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 Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2013 2:20 pm
If we're talking about the children here.
I believe children don't have to pay for their parents mess ups.
God is merciful enough that if the mother has mended her errors and learned from her lesson she can raise a God fearing child who doesn't have to follow the parent's foot steps.
He/she has the same opportunity to be saved just as well as a child born within a marriage.
We are all illegitimate [out of wedlock] before we come to God in the first place, Hebrews 12:8
So I don't think it's our place to judge those children.
Remember that we are not saved because of who we are from birth; rather, we are saved because of who we become at the new birth. John 1:12 v(❁´◡`❁)
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Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2013 4:34 pm
Most of my opinions are already shared in here, no need to repeat them smile
One other thing I did think of though is this: How do we know that the teenager with a baby in public isn't babysitting for an older sibling, a friend of the family, a neighbor..etc, that happens a lot to, not every teen that has a baby with them is the mother, in some cases I've even seen it be a younger sibling if the parents had a large gap between kids. It's not something we can tell by looking at someone.
I sadly grew up in an area where the fun thing to do on weekends was drink, drugs, and sex. Maybe because we are in the middle of nowhere and would have to drive an hour away to find somewhere to have fun. I abstained from that when I was in high school as unpopular as that was. Many f my classmates had babies before they graduated, or shortly thereafter, and I know many of them regretted it happening, however they didn't regret the actions that lead to it, just the result, which I find to be the sad part.
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2013 5:12 pm
Iam WhoIAm I sadly grew up in an area where the fun thing to do on weekends was drink, drugs, and sex. Maybe because we are in the middle of nowhere and would have to drive an hour away to find somewhere to have fun. I abstained from that when I was in high school as unpopular as that was. Many f my classmates had babies before they graduated, or shortly thereafter, and I know many of them regretted it happening, however they didn't regret the actions that lead to it, just the result, which I find to be the sad part. I know some people that think like that too, it's so sad and there's really not much you can do, except wait and let life teach them a thing or two about parenthood. Eventually they learn there is no going back and accept their children as the best thing hat ever happened to them.
Lol, I also end up reuniting with old friends who have kids and they try to teach me a thing or two about waiting and not having kids right now...lol, I didn't end up pregnant and I don't have kids for a reason..I already knew back then what they're trying to "teach" me now.
Yeah...I was never either that popular either. xd
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2013 6:07 pm
SinfulGuillotine It always matters if a couple gets married, whether they're both virgins on their wedding day or not. Marriage is one of the most profound commitments you can make to another person, second perhaps only to having a child. So even if you're the most wanton slut since the whore of Babylon, your marriage still matters, and is still important, and those vows should still be taken extremely seriously. However, marriage does not negate any past sexual sins you may have committed, which I think is what you're driving at. Marriage doesn't wash the slate clean, and you still need to find forgiveness and peace regarding any past indiscretions. But that doesn't mean that marriage "doesn't matter" unless you're a virgin. Yeah, that is part of what I meant. I also mean, uh, that having a child..should not..force people to marry simply for that reason. That's why I typed marriage was not important, but I did not know how to express that. Then some people marry for legal reasons, but that's another matter. As for the children, I don't think there's anything wrong with them if they were born like that. Their births are still blessing from the Lord.
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2013 8:32 pm
Green_Fuu Iam WhoIAm I sadly grew up in an area where the fun thing to do on weekends was drink, drugs, and sex. Maybe because we are in the middle of nowhere and would have to drive an hour away to find somewhere to have fun. I abstained from that when I was in high school as unpopular as that was. Many f my classmates had babies before they graduated, or shortly thereafter, and I know many of them regretted it happening, however they didn't regret the actions that lead to it, just the result, which I find to be the sad part. I know some people that think like that too, it's so sad and there's really not much you can do, except wait and let life teach them a thing or two about parenthood. Eventually they learn there is no going back and accept their children as the best thing hat ever happened to them.
Lol, I also end up reuniting with old friends who have kids and they try to teach me a thing or two about waiting and not having kids right now...lol, I didn't end up pregnant and I don't have kids for a reason..I already knew back then what they're trying to "teach" me now.
Yeah...I was never either that popular either. xd I've experienced the same thing, they tell me wait till you're married, and I'm like umm I already am, but thanks for the heads up lol
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Posted: Sat Feb 02, 2013 3:38 pm
Iam WhoIAm Green_Fuu Iam WhoIAm I sadly grew up in an area where the fun thing to do on weekends was drink, drugs, and sex. Maybe because we are in the middle of nowhere and would have to drive an hour away to find somewhere to have fun. I abstained from that when I was in high school as unpopular as that was. Many f my classmates had babies before they graduated, or shortly thereafter, and I know many of them regretted it happening, however they didn't regret the actions that lead to it, just the result, which I find to be the sad part. I know some people that think like that too, it's so sad and there's really not much you can do, except wait and let life teach them a thing or two about parenthood. Eventually they learn there is no going back and accept their children as the best thing hat ever happened to them.
Lol, I also end up reuniting with old friends who have kids and they try to teach me a thing or two about waiting and not having kids right now...lol, I didn't end up pregnant and I don't have kids for a reason..I already knew back then what they're trying to "teach" me now.
