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 Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2011 11:18 am
There´s a friend of mine, named Ricardo, which is my best friend, I know him for almost 12 years (I´m 16 now). Well I´m straight but he is gay. Anyway, my parents discovered that and have forbidden me to talk with him and even, go to his house or he coming to my house and stay here after school (thing that we used to do, every day, we used to study and go to our volleyball classes together). He´s like a brother to me and I don´t wanna lose him. What do you think I´m supposed to do? I really need some help.
P.S.:my parents are extremly homophobic, especially my dad.
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2011 3:55 pm
Have him get a gaia or something else and chat with him online and be friends that way still. Just don't let your parents find out that you talking to him. It must suck having parents who are homophobic. My parents are cool with me being friends with them.
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2011 4:16 pm
Crazy_Evil_Mother7 Have him get a gaia or something else and chat with him online and be friends that way still. Just don't let your parents find out that you talking to him. It must suck having parents who are homophobic. My parents are cool with me being friends with them. That's a great! I wish my parents were cool about my friends. I'll invite him.
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2011 8:25 pm
GabrielVilela Crazy_Evil_Mother7 Have him get a gaia or something else and chat with him online and be friends that way still. Just don't let your parents find out that you talking to him. It must suck having parents who are homophobic. My parents are cool with me being friends with them. That's a great! I wish my parents were cool about my friends. I'll invite him. Yeah, then you guys can still be friends and talk and your parents wont know who the person really is.
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2011 9:02 pm
or talk to your parents,tell them that you want to hang out with your buddy...and if they say no,go with the person above me's idea :3
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 12:05 am
The best I can think of is that you try to convince your parents that there's nothing wrong with gay people. I realize that's extremely difficult, but they don't have a right to tell you to stop talking to someone because of their orientation.
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 12:14 am
could try and tell them how important he is to you.......all else fails, yeah take it online
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 12:36 am
Good Luck, and best wishes.
Parents should not come between you and your friends.
It's strange that since you two have known each other for twelve years, that your parents are so crazy about it.
Either way, show him Gaia, new faces are always appreciated.
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 1:13 am
Again you'd think the 12 years would mean they trust him but I guess not. *sigh* Anyway yeah your best bet is here unless you wanna come up with some sort of crazy scheme to change their opinion. x3
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 1:28 am
You've been friends that long so they obviously know him... What's the big deal? You're total okay with it...
You may want to explain to them what horrible people their being and ask them how they would react if it were you in that situation instead of him.
Your friend was brave enough to come out and he's going to go through so much and probably already has, he doesn't need to loose a good friend too.
It may be hard to have that kind of quiet conversation with your parents, so approach your Mom (the less phobic of the two) about talking with both of them about it, explain that you want your chance to try and change their minds about him.
((In the big discussion you may have to explain that being gay isn't some contagious disease but someone's nature. You can't choose wither or not to be gay, you either are or not.))
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 9:44 am
Sango Misaki You've been friends that long so they obviously know him... What's the big deal? You're total okay with it... You may want to explain to them what horrible people their being and ask them how they would react if it were you in that situation instead of him. Your friend was brave enough to come out and he's going to go through so much and probably already has, he doesn't need to loose a good friend too. It may be hard to have that kind of quiet conversation with your parents, so approach your Mom (the less phobic of the two) about talking with both of them about it, explain that you want your chance to try and change their minds about him. ((In the big discussion you may have to explain that being gay isn't some contagious disease but someone's nature. You can't choose wither or not to be gay, you either are or not.)) My parents know him and I know him too, he´s like a brother for me, I love him! Today we´ve talked at school and I´ve invited him to play Gaia Online, he said we should check it out, but if playing Gaia would help us to stay together, he would play it. I´m going to talk with mom about this, they can´t force me to do things! They can´t decide who is going to be my friend or not, that´s my decision! And thanks for the advices, guys!
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 10:11 am
Hmm, I would say to your parents something like "Ricardo is very important to me, and I know you are aware of his sexual orientation, and you may not approve of it, but I still care about him a lot. He's still the same Ricardo you first met 12 years ago. And I can assure you that just because he's gay doesn't mean it will rub off on me. If I were gay, it would just be because I'd be gay, not because Ricardo is gay."
Hope I helped!
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 10:22 am
Sunshine Peach-Heart Hmm, I would say to your parents something like "Ricardo is very important to me, and I know you are aware of his sexual orientation, and you may not approve of it, but I still care about him a lot. He's still the same Ricardo you first met 12 years ago. And I can assure you that just because he's gay doesn't mean it will rub off on me. If I were gay, it would just be because I'd be gay, not because Ricardo is gay." Hope I helped! i actually agree with this statement
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