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Kaamhw rolled 20 10-sided dice:
10, 6, 4, 3, 2, 6, 7, 2, 9, 4, 5, 6, 8, 2, 2, 8, 8, 6, 8, 2
Total: 108 (20-200)
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 Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 5:49 am
I am a bi. There is this girl that I like. She likes me too. We were going to date in secret cause she didn't want her mom to find out and her friends to find out about her being bi. Then I sent her a note here on gaia. Her mom had caught her on it and read the note. Her mom told her that she couldn't date me and that she didn't want her likeing girls like that. We sill like each other.
What should I do?
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Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 6:23 am
Your best course of action is to not try to sneak around your mom. No matter how much it sucks, no matter how much it seems unfair, you have to build up her trust. You don't necessarily have to go on "dates" with your friend. Try to arrange group events, such as movies and whatnot so you can spend time with her then. Eventually, maybe your mom will feel comfortable enough to let her come over to your house. Once your mom gets to know this girl, she may see that she's a normal person, and might not object as much.
Generally, people don't like what they don't understand. Your goal is for your mom to understand you and your friend.
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Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 6:55 am
Soleq Your best course of action is to not try to sneak around your mom. No matter how much it sucks, no matter how much it seems unfair, you have to build up her trust. You don't necessarily have to go on "dates" with your friend. Try to arrange group events, such as movies and whatnot so you can spend time with her then. Eventually, maybe your mom will feel comfortable enough to let her come over to your house. Once your mom gets to know this girl, she may see that she's a normal person, and might not object as much. Generally, people don't like what they don't understand. Your goal is for your mom to understand you and your friend. Well that would work burt she is moving soon
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Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 2:51 pm
If she's moving, then I understand the need for urgency. Okay, so the bottom line is this: if you're absolutely sure that your mom won't find out, then by all means try to spend time with her. I guess you should really ask yourself what your true intentions are. If it's for a long-lasting relationship, then her moving away will be a small hiccup. If your intentions are purely physical, then well, you best be acting soon.
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Posted: Mon Apr 17, 2006 9:49 pm
how far is she moving? i was ina situation similar to this except the mom never actually found out, she just suspected. but we just did group things with other friends and would kinda slip away and hang out together for a while then we would go chill with our other friends. itll work out, but you still need to build your/her moms trust so you can hang out with just eachother eventually 3nodding
hope it helps sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 9:09 am
-noddles- For the time that you can be with her try and do so. Be with her as much as you can XD what I did when my girlfriend was her we mostly cuddled XD but yea be with her untill she leaves and when she does confert her and help her and what not. >.< that's what I'm doing though it sucks... Kills me every day the fact that i can't kiss her but... yea... ^_^ in the end it's all worth it
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Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 2:25 pm
Thanks eceryone for the help. But I think I am just going to give up on this. Cause all it does is make me cry
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Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 3:53 pm
Kaamh Thanks eceryone for the help. But I think I am just going to give up on this. Cause all it does is make me cry
Give up to easy on love... Love will start to back away from you
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Posted: Wed Apr 19, 2006 5:08 am
Iternal Dragon Kaamh Thanks eceryone for the help. But I think I am just going to give up on this. Cause all it does is make me cry
Give up to easy on love... Love will start to back away from youYeah but it is not like she wants to be hind her mom's back. She isn't allowed to even hang out with me out side of school
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Posted: Wed Apr 19, 2006 3:19 pm
That's really too bad to hear. Sometimes things just aren't meant to be. Of course, the promise of the future is always a positive thing.
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Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2006 3:51 am
Seems like I got here a little late didn't I? but giving up isn't the end of the world ((even though it's never a good thing)) but you will find another one day. This other will be worthy of your heart ^w^
EdIT: I'm not saying she's not worthy -.-; lol. I'm simply saying that if she's not willing to try for a relationship you shouldn't strain yourself for one with her either. but one day you'll find someone you like that'll do anything to be with you
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Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2006 9:01 am
Kaamh Iternal Dragon Kaamh Thanks eceryone for the help. But I think I am just going to give up on this. Cause all it does is make me cry
Give up to easy on love... Love will start to back away from youYeah but it is not like she wants to be hind her mom's back. She isn't allowed to even hang out with me out side of school
Spend every moment that you can with her treasure it like if th ere is no tomorow.
o.O dono if i'm kind of making my self clear.
I did that actually, i date behind my perents back biggrin it was teh best thing in the world
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 1:52 pm
Well, I guess if you like the person you like the person... no one can tell you to not like someone, no matter how hard the person may try. The thing is it is her mom and I'm sure she doesn't want her mom to lose trust of her. I say that you guys should stay friends. When your older and your parents aren't in control than you will know what to do. You will have the freedom to be you, for right now your still growing there is still a lot to learn. So don't do anything harsh, like sneaking, trust me, it doesn't get you anywhere. Infact sneaking around behind parents backs is what really can screw up a relationship (emotionally) when your younger. when you hit 18 than you have your own freedom... if that makes sense.. but I'm sure age doesn't matter because you still shouldn't sneak around, essentially you have to figure out what is most important to you than you will know what to do.
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Posted: Mon May 08, 2006 8:20 am
try to explain to your mom that it is your choice who you date, and she should respect you even if she does not agree with same sex relationships. she isn't going to give in easy, so u have to stick with it
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