Yeah...I was never either that popular either. xd I've experienced the same thing, they tell me wait till you're married, and I'm like umm I already am, but thanks for the heads up lol Lol, yeah, which goes to show there's both sides of the coin, people judge single mothers/young mother as promiscuous, but then they in return also judge people who didn't get pregnant while teenagers as naive/uninformed/stuck up....and I'm just generalizing of course not everyone thinks like this.
Oh eem Gee~ where's the quote in your sig from??
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Posted: Sat Feb 02, 2013 9:06 pm
Green_Fuu Iam WhoIAm Green_Fuu Iam WhoIAm I sadly grew up in an area where the fun thing to do on weekends was drink, drugs, and sex. Maybe because we are in the middle of nowhere and would have to drive an hour away to find somewhere to have fun. I abstained from that when I was in high school as unpopular as that was. Many f my classmates had babies before they graduated, or shortly thereafter, and I know many of them regretted it happening, however they didn't regret the actions that lead to it, just the result, which I find to be the sad part. I know some people that think like that too, it's so sad and there's really not much you can do, except wait and let life teach them a thing or two about parenthood. Eventually they learn there is no going back and accept their children as the best thing hat ever happened to them.
Lol, I also end up reuniting with old friends who have kids and they try to teach me a thing or two about waiting and not having kids right now...lol, I didn't end up pregnant and I don't have kids for a reason..I already knew back then what they're trying to "teach" me now.
Yeah...I was never either that popular either. xd I've experienced the same thing, they tell me wait till you're married, and I'm like umm I already am, but thanks for the heads up lol Lol, yeah, which goes to show there's both sides of the coin, people judge single mothers/young mother as promiscuous, but then they in return also judge people who didn't get pregnant while teenagers as naive/uninformed/stuck up....and I'm just generalizing of course not everyone thinks like this.
Oh eem Gee~ where's the quote in your sig from?? The first one, the poem? I got it off of a shirt I used to have, it was in an hourglass outline, I outgrew and outwore the shirt, but I copied down the words because I liked them so much, I"m not sure where it's origin is though
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2013 12:51 am
Iam WhoIAm The first one, the poem? I got it off of a shirt I used to have, it was in an hourglass outline, I outgrew and outwore the shirt, but I copied down the words because I liked them so much, I"m not sure where it's origin is though Oh cool. I'm gonna steal it, and post it all over my f status. . . twisted
Look at me being bad stealing people's...stuff <_<
anyways, on with the topic.
Sorry for the interruption.
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2013 1:50 pm
Servant Reborn SinfulGuillotine It always matters if a couple gets married, whether they're both virgins on their wedding day or not. Marriage is one of the most profound commitments you can make to another person, second perhaps only to having a child. So even if you're the most wanton slut since the whore of Babylon, your marriage still matters, and is still important, and those vows should still be taken extremely seriously. However, marriage does not negate any past sexual sins you may have committed, which I think is what you're driving at. Marriage doesn't wash the slate clean, and you still need to find forgiveness and peace regarding any past indiscretions. But that doesn't mean that marriage "doesn't matter" unless you're a virgin. Yeah, that is part of what I meant. I also mean, uh, that having a child..should not..force people to marry simply for that reason. That's why I typed marriage was not important, but I did not know how to express that. Then some people marry for legal reasons, but that's another matter. As for the children, I don't think there's anything wrong with them if they were born like that. Their births are still blessing from the Lord. Ah, okay, I understand your point now, and I agree. Sorry for the confusion. smile
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2013 6:11 pm
God is my strength... "Psalms 28:7"
I got pregnant at 17 years old after the first time having sex. It's something I never wanted to happen and actually the day I found out I also set up an appointment to have an abortion. I figured if no one found out besides myself and my then boyfriend (now ex husband) I could go through with it. I couldn't hold it in any long and told my mom, who was also 17 when she got pregnant with my oldest brother. She helped me see I could never go through with an abortion because it is in fact murder. But I was truly angry at God. I thought it was all his fault and I told him he better not give me a girl... come on, seriously... I told God what to do, HA! But I continued in my anger until I found out I was having a girl. It hit me like a ton of bricks that though I sinned, I was having placed in my care, a completely innocent helpless child who needed to be raised in the knowledge of the Lord. My attitude quickly changed and I was grateful for the gift I was being given. I rededicated my life to Christ. And I am doing my best to raise my now 5 1/2 year old daughter in the fear and nurture of the Lord.
I honestly can say with all that is within me, if it wasn't for the amazing grace of God and the many people he gave me as family, I wouldn't be nearly close to where I am today. I believe it takes a village to raise a child. Now that her father is barely in her life, and when he is his influence is damaging, my family has rallied around myself and her even more. I have a wonderful father who loves her as his own, 2 brothers who do everything in their power to make sure she lacks nothing, a sister who acts very much like a sister to my own daughter, and my mother who guides me in her wisdom and knowledge and experience when I tend to be too immature and unseasoned about situations.
...God is my joy "Psalms 96:11-13"
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