell, i dont know what the heck im doing when it comes to that subject. i keep telling her that i just need help...whatever.
oh!and the biggest thing. every 10 minutes or so she reminds me to "Think for myself" which is ACTUALLY "you should do what i think you should do, or at least think like me and dont do anything i wouldnt have" sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 6:12 am
Jaded, i think your mother doesnt want you to be better then she is. When children start to grow up, there mothers get a little jeslous of there children becuase they are free. In a since they have there whole life ahead of them. Most of it is because the parents gave up there dreams to have you. Now she may be jealous that you can achieve your dreams and she thinks she cannot use her degree. Most of the times parents lose there idenity (sp) in there children, most children do not understand there parents are people to.. i am rambling. But the thing if you set your mind to it. You Will Be What Ever You Want To Be In Life.
My dad bashes my wieght aswell as his friends, It pisses me off. He is a perveted sex fiend, he was getting pissed mainly because i was covering myself up with baggy cloths for more then my weight. Now he really doesn't have a chance to check me out. GRR i F***king hate him. But he loved my fat brother. Moron. My sisters ex-boyfriend use to ream on me for nothing. He hated me with his entire being. well it was equall. the storys i could tell you but i wont its personal.
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Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 6:55 am
~RedKitten~ Jaded, i think your mother doesnt want you to be better then she is. When children start to grow up, there mothers get a little jeslous of there children becuase they are free. In a since they have there whole life ahead of them. Most of it is because the parents gave up there dreams to have you. Now she may be jealous that you can achieve your dreams and she thinks she cannot use her degree. Most of the times parents lose there idenity (sp) in there children, most children do not understand there parents are people to.. i am rambling. But the thing if you set your mind to it. You Will Be What Ever You Want To Be In Life.
. I know mom has feelings too, and i honestly try not to give her a hard time, but its like every other thing i do isnt right. sad I hate being stuck in the middle and able to see both sides of an argument. Say, me handling most of the household chores and stuff.( mom basically expects me to have dinner ready and the house clean every day when she gets hom from work) i understand that i have to help with the chores, and that she's tired after work, but theres somedays when i just fall asleep without washing the dinner dishes(although i've kept the kitchen sparkling all day) and she'll walk right by and not even look at the mess, then rag on me in the morning about not cleaning it. sometimes i worry about what mom and my little brother are going to do when i go to college...
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Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 7:19 am
While my whole family likes to bash each other in a joking way my dad does it in a more cruel fashion to both put you down while building up his giant ego without regard of anyone else's feelings. Yet when you give him a taste of his own medicine he throws a childish fit & won't speak to you for a few days until my mother pesters me to apoligize for stating the obvious to his face.
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Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 10:25 am
I kinda have 2 people that do it......they dont really try to be mean about it, it just comes out sounding mean
my grandma does it all the time, but she always tells us that we need to loose wieght, and my older sister who is the skinny pretty one outta the 3 siblings....she is always hugging on us or doing something like holding up small clothing.....stuff like that......URRGG
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Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 2:01 pm
I have a wonderful family, and I appreciate it more everytime I read about other families.
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Posted: Thu Aug 04, 2005 2:07 pm
Ahahah. My mom is that family member as well. But she doesn't bash my weight, she bashes me on the whole, because I don't have her 180 IQ and aren't a music/academic/dance genius. I could never get into Juliard or Yale(Both of which she got full paid scholarships to) and I think she hates me for it. I'm a high school dropout and a mediocre.. everything. I'm not the perfect first child she hoped for, and she brings me down for it.
Oh well. Can't win em all.
Edit: Anyone else having apostrophe problems? When I post, they come up doubled, sometimes quadrupled. O_o
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Posted: Tue Aug 09, 2005 10:56 pm
Shampoo_0405 Does anyone have have a family memeber that drives them crazy? Do they make fun of you or bash you? How about not treat you like you are human? In my family that would be my Mom. She bashes my weight all the time. She thinks I'm gay, for I never had a boyfriend and don't talk about boys. She claims I'll never be an actress on Broadway for I'm not skinny enough and could never be. She blames me if something is eaten. I was just blamed for eating a whole thing of cookies, and the funny thing is I didn't eat on. It was my brother, but she loves her lovely son..We are twins, and sometimes I feel I should of been the twin that died or something. My mom is terrible. I feel like I can't eat around her. She is always pulling me off to the side and telling me to lose weight, that I will die of heart attack at 20, that I eat like a pregnant women, things like that. When she took me shopping for a homecoming dress, she was there with me in the dressing room, and I tried on a dress I had liked, but it had fit wierd, and was too tight, it clung to my roll, She looked at me and said, " See, if you weren't so fat, then you could were what ever you want." She is constantly getting on to me, telling me I eat to much, when I only have two meals and one snack a day. She is also overwight, the only reason she is a size twelve right now is because she was on diet pills for like a year, and only ate one meal a day and only drank water. rolleyes Recently, she went clothes nazi on me because she doesn't like the way I dress. Now, I can only wear what she approves, she cleared out half my wardrobe. She is constantly taking away my clothes and wearing them, I never see them again... SHe is constantly harrassing me about my bust size, calls me double d, other things like that , things that really embarrass me.
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 4:58 am
Jesus_vs_Godzilla She is constantly getting on to me, telling me I eat to much, when I only have two meals and one snack a day. I know not everyone here is trying to lose weight, and I respect that. But one of the whole misconceptions about eating is that eating fewer times per day will make you thinner/healthier/whatever, when actually starving yourself all day and then (probably) eating more than you should at those two meals will have most of those calories stored as fat. It's healthier to eat smaller meals more often. Like.. 4-6 times per day, each meal coming out to around 300-400 calories. But anyway... My stepdad used to always call me fat and lazy and tell me to get off my computer and go do something. I used to hate it so much. But then I went to the gym. Hated it, but he was soooo proud of me, I went again... and again. Then I started reading up on how to lift weights and eat right and stuff and now I'm totally obsessed, 78 pounds thinner and wanting to be a fitness trainer. I'm far from skinny still, but I'm just working on being healthy. Now my stepdad never comments on my weight, everytime he sees me on the computer he either lets it go, or says I deserve the break. I don't assume that everyone would agree with me, but I'm much happier being healthy than I was before. So what I'm trying to say, is maybe your parents are just trying to help you? They're obviously going about it the wrong way, but if you made an effort to improve your lifestyle and stuff, maybe they'd notice and be nicer about it. But anyway...
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 6:06 am
I think odds are that your mom is lambasting you because she's extremely insecure about her own weight. The saying goes "When a mother's cold she puts a sweater on her child." What you need to do is assert your independance, your right to live your life and regulate your body and wear your clothes however you want to as a sane girl with above-room-temperature IQ. If that doesn't work, threaten to stuff your face with cake in front of her until she lays off.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 10:17 am
my family doesn't really bother me about it. we laugh about i'm a slightly smaller version of my mom, and our butts match. We turn around and look exactly alike 3nodding xd . My friend Rebecca shows like barely any intresets in boys, but she isn't gay at all. She's a twig, but not a sever one, she's atleast 20 pounds over her limit, which is good.
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