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I always wanted my girl to be a virgin because I held mine for her. I want it to be a learning experience for the both of us. some thing special we can both relate to.

or some thing like that >.<


edited by the head of the CIA: s**t my typing need to get better.

I also think that most guys want their girlfriend to be a virgin because then the girl won't know what "good" sex is if he is bad at it. A lot of men seem to put a lot of their egoes into sex, and I find it very sad about how selfish it is for some guys who will only try and please a woman because it strokes THEIR egos.

However, for me, it was really important to be with a virgin guy because I wanted to train him to do what I like. Most guys with lots of experience have gotten it into their heads that "they know" what every girl likes. But that's stupid. Everyone has different wants. I didn't want to be sitting there having my boyfriend twisting my nipples and pulling on my vaginal lips because "every other girl" he did it with seemed to like it.

It is rare but not impossible.

I once had a boyfriend like that. He NEVER brought up sex. Never talked about it, never suggested it, never even hinted at it. The only time we had discussions about sex was when I really layed into the subject. And I'm not even that interested! It's something that needs to be talked about if you're in a seriously relationship and you think sex may become a part of it. There are some that are really open about sex and others aren't. Your boyfriend is probably pretty closed about the topic of sex, but would most likely be okay talking with you about it if you brought it up, but don't push it, as he may not feel comfortable talking about sex.

i say hes just scared to ask u. so why dont u just jump his boes?

Every human being, male or female, has a libido. Every human being wants sex, and every human being while dating secretly -- and later not so secretly -- dreams of ripping his or her partner's clothes off. I personally concentrate on love, not sex, and I have a pretty low sex drive. It will probably accelerate when I become sexually active, but that's the way it is right now. I will not bring up sex to my girlfriend until we're COMPLETELY comfortable around one another. The reason is, I want her and am enchanted with her personality and I don't want to jeopardize what I have with her to get laid. It's just too much a risk. Keep in mind that sex changes everything and it's totally possible for a healthy relationship to fall apart if sex is used improperly. However, I fantasize about my girlfriend all the time, and honestly, though at this point she might be a bit put off by the details, as a woman she definitely would not have it any other way. She wants a man, not a eunuch. And I sure as hell am not a eunuch.

While sex may be used for any number of reasons, the true purpose of human sexuality is revealed when a person feels so much love for another person that it is no longer possible to express it in human words. I have never been in love for the right reasons before, and in my case I know I feel this way because I am absolutely and utterly horrified that she might leave me, no matter how well I treat her. Having experienced her affection, I do not want anyone else, ever, and I do not want to be alone.

Needless to say, if your boyfriend feels similarly, he may well be afraid of bringing it up because if done incorrectly it'll scare the s**t out of you. Also, and MUCH more importantly, sex expressed in this manner has very serious ethical implications. Very serious. By telling your partner you love them this much, you create the expectation that they love you back just as much, and therefore this can easily degenerate into a tactic the man uses to elicit sex from the female, or vice versa. This is EXACTLY how my awful ex-girlfriend got me to have sex with her. She professed to love me, (she didn't,) until eventually I had to say I loved her. I did not want to sleep with her, but I ended up doing it. Being with my wonderful girlfriend, I feel so sorry that I cannot someday lose my virginity to her. And I'll be DAMNED -- DAMNED -- if I ever even catch myself thinking of doing that to her, even unwittingly. BECAUSE I care for her, I do not want to bring up the true reason I want to sleep with her, because honestly, she probably doesn't feel that way yet. And it's gotta be her choice, not mine. So, as you can see, an ethical man takes the question of sex very seriously because it is serious. If your boyfriend truly loves you, which I hope he does, he will take it no less seriously.

So, in my personal case, I would be much more comfortable with the girl bringing up sex, than bringing it up myself. Other than the reasons I've already mentioned, this is also because as a guy I must contend with the societal image that I want her just for sex, and I simply will not risk that. I will only bring it up if we've been together for a very long time and it had not been discussed yet, but we're talking like 3-4 months from now. So, my advice is, go to your boyfriend, and bring it up in private. Don't be brash or bold, but rather a bit timid and quiet. Do it like that deliberately. If he seems at all uncomfortable with this conversation, back off. If it seems like he wants to discuss it, then by all means discuss it. I strongly suspect he will want to discuss it. Even if he doesn't discuss it right then and there, this will very directly plant the thought in his head that his girlfriend wants sex. After that, his hormones will kick in and drive him crazy, and he'll probably come to you soon thereafter. If he doesn't, honestly, he's not like any guy I've ever met, and I've met MANY guys in my life.

*The only exception to what I am talking about is a guy who has decided to wait until he's married, but a person who maintains abstinence in that manner is much more open about it than a person who wants sex. I am almost certain that if he wanted to wait till marriage he would have mentioned it by now.

Personally I don't think I would bring up the topic of sex, because many girls where i use to live (the ones that weren't whores) thought when a guy asked them he was trying to rush the relationship and only wanted to have sex.

The sterotype that all guys think bout sex isnt always true. Many guys are asexual and dont care. Or, they respect you and dont act a horny dog.

It's always easier to discuss it with your partner.