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 Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2007 7:35 pm
I think i might come out to my parents.
I know it will change a lot.
they'll question my relationship with girls... but i can manage that.
They might just think its a phase.
Oh well then.
I know they probably won't hate me... but they might not agree with it.
They don't believe in bisexuality.
So i'm kind of mixed up because i REALLY don't want to deal with the drama (my parents have the most amazing ability to over do EVERY situation)
so yeah.
hmm.
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EDIT
ok. well i wake up and i'm about ready to go out and play some tennis (with myself, i can't get a partner in any aspect of my life razz )
And my mom come up and wants to ask me a personal question.
She asks me if i like girls...
I don't answer. i'm shocked. Like i said i wanted to WAIT till i was ready to tell my parents.
she says that its a parents right to know.
i say i wasn't at all ready to tell her.
So she asks me if i'm gay.
and i say no.
she asks me if i'm bi
and i don't answer... yet again i'm frustrated at my not-readiness
She asks me if i'm confused.
I shake my head no.
So i'm Bi... yes. I am.
do you want to see someone to figure it out?
not really.
so you're not confused?
hahaha no.
then i gave her a schpeel about the "love has no sexuality" thing and i tihnk she gets it.
but i was SOOOO not ready.
i'm...
I don't even know how i feel.
i'm kind of angry actually.
i dunno.
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Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2007 5:56 pm
I'm glad I'm in a relatively good environment parent-wise. I mean we're so open, we talk about masturbation and how to give HJs, it's amazing.
However.
Bisexuality was...erm...isn't accepted here yet. My parents know I "think I am" bi and mom says if I bring home "Jack or Jill to Thanksgiving", they won't mind.
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Posted: Sun Mar 18, 2007 6:14 pm
thats hella cool i know some families like that.
i wish my family was like that sometimes...
I tihnk thats what my parents will be like...
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Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 7:30 am
SubHumanRemains do you want to see someone to figure it out?
As for your mom figuring it out, that must have been awkward. But I prefer that over a big "coming out" mega-dramatic episode. I hate how people "come out" usually. I just either bring it up accidentally or someone asks me. Idk, according to my friend, I walk like a bisexual. -shrug-
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Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 7:33 am
SubHumanRemains thats hella cool i know some families like that. i wish my family was like that sometimes... I tihnk thats what my parents will be like...
I'm finally allowed to date girls. So duh I get a gf. My mom was like "You weren't supposed to get one that fast." I was all, huh? So apparently I was supposed to wait until college ANYWAY. scream I hate when people expect you to do what they want even when they say do what you want.
So I reminded her of the Jack/Jill thing, she said "I didn't mean that literally! Do you really want your Grandpa and aunts to see that? I don't know if he could take it right now."
So yeah. I feel good. cry
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Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 7:49 pm
yeha right now they just don't want me to express my sexuality until after high school because "high school is about having fun, not trying to find yourself."
which...
goes against everything i've heard about high school. THey just don't want high school to be some big horrible experience because of discrimination.
i already get a ton of s**t at school i don't think this is gonna change anything.
*shrugs* oh well.
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Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 10:08 pm
Funny, I just came out to dad last June. Like, three weeks ago. He was okay with it. We didn't talk about it. After a few days, he got over it.
I know this isn't going to help, but...I thought I was bi, too, at one point. Though...now I only like guys, sexually. I don't think I was wrong, when people ask me, I just say "It was part of my path to where I am now". And that's the truth.
Love and Vale,
-LD
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Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 9:30 pm
That kind of happened to me, but my mom wasn't so blunt. We were talking casually in the car about....I don't remember, something about someone who I thought might be gay, and she said, "Well, what do you think you are?" and I didn't really want to lie, plus she sort of took me bi surprise, so I said that technically, I would be bi-curious, and then, just what I wished wouldn't happen; she just got quiet for the rest of the ride. I talked a little to fill the silence, but she hasn't said a word about it since. She hasn't been cold or anything, she told me months ago that if I was gay, she wouldn't mind, but it was still really awkward. I don't think I was ready to tell her yet. She probably hasn't said anything to my dad. I don't know what he'd do. Not anything like shun me, but he's just not the kind of person you talk about stuff like that with. But maybe she's forgotten. I'm not bringing it up again, in any case. Here is the only place that I can actually say stuff like "I'm thinking about dragging a little". It's nice, but it would be nicer if there were people like that in real life.....*sigh*....eventually.....
