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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2016 12:42 pm

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A job would be fabulous. I would love to meet people through work.

But. Again, Lville is very very sad. It used to have a big icehouse that like ran the town. It is now in shambles and very overgrown. People here are farmers. There's also a bunch of car factories here.
Those are all the jobs available. There's subway and McDonald's. And the ONLY place to go is Walmart.
The closest slightly bigger little town is 20 minutes away. It has a movie theater, bigger Walmart, a few more fast food places, a Lowes, a Koles, a very small JCPenny and Joanne's. Also a Rural King--pet stuff, pet food, tubs of little cute babies like chicks and ducks, and a bunch of equipment for people who like outside. You're allowed to bring in dogs as long as they do what you say or are leashed. They've had become bunnies in there too.
A buuunch of land is used for farming. I've seen a toooooon of soybean and corn fields. People grown pumpkins too. Fall is fun. I love watching pumpkins get bigger and bigger when we drive by.

We stay here because it's where mom grew up and Bruce-dad was a very emotionalally, verbally and psychologically abusive man to both of us especially. We think he's autistic-can't invade us here.--family surrounds us.
Mom adores it here. She can relax and just be retired here.

I, on the other hand, am very very unhappy here. I need a bigger little place and more people and stuff to go do. I like to go out. Moms happy coming home and staying. I'm absolutely not.
My disability is well handled here. But my social needs are overflowing with desperation.-why I was so giddy about pen pals-
I really think we're both done here.
This place is very very republican and conservative and Christian. And we've both had enough of it.
Our social needs are very opposite and our perfect living space is quite opposite too.
I'm living like a retired introvert!! Not what I want at all. But that's what my mom wants.

No one here measures up to me or us. Selfish it may be, but I'm no farmer or factory worker. There's no way I could do those jobs. I am not suited to them.
Nobody here knows a damn thing about health or Wieght loss. Nobody cares about their body.
Mom and I travel, these people WILL NOT LEAVE. And don't know anything but where they live.
Sorry. I've just realized I've been ranting.
I can't take it anymore, but I don't make that choice.
There's no one I want as a friend here. My relatives are great and nice. But they're kinda fundamental Christians too.
Much less a boyfriend.

Maybe you need to sit with your mom and discuss this all.. be open to the fact that she will say no but in order to prove you are an adult you have to have adult conversations

yes. This is true. But I know that I'll cry and scream and curse and just be horrible.
And even with all I say, I will not get my point across.

Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2016 12:45 pm

Green_crayon42

Melena Rai

Green_crayon42

Melena Rai

A job would be fabulous. I would love to meet people through work.

But. Again, Lville is very very sad. It used to have a big icehouse that like ran the town. It is now in shambles and very overgrown. People here are farmers. There's also a bunch of car factories here.
Those are all the jobs available. There's subway and McDonald's. And the ONLY place to go is Walmart.
The closest slightly bigger little town is 20 minutes away. It has a movie theater, bigger Walmart, a few more fast food places, a Lowes, a Koles, a very small JCPenny and Joanne's. Also a Rural King--pet stuff, pet food, tubs of little cute babies like chicks and ducks, and a bunch of equipment for people who like outside. You're allowed to bring in dogs as long as they do what you say or are leashed. They've had become bunnies in there too.
A buuunch of land is used for farming. I've seen a toooooon of soybean and corn fields. People grown pumpkins too. Fall is fun. I love watching pumpkins get bigger and bigger when we drive by.

We stay here because it's where mom grew up and Bruce-dad was a very emotionalally, verbally and psychologically abusive man to both of us especially. We think he's autistic-can't invade us here.--family surrounds us.
Mom adores it here. She can relax and just be retired here.

I, on the other hand, am very very unhappy here. I need a bigger little place and more people and stuff to go do. I like to go out. Moms happy coming home and staying. I'm absolutely not.
My disability is well handled here. But my social needs are overflowing with desperation.-why I was so giddy about pen pals-
I really think we're both done here.
This place is very very republican and conservative and Christian. And we've both had enough of it.
Our social needs are very opposite and our perfect living space is quite opposite too.
I'm living like a retired introvert!! Not what I want at all. But that's what my mom wants.

No one here measures up to me or us. Selfish it may be, but I'm no farmer or factory worker. There's no way I could do those jobs. I am not suited to them.
Nobody here knows a damn thing about health or Wieght loss. Nobody cares about their body.
Mom and I travel, these people WILL NOT LEAVE. And don't know anything but where they live.
Sorry. I've just realized I've been ranting.
I can't take it anymore, but I don't make that choice.
There's no one I want as a friend here. My relatives are great and nice. But they're kinda fundamental Christians too.
Much less a boyfriend.

