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 Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 12:03 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 1:01 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 2:36 pm
Probably not the best person to try cheering someone up, especially given the vagueness of the situation. But I'll try anyway.
I'd suggest just going out for walks at night, especially if you're not living in a city. Pure night skys are absolutely beautiful and the cool fresh air is rather relaxing, and they both tend to help with depression from personal experience. Not to mention it'll at least change your habits a little bit, assuming those few things are really all you do, which is also good for getting rid of depression.
I'll assume you've already tried to appolgise for your mistaken offences toward the unnamed person, in which case just give them time to cool off. If they don't see that it was a mistake there was likely a problem in the relationship anyway and that just brought it to the surface to get it done and over with.
I really can't offer much advice about the work thing, though perhaps you're trying too hard? Perhaps you could take some time to try talking about your work related problems to your boss, if you haven't already.
And perhaps that person won't notice or care if you killed yourself, but on the other hand everyone here would notice and care and there's still the possibility that he just needs time to clear his head before the mistake is clear to him in which case you'd make him suffer.
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Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 3:04 pm
Eusis Landale Probably not the best person to try cheering someone up, especially given the vagueness of the situation. But I'll try anyway.
I'd suggest just going out for walks at night, especially if you're not living in a city. Pure night skys are absolutely beautiful and the cool fresh air is rather relaxing, and they both tend to help with depression from personal experience. Not to mention it'll at least change your habits a little bit, assuming those few things are really all you do, which is also good for getting rid of depression.
I'll assume you've already tried to appolgise for your mistaken offences toward the unnamed person, in which case just give them time to cool off. If they don't see that it was a mistake there was likely a problem in the relationship anyway and that just brought it to the surface to get it done and over with.
I really can't offer much advice about the work thing, though perhaps you're trying too hard? Perhaps you could take some time to try talking about your work related problems to your boss, if you haven't already.
And perhaps that person won't notice or care if you killed yourself, but on the other hand everyone here would notice and care and there's still the possibility that he just needs time to clear his head before the mistake is clear to him in which case you'd make him suffer. Well, I don't live in the city, but there's darned street lights in town. My parents also don't let me go out alone in the dark. =/ I have appologized, and he says he's not mad. He's just been very busy lately with some of his mates. That's cool.. but I wish he'd take an hour to spend with me, or send me an email or something. Little things like that, since I expect nothing in return for my work, blow me away and make me as happy as a clam. Maybe I am trying too hard. My bosses know I'm under alot of stress because I've broken down crying twice at work in the past week. Sadly, I have to work for the next 4 days straight... but I'm working so I can get to him. So I can go see him. Not working makes me upset because I won't get money to go, but working just makes me upset because it's so stressful. Either way, I get upset. It doesn't help that no one here supports me, and I have to raise all of the money myself. I don't want him to suffer, but I want him to notice that he's hurting me, and it's not fair that I'm working so hard, and not receiving anything in return.
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Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 3:58 pm
[.SamusAran.] Well, I don't live in the city, but there's darned street lights in town. My parents also don't let me go out alone in the dark. =/ I have appologized, and he says he's not mad. He's just been very busy lately with some of his mates. That's cool.. but I wish he'd take an hour to spend with me, or send me an email or something. Little things like that, since I expect nothing in return for my work, blow me away and make me as happy as a clam. Maybe I am trying too hard. My bosses know I'm under alot of stress because I've broken down crying twice at work in the past week. Sadly, I have to work for the next 4 days straight... but I'm working so I can get to him. So I can go see him. Not working makes me upset because I won't get money to go, but working just makes me upset because it's so stressful. Either way, I get upset. It doesn't help that no one here supports me, and I have to raise all of the money myself. I don't want him to suffer, but I want him to notice that he's hurting me, and it's not fair that I'm working so hard, and not receiving anything in return.
I'd assume you've already let him know that; Right?
I see. I'd see if he actually wants you around. If not ease up on the work and try to relax, if he does keep what's coming up in mind not the present s**t.
What do you mean by here by the way? Around your home, or us here in the guild? If it were the home thing, I could understand the extra stress. Were it the guild thing, I'm certain that those of us who could help would if you asked.
Again, I'd assume you've tried letting him know that?
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Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 4:20 pm
Eusis Landale [.SamusAran.] Well, I don't live in the city, but there's darned street lights in town. My parents also don't let me go out alone in the dark. =/ I have appologized, and he says he's not mad. He's just been very busy lately with some of his mates. That's cool.. but I wish he'd take an hour to spend with me, or send me an email or something. Little things like that, since I expect nothing in return for my work, blow me away and make me as happy as a clam. Maybe I am trying too hard. My bosses know I'm under alot of stress because I've broken down crying twice at work in the past week. Sadly, I have to work for the next 4 days straight... but I'm working so I can get to him. So I can go see him. Not working makes me upset because I won't get money to go, but working just makes me upset because it's so stressful. Either way, I get upset. It doesn't help that no one here supports me, and I have to raise all of the money myself. I don't want him to suffer, but I want him to notice that he's hurting me, and it's not fair that I'm working so hard, and not receiving anything in return.
I'd assume you've already let him know that; Right?
I see. I'd see if he actually wants you around. If not ease up on the work and try to relax, if he does keep what's coming up in mind not the present s**t.
What do you mean by here by the way? Around your home, or us here in the guild? If it were the home thing, I could understand the extra stress. Were it the guild thing, I'm certain that those of us who could help would if you asked.
Again, I'd assume you've tried letting him know that?Yeah, he should know by now that it's the little things, that I never expect, that take 5 minutes, that make me so happy. I always tell him it's little things like that. Yeah, he wants me around. He's said that he'd love it, and I've always wanted to visit the country he lives in. It's my heritage. So why wait when I can go now when I have a tourguide and a place to stay? I'm trying to take advantage of that, while also getting to spend time with my best friend =D I mean here, as in at home. I have a foster sister, who's gone through a lot that also just moved in.. but my Mother has never wanted me to go. She's affraid the terrorists will get me =/ He doesn't live in Irac. Cheese whiz. She's agreed that I can go if I pay for everything, and do all the work (Ie./ getting a travel agent, which I have already, and getting papers filed and such), and if she has the right to stop me if there's lots of terrorist activity going on when I'm going to leave. Fine. That's a pretty good deal. I can handle that. She's letting me fly across the world. Yeah, he knows how much he's hurting me, and has asked how to fix it. Everytime I've said, "Just make an effort to talk to me!" but he's never actually tried to do so D= He's been so busy lately, but you'd think he could spend a little bit of time with me =(
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 5:31 pm
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