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 Posted: Fri Dec 23, 2011 11:15 pm
I'm a female. I'm an adult. I'm bisexual.
Ok so I like my literal best friend. I've know her for a really long time, and we are obviously close. As the title states: I'm in love with her. I know she's bi too but I have no clue how to tell her that I have feelings for her. I don't want to creep her out and ruin our relationship; but won't keeping it a secret ruin our relationship anyway?
What should I do? I'm freaking out a bit here because she's like family. I have no clue what I'd do without her.
Advice/Help please?
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2011 7:27 am
id say the best way to approach her with it is possibly to give her subtle hints about it and wait to see if she gets the idea. if that doesnt work, the one other way i can think of at the moment is simply to be honest about it. tell her how you feel and if she feels weird about it than just tell her you wanted to be honest with her about your feelings, im sure if shes an understand person and if you both mean so much to each other, than such a thing wouldnt come between you as best friends.
or take the very same approach, only with a question, as if to say "so i had a strange thought recently, would you feel weird if i told you that i liked you, considering the fact that we're both bi and have been best friends for so long" but play it off as if its like a simple game of 21 questions or... somethen! or more like... whats one of the strangest questions you might ask your best friend, even though thats not a game, lol.
point being, try to make it subtle or seemingly random & not all too much of a serious question but more of a... what if, perhaps!
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2011 7:59 am
I had the exact same problem, except I'm in highschool xp Anyways, I can say that I know exactly how you feel. What I did was I just pulled my friend over to the side one day and talked to her, laid everything out onto the table. I'd say that this is the best approach, because beating around the bush sometimes causes problems. Just say something like, "Hey, I'v been thinking about this for a really long time and I have to tell you that I'm in love with you." Or 'that I like you' or 'that I have feelings for you'. However you want to word it, it all adds up to the same thing.
If she's as good as a friend as you say and she's known you for a long time, chances are she already knows how you feel, or at least has a vague impression, and is just waiting for you to speak up. That's what happened with my friend and me. There are things about your affection that you can't really hide, and good friends pick up on that. And if she doesn't feel the same way, I doubt that your relationship will be ruined. You'v been friends too long for developing feelings to come in the way of that.
In conclusion, just be confident about your approach, say things as straightforwards as possible and try not to freak out about it too much. I guarantee that everything will turn out alright, as long as you don't panic ^^
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2011 9:27 am
JJmonkeychic In conclusion, just be confident about your approach, say things as straightforwards as possible and try not to freak out about it too much. I guarantee that everything will turn out alright, as long as you don't panic ^^ VS yuni wulf -- Alpha Angel point being, try to make it subtle or seemingly random & not all too much of a serious question but more of a... what if, perhaps! Ok, I like both of your ideas.. I think I'm use a little bit of both. I think I need to work up the courage to tell her straight out so I will ask her subtly the next time I crash at her place or visa versa; but immediately after that lay it all out on the table. I just hope your right and it won't break up our relationship. (: heart blaugh 4laugh Thank you so much for helping me. You don't even know how much this helped..
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