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 Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 5:06 am
Hey, I'm 21 and in the same boat as you! It's to the point that my relatives all believe I'm a lesbian.
But, I don't want to date because EVERY single female in my family (cousins, aunts, etc.) gave up their careers, future plans, hopes/dreams, etc. so they could get married and feel wanted by some dude. Sorry, I'm too much of a feminist for that bullshit. cool
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 1:08 pm
Vertigo_Kiwi Hey, I'm 21 and in the same boat as you! It's to the point that my relatives all believe I'm a lesbian. But, I don't want to date because EVERY single female in my family (cousins, aunts, etc.) gave up their careers, future plans, hopes/dreams, etc. so they could get married and feel wanted by some dude. Sorry, I'm too much of a feminist for that bullshit. cool It's not like I want to give up my life, career, and future etc either. I'm currently in college and working on transfering to a 4 year university where I plan to graduate with a degree in Accounting (maybe business administration). I Have every intention of finishing my degree and getting a job and all. It doesnt have to be either or, a person can have a relationship and a life, and I know plenty of people who have.
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 1:10 pm
So instead of directly asking a guy out myself, do you all have any advice for subtly/indirectly getting a guy to ask you out, or letting him know you're "interested"?
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 1:20 pm
I see nothing wrong with that. smile Maybe you just have to wait until the time comes. ^^ And being 20 is a very young age. well not as young as a 13 year old, like me but still. smile And 13 year olds are mostly desperate. Sometimes they only date each other and they dont really like each other. They usually break up after a week or two. =/ So dont worry. ^^ omgfurubarocks Yeah sooo... I'm 20 years old and I've never been on a date, had a boyfriend, been kissed or anything. Lately I've been feeling like theres got to be something wrong with me because no guys have ever asked me out or anything. Everyday I see little 13 year old that have boyfriends or not very attractive girls with boyfriends, whenever i see that it's like how can they have boyfriends and yet not one single guy has asked me out? idk maybe i'm ugly or weird or something. So I guess what i'm getting at is, is it wierd that i'm 20 and have never even been on a date, been kissed, or had a boyfriend? I just feel kind of mopey lately.
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 4:16 pm
omgfurubarocks So instead of directly asking a guy out myself, do you all have any advice for subtly/indirectly getting a guy to ask you out, or letting him know you're "interested"? Some gentlemen can't tell if your hinting at the fact you like them and want something more than a friendship out of them. In fact for these men you may have to be very blunt and tell them you want to go on a date with them. And (as stated before) the worst that could happen is a "no" as an answer. sweatdrop Also if you are nervous about talking to guys in that way, just practice at it. The more you do any activity the better you will get. No one is perfect right off the bat. wink Take it from someone who works in manufacturing all day.
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 5:23 pm
omgfurubarocks Vertigo_Kiwi Hey, I'm 21 and in the same boat as you! It's to the point that my relatives all believe I'm a lesbian. But, I don't want to date because EVERY single female in my family (cousins, aunts, etc.) gave up their careers, future plans, hopes/dreams, etc. so they could get married and feel wanted by some dude. Sorry, I'm too much of a feminist for that bullshit. cool It's not like I want to give up my life, career, and future etc either. I'm currently in college and working on transfering to a 4 year university where I plan to graduate with a degree in Accounting (maybe business administration). I Have every intention of finishing my degree and getting a job and all. It doesnt have to be either or, a person can have a relationship and a life, and I know plenty of people who have. That's cool and groovy that you know to balance. I mean, I don't want to be single for life. But, I don't want the attachment of a relationship either. Maybe I'm more of a 'short, non-serious, fling" kinda person. xd
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 5:38 pm
When I go... Naw, it's cool. I mean, just cause you weren't a 13 year old slut *coughlikemecough* doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. Not everyone even has intrest in dating until way later on. You go-- 
Draw me with Dobby and I will love you forever! (and tip to!)
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 6:21 pm
well, for starters I didn't get my first girlfriend untill I was 24, and my first kiss was with my first girlfriend (when I was 24).
There were quite a few girls who, in retro spect, I wish I would have asked out... but I never did. For me it was because I allowed myself to get too caught up with school. but my point is, just because no one has asked you out says nothing about you. based on your picture, I'd bet money that there are more than a few guys who are interested in you.
and, it sounds as if there may be some one who you have an interest in. and in my opinion it may be better to just ask him. Otherwise, like me, you might find yourself asking "what if."
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