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Posted: Sun Jun 22, 2008 5:16 pm
Funnily enough, I came out to my parents about a half an hour ago. I'm not even kidding. This was the first thing I went to once I got on the computer, the GGSA. It was extremely awkward at first, but I think I lucked out with the whole parents thing. They were a lot more accepting then I thought they'd be.Things'll definitely be different from now on, but I think I'll be okay.
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Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 9:05 am
the best thing i can recommend is to not yell it in the middle of an argument. Just as a lesson i learned, it leads to awkward times.
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Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 9:17 am
Yeah, just saying it in normal tones is awkward enough. I still don't think my parents have gotten over the shock of it.
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Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 3:20 pm
Ellie the Fiddler Yeah, just saying it in normal tones is awkward enough. I still don't think my parents have gotten over the shock of it. True, no matter the volume, it's still a shock to some people.
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Posted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 10:36 pm
I kind of love how this thread was dead for about a year and all of a sudden it's really popular now. Heh.
I doubt yelling about it would solve anything.
I was gonna come try and find a place to post this stuff, so I guess this is as good a place as any...
I dunno what I'd do if I was coming out as ~anything. Like, the only thing I have to come out as now is, well, really confused. Which, logically, couldn't be too surprising, considering I've never gone out with a guy or been like "omgwtfbbqsauce I love guys".. I've been thinking about it and I think I'd have to say I think I'm attracted more to guys physically (not ~physically, ya know, just as what they look like *coughhaircough*[=) (I like girls' bodies, but I don't really feel an ~attraction I can identify to them), and to girls more mentally/emotionally; and to nobody sexually. From what I can tell. Of course, these statements are not without exceptions, save for the last one, up to this point.
Ahaha. Anyway, I just got back from Montreal, I went with my mom, and I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm...not straight. Ahaha. Wouldn't she like to know. Well, for a while now, a good couple months, she's been saying really subtle things, not hinting anything really, but just things like asking what I would think/do if a girl said she liked me and things like that. So we were at this pretty nice restaurant (great place to talk about this stuff, right?) and she starts out with how we have to talk about my cutting (different story ... / smile and once I've sort of gotten that discussion to peter out/get away from the major issues - out of the blue, she asks me if I like guys.
Just like...[/color]
Mom: Do you like boys?
Me: *jump/spaz inside* ...I don't know...
Mom: Do you want a boyfriend?
Me: *eyes should be widening, averting gaze/looking down at this point* ...I don't know...
Mom: Do you like girls?
Me: *twitch* ...I don't know...
Mom: Do you want a girlfriend?
Me: *quite uncomfortable in the current situation by now* I dunno...
Well, I'm not completely sure if that's the ~exact wording, but it's pretty damn close if it isn't. Not like she was accusing me of anything - she just said it, pretty much completely at random, with no prompting or introduction. I wasn't sure I was ready to even acknowledge that I'm questioning it, wasn't planning on telling her/anyone else on my own anytime soon, so I considered answering "Yeah, of course" or something to that nature to the first question, but I figured my mom would be pretty sympathetic and easygoing at that point, so it would be a good time to at least introduce her to the idea that I might not know, 'cause the whole understanding-mood thing doesn't come that often and if I find out what I am then it might come as less of a surprise/shock...not that I think she'd be all that surprised. It'd be my dad who I'd have to worry about if anyone, 'cause he'd probably be all "omgwtfbbqsauce" if I told him I was anything but straight. 'Course, I can't really be sure, 'cause he's not exactly supportive of the gay community/lifestyle, but then again before he found out for sure I was cutting he basically told me that he thought only psychos and freaks would do that to themselves, but I don't think he would say that now that he knows. Once he did say something about it being really hard for a parent to learn that their kid is gay, but that's about it. Meh... at least now I know my mom wouldn't freak out too much if I told her I wasn't straight. It was a very, very awkward situation/conversation though, then she sort of looked at me and pondered for a short while after.. *blinkes*
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