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 Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2012 6:56 pm
I don't know whats wrong with me, I'm usually a logical person but recently I've been feeling weird. I like kids but I'm 19. I don't have a stable home and I have a part time job that barely pays yet recently I can't stop thinking about being a mom and getting pregnant, I want this. I realize it makes no sense and I'm not acting on it but I would like to know why I feel this way and why I'm thinking this way. I have my whole life ahead of me so it makes no sense but I just want to know if this is a phase, if it goes away and if not what's wrong with me?
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2012 7:27 pm
There is nothing wrong with you. We are essentially built to breed. Our brains are hardwired to be sexual, to find babies cute, to want to have a child, etc. Obviously there is a lot of variety when it comes to exactly how strongly each individual person feels those sexual and parental urges. But the point is that those urges are normal. They're nothing to feel weird about, and they're not a problem as long as people don't act on those urges before they're ready and as long as they don't pop out a bunch of kids that they (and the environment) can't handle (environmentalists usually recommend having two or fewer).
So go ahead and want it. Feel free to read baby books, take a child development class, do some research, pick out names, start saving for the day, and all that good stuff if you want to (and as long as you don't think it would tempt you more!). Just keep being realistic at the same time. Don't act on that urge until you're really ready and can give your baby everything he deserves. There is no rush.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2012 1:22 pm
I am in the same boat as you. I have wanted kids since I was 19, and I'm 25 now. I think about it every day. My boyfriend and I are in a position to have kids but we have some unresolved issues that still need to be worked out, and we also have no money for kids right now either.
Lorien gave some really good alternatives to being a parent, and I agree with her post. If you ever want someone to talk to about it, feel free to message me.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2012 9:10 pm
Been there and got over it. Then I found out I was pregnant, haha.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2012 9:27 pm
I was in that boat too, I wanted kids sooo freakin bad. Then I worked in a day care setting taking care of 3 months to crazy 2's Ah, best birth control ever!
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2012 11:36 pm
Everyone is right.. Nothing wrong with this, it is natural.. But I have a possible cure for you to put those feelings at bay. Work at a school like I do.. You'll see every side of a kid, you never could imagine being possible. And some of those kids.. oh man, their parents just amplify a child's power over a teacher.. by doing nothing to correct their child's behavior.
Made me as of right now to disregard having kids and seriously diminished my interest in a relationship that could result in a child being spawned.
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Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2012 7:08 am
Working in schools and day cares made me want kids even more!
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