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Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2011 1:17 am

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This is my situation. I've just scored an amazing job doing barista/small buissness mangement. But as well as acquiring this, I've also met a really amazing guy. From my own perception of things, I feel like we have great chemistry, I think he's well fit, we've both been brutally honest with our likes/dislikes and they all line up in a row except for a few things which makes it so that I can still have constuctive coversation with him. Not just agree on things.

I would desire, ultimately, a serious realationship with him but I'm a bit at loss to pursue it on some angles and this is where I need some advice!
+I don't want to come off too eager, like I just want to score, so I'm trying to lead the horse to water, body language that I'm interested. For example, I'm still new so I don't know where everything is, when I go to ask him where something is I also touch his shoulder or arm. Also, when I catch him looking at me I smile and carry one, not making a big deal out of it but making sure I know he knows I don't mind it. Am I playing it right?
+Trying my hardest to be seen as female and not as a friend.
+Workplace realationship? Is it a good idea? (It's not my only job btw.)
+I'm a mature 18 year old, he's a goofy/nerdy 24 year old.
-Or should I just stop being a coward and ask to have a causal one/one drink somewhere?

Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2011 8:17 pm

I would suggest that you start by taking him on a friendly outing alone before you go on a "date." Invite him to a place to sort of hang out or maybe get a bite to eat. See how it progresses from there. If he doesn't give any signs that he'll ask to be in a relationship, you can ask him if he'd like to make it a more serious relationship. I also don't think your work type would provide much reason to not be in a relationship with him.

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Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2011 11:57 pm

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I would suggest that you start by taking him on a friendly outing alone before you go on a "date." Invite him to a place to sort of hang out or maybe get a bite to eat. See how it progresses from there. If he doesn't give any signs that he'll ask to be in a relationship, you can ask him if he'd like to make it a more serious relationship. I also don't think your work type would provide much reason to not be in a relationship with him.

Cheers for answering. But, his girlfriend came into work today. I'm not the type of girl to steal or cheat so I'm moving on. :
It all makes for a good story though I suppose.

Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2011 7:35 am

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I would suggest that you start by taking him on a friendly outing alone before you go on a "date." Invite him to a place to sort of hang out or maybe get a bite to eat. See how it progresses from there. If he doesn't give any signs that he'll ask to be in a relationship, you can ask him if he'd like to make it a more serious relationship. I also don't think your work type would provide much reason to not be in a relationship with him.

Cheers for answering. But, his girlfriend came into work today. I'm not the type of girl to steal or cheat so I'm moving on. :
It all makes for a good story though I suppose.

Jeez, that sure is an awkward moment and a half. Don't worry, you'll find the right guy someday.

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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2011 7:50 am

If you're his boss, you can get in trouble for having a relationship with him. It's up to you. If you really like him then go ahead and just ask him out, don't pussyfoot about. You have no idea just how hard it is for a good guy to get hold of a good woman. If he's goofy/nerdy like you say, then he probably won't ask you out until a few years later, take it from me, I'm also goofy and nerdy. There's more, but I think this should be fine for now.

Never mind.

Posted: Thu Dec 15, 2011 1:05 am

I was going to say...

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I wouldnt go for a someone six years older than you. Personal experience shows where that leads is never usually a good place. Since I know of a very many people who do it, however, it seems to be the norm.

But I digress. If you think what you have is good, then by all means pursue it, its your life. If anything just be yourself, if you can laugh and joke with him as well as make engaging conversation already, no use changing your game plan. Maybe get to know him a bit more (I dont know how long you've been acquainted) and once your pretty friendly with each other, asking him for a drink or dinner for example wont seem so scary.

Dunno how much this helps, but honestly time is best in relationships, in every aspect. Trust me.

So it could help in the future I guess. Sorry about your luck.

Stay wicked and hope for them to break up? biggrin sweatdrop

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Posted: Thu Dec 15, 2011 11:50 pm

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I was going to say...

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PERSONALLY

I wouldnt go for a someone six years older than you. Personal experience shows where that leads is never usually a good place. Since I know of a very many people who do it, however, it seems to be the norm.

But I digress. If you think what you have is good, then by all means pursue it, its your life. If anything just be yourself, if you can laugh and joke with him as well as make engaging conversation already, no use changing your game plan. Maybe get to know him a bit more (I dont know how long you've been acquainted) and once your pretty friendly with each other, asking him for a drink or dinner for example wont seem so scary.

Dunno how much this helps, but honestly time is best in relationships, in every aspect. Trust me.

So it could help in the future I guess. Sorry about your luck.

Stay wicked and hope for them to break up? biggrin sweatdrop

I will and thanks a bunch for posting anyway, I appreicate it. But I wouldn't wish ill on him, bad karma and no one deserves that.

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If you're his boss, you can get in trouble for having a relationship with him. It's up to you. If you really like him then go ahead and just ask him out, don't pussyfoot about. You have no idea just how hard it is for a good guy to get hold of a good woman. If he's goofy/nerdy like you say, then he probably won't ask you out until a few years later, take it from me, I'm also goofy and nerdy. There's more, but I think this should be fine for now.

Never mind.

Thankyou anyway for the advice heart

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