Maybe you need to sit with your mom and discuss this all.. be open to the fact that she will say no but in order to prove you are an adult you have to have adult conversations

yes. This is true. But I know that I'll cry and scream and curse and just be horrible.
And even with all I say, I will not get my point across.

this is the mission you need to work on and in a peaceful manner for her to take you seriously

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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2016 12:51 pm

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A job would be fabulous. I would love to meet people through work.

But. Again, Lville is very very sad. It used to have a big icehouse that like ran the town. It is now in shambles and very overgrown. People here are farmers. There's also a bunch of car factories here.
Those are all the jobs available. There's subway and McDonald's. And the ONLY place to go is Walmart.
The closest slightly bigger little town is 20 minutes away. It has a movie theater, bigger Walmart, a few more fast food places, a Lowes, a Koles, a very small JCPenny and Joanne's. Also a Rural King--pet stuff, pet food, tubs of little cute babies like chicks and ducks, and a bunch of equipment for people who like outside. You're allowed to bring in dogs as long as they do what you say or are leashed. They've had become bunnies in there too.
A buuunch of land is used for farming. I've seen a toooooon of soybean and corn fields. People grown pumpkins too. Fall is fun. I love watching pumpkins get bigger and bigger when we drive by.

We stay here because it's where mom grew up and Bruce-dad was a very emotionalally, verbally and psychologically abusive man to both of us especially. We think he's autistic-can't invade us here.--family surrounds us.
Mom adores it here. She can relax and just be retired here.

I, on the other hand, am very very unhappy here. I need a bigger little place and more people and stuff to go do. I like to go out. Moms happy coming home and staying. I'm absolutely not.
My disability is well handled here. But my social needs are overflowing with desperation.-why I was so giddy about pen pals-
I really think we're both done here.
This place is very very republican and conservative and Christian. And we've both had enough of it.
Our social needs are very opposite and our perfect living space is quite opposite too.
I'm living like a retired introvert!! Not what I want at all. But that's what my mom wants.

No one here measures up to me or us. Selfish it may be, but I'm no farmer or factory worker. There's no way I could do those jobs. I am not suited to them.
Nobody here knows a damn thing about health or Wieght loss. Nobody cares about their body.
Mom and I travel, these people WILL NOT LEAVE. And don't know anything but where they live.
Sorry. I've just realized I've been ranting.
I can't take it anymore, but I don't make that choice.
There's no one I want as a friend here. My relatives are great and nice. But they're kinda fundamental Christians too.
Much less a boyfriend.

Maybe you need to sit with your mom and discuss this all.. be open to the fact that she will say no but in order to prove you are an adult you have to have adult conversations

yes. This is true. But I know that I'll cry and scream and curse and just be horrible.
And even with all I say, I will not get my point across.

this is the mission you need to work on and in a peaceful manner for her to take you seriously

But can I do it as an adult? I don't know.

Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2016 7:35 pm

Green_crayon42

But can I do it as an adult? I don't know.

Sorry to butt in on the conversation, but it sounds like you know what it is you do and don't like. If you want to approach your mother in a calm manner, maybe write down bullet points or a small speech or something that you can reference/read off of when you talk to her? You're pretty good at explaining what it is that's bothering you through text, so if you have a hard time saying it in person, just write it down and revise it before you talk to her.

Just a thought, of course if you don't feel emotionally stable to do this, you don't want to force yourself, either.

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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2016 7:37 pm

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But can I do it as an adult? I don't know.

Sorry to butt in on the conversation, but it sounds like you know what it is you do and don't like. If you want to approach your mother in a calm manner, maybe write down bullet points or a small speech or something that you can reference/read off of when you talk to her? You're pretty good at explaining what it is that's bothering you through text, so if you have a hard time saying it in person, just write it down and revise it before you talk to her.

Just a thought, of course if you don't feel emotionally stable to do this, you don't want to force yourself, either.

never thought of that. Thanks.

Posted: Mon Jul 04, 2016 7:50 am

iMayl

I think that sometimes the person we need is being strengthened and needs time to grow as themselves before fate puts us together so that it can be a beautiful and ripened relationship. And when the time comes where that person comes along, he will take you on whether it's the hardest season in your disability or hardest mood swings you've ever given (; But you can't speak doubt into your life! Speak life over your relationships every day! <3

ps. I feel the same way with some of my health issues. you're not alone haha.

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