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 Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 12:38 pm
How do you think people react to it? I accidentally bowed to my friend/ next-door neighbour once; she looked at me really funny and went, 'Hey, we're not in Japan.' So it was kind of embarrassing.
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Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 2:16 pm
Only on occasion someone will make a remark... like "Are you...bowing?"
I don't find it embarassing, but it is kind of silly.
The other day I was out to dinner with my father's boss, who's Korean and had stayed in Japan for quite a while. When I thanked him for dinner I bowed, and he couldn't help but laught at me-- he noticed my urges to bow when meeting him and the other men they worked with in their office. XD
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Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 6:55 pm
Considering I don't truely dress lolita, I'm still pretty terrible when it comes to manners.
If I'm not on a regular basis with you I keap my nice attitude, please and thank yous, but if you're a friend I wont think twice about yelling and doing whatever I care.
I'm so lovely.
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Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 7:01 pm
I curtsy, I think it's prettier for girls than bowing.
Plus I'm so used to it from ballet. We curtsy to our teachers, we curtsy to eachother, and we curtsy like crazy while the audience applauds. Now it's rubbed off, sometimes I'll curtsy to random people I've just met.
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Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 12:32 am
I bow a lot, half the time I dont even now I'm doing it. I have pretty good manners and I'm pretty polite when the time calls for it. But my posture is pretty horrible sweatdrop I really have to think about sitting or standing up straight.
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Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 3:08 am
LolitaBallerina I curtsy, I think it's prettier for girls than bowing. Plus I'm so used to it from ballet. We curtsy to our teachers, we curtsy to eachother, and we curtsy like crazy while the audience applauds. Now it's rubbed off, sometimes I'll curtsy to random people I've just met. *squee* That brings up some fond childhood dreams. 3nodding Ballerinas are indeed cute as they curtsey, and I guess my liking of the manner comes from there. And would fit loli thanks to sort-of same silhouette and no fear of your dress touching ground.
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Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 4:35 pm
KitsunekoChan LolitaBallerina I curtsy, I think it's prettier for girls than bowing. Plus I'm so used to it from ballet. We curtsy to our teachers, we curtsy to eachother, and we curtsy like crazy while the audience applauds. Now it's rubbed off, sometimes I'll curtsy to random people I've just met. *squee* That brings up some fond childhood dreams. 3nodding Ballerinas are indeed cute as they curtsey, and I guess my liking of the manner comes from there. And would fit loli thanks to sort-of same silhouette and no fear of your dress touching ground. Yes I've just realized that some of the ballet etiquette works for lolis.
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Posted: Fri Jul 28, 2006 1:42 pm
KitsunekoChan I came across a G&L Bible article on manners that many of you might have seen. One thing in particular felt awkward to me: bowing. Now, I understand that it's the standard and that women bow differently, but I nevertheless view it as a masculine thing to do.
I curtsey, and have practiced it for several reasons, the biggest one being that I mostly wear dresses that cover my ankles = look bad as I bow. Sometimes I do the little-girl-ish bent of knees, but to be formal (aristocratic! biggrin ) I use the "court curtsey" as my mother calls is, moving my other foot back a bit with the knee bent and bowing my upper body slightly.
Also, I try to research on my local manners rather than borrowing from the Japanese and blend the Victorian influence in. My region and language for example have nice oddities such as Swedish words and ways to adress people (Jack Smith becomes Smith's Jack, "teitittely" which is basicly a more polite form of speaking to someone).
I simply don't want to stop being a Finnish girl even if I wear dresses and victorian blouses - after all, it's not roleplay for me, but a way I like to dress in.
Your thoughts on all this? What kind of manners do you use? Have you considered the locality vs. Japanese/Victorian thing at all? Do you bow or curtsey?
Kitsu ish curious~ :3 Many of the things a lolita must do, are habits I already have naturally. I bow whenever I talk to someone new (Such as the customers that come into my store). It's a sign of respect and submission. I curtsey but only when appropriate, which is not terribly often. I'm also naturally pigeon toed. I also speak in a very polite manner unless I'm with very close friends or family, and not in public. "Thank you ever so much" and "Oh my, I am terribly sorry" and what not.
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Posted: Sat Jul 29, 2006 7:54 am
I'm more into the habit of bowing, it's just something I've been doing for a long time. I did use to take ballet when I was younger and curtsied when meeting someone. I suppose I should cutsey more though since the dresses I have are a bit short.. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Aug 14, 2006 4:01 am
I can't imagine myself bowing to people I've just met, I'd be escorted off to the nearest loony bin around here! I don't see why you should have to follow something just because Lolita wearers in Japan would do it; Finland (or, in my case, the UK) is a different society and you have to bear that in mind.
Personally I just try to be very polite and not too forward upon meeting people - just in line with what you'd traditionally expect from a British girl rather than something that people in my area would just perceive as really odd. Lol.
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Posted: Fri Aug 18, 2006 8:26 pm
ahaha...I just came from Japan, so I'm still in the habit of bowing to everyone I see. ^_^;; But I usually bow my head a little when I meet new people anyways. It's just the way I was brought up. xD
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Posted: Sat Aug 19, 2006 1:40 am
I love to bow, and I love Japan and their culture. I'm sure that's all quite commonplace on here though. I'm sure it's probably because of my exposure to different things but I much prefer a cute feminin bow over a curtsey. As for manners in general, the more formal and the more they are used the better in my humble opinion.
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Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 8:02 pm
I agree, that perhaps bowing should be just if you're in Japan. ^_^
When I meet somebody at any time, I usually nod my head and smile, with a slight bend at the waist. I have no idea where that came from, but it works! 3nodding
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