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 Posted: Tue Jul 31, 2007 9:41 am
The Problem
My friends want to go to college together off to California. And at first I wanted to go there because I want to go to Stanford U. So since it the last two weeks of summer before junior year I was looking up colleges and I noticed that Stanford is easier to go to for Grad School ( I want to be President but I am starting off with lawyer). So I want to go to One of the Ivy League Colleges on the East Coast but I don't know how to tell them that I won't see them for 4 years. (The have real issues about seperation and all) I think that my decision for a better education should be put higher than them (I know it sounds selfish but I always told them I was not sure) and I would ask them to come with me but their grades are not good enough and they just like making the minimum effort. I like to excel above and beyond. I want a good education and accomplish my dream (Or come pretty close to it since I have had in the 3rd Grade), but I don't wanna ruin a friendship. And I know the saying "If they were really your friends they would understand". But I can't apply that to this because of past issues. I wanna keep my friends but how if I am gonna be on the other half of the country for 4 year
Questions
1) Should I take the higher education over my friends?
2) How would I break it to them if I did?
3) Is there still time to pull up their grades so they can come with me?
4) Or will I just have to tell my friends to deal with the fact that we can't always be together?
5) Or should I just go ahead and try applying at Stanford for Undergrad and do Grad there also? (I don't know if I can but it is on my list for consideration)
*O and I am relying on all scholarships to get me up to those schools*
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Posted: Tue Jul 31, 2007 9:53 am
I say go with the school you want. After the four years are up you can always move back and be with them.
I kind of know what you're going through, this is the year I have to decide on what school I have to go to. I haven't told my friends I want to move, I want to move in with my brother because I want to go to the University near there.
They'll understand, they must know you're smart, you've grown up with them right? They want you to do your best.
As for them pulling up their grades. It'll take a lot of work, and if they do decide to do it. Will they be able to keep them up once they're in the school? Is there a school that they can go to and that is in their grade level that is near by the one you want to go to? Just do a little research for them.
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Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 12:28 pm
Questions
1) Should I take the higher education over my friends?
Most definitely. You will make new friends in new schools, and also, nothing says that you can't stay in touch with them.
Friends aren't always for life... college educations are.
2) How would I break it to them if I did?
Just tell them why you're doing it. Tell them, "Look, I love you all and I really don't want to go somewhere by myself, but when it comes to college, this is a decision that affects the rest of my life, and would also affect any future family as well."
3) Is there still time to pull up their grades so they can come with me?
That's up to them, not you. And we can't tell you, because we don't know your school, their grades, and whatnot.
4) Or will I just have to tell my friends to deal with the fact that we can't always be together?
Kind of, yes.
I was the first to leave my group. We were all in Colorado.
I moved to Georgia to be with my husband who's in the Navy, and now we've moved to Washington.
Now one of my friends is also Navy and she's in Virginia, and two of my other friends got married, the guy is Army, and they're in Tennessee.
However, we all still talk almost on a daily basis, and when someone's going back to Colorado, all of us try our best to get out there at the same time too.
5) Or should I just go ahead and try applying at Stanford for Undergrad and do Grad there also? (I don't know if I can but it is on my list for consideration)
Don't make ANY decisions based on your friends. I know that sounds cruel, but you need to be thinking about you and you only right now. Also, remember you'll make new friends, and people change in college.
Wouldn't it suck to alter your life for these people and then have a falling out?
*O and I am relying on all scholarships to get me up to those schools*
That's AWESOME, btw.
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Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 1:44 am
go with the higher education! if their good freidns then they should understand. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 8:24 pm
I just have one question: Are these friends going to pay for you to go to school? Are they going to pay your bills? Okay that was 2 questions but yeah, just something to think about.
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