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 Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 5:33 am
I've not been around lately, occasionally lurking and not figuring out what to post. And it turns out, I may be on even less. Well, I'm moving yet again, as my mother wants to live down in North Carolina, and I have to go with her.
As some may have or may have not known, she's been suffering from cancer for the last 4 years. I've given up two years I should have spent in college to try to take care of her. The reason I have to go with her, is she wants me to spend what time she possibly can. Me just finding out that her cancer was stage 4, and not possibly knowing exactly how long she's been at it, it could possibly be months.
The truth is, I don't know if I can emotionally take it. Although I've admitted to hating my mother at times, because of the way she does things, No one who cares about people's well being as much as I do could possibly want to see their mother die.
As of this post, you guys are the only ones who know about this. Make of it what you will. I'll try to keep in contact with you guys, but can't make any true guarantees.
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Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 9:18 am
neutral I hope that the time you spend with her brings you joy and fond memories for the future. That's one of the only ways you can live through this terrible situation without regret.
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The_Master_Wielder Captain
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Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 11:32 am
Kane... I'm sorry you have to go through this. My mom lost her brother to cancer, and she's never quite recovered from it...
Look, if you ever want to talk about it, we're here. You'll always be one of us, and we take care of our own as best as we can.
If I could, I'd be there with ya. God knows it's tough for a single soul to bear this alone. But NC's way too far for me. Even if I got out of school for a while, it wouldn't be possible.
The best thing you can do for yourself is accept the inevitable and hope for a miracle, but even that can weigh heavy on the heart, wear a man down.
I don't know, man. I don't know how anyone can go through this sort of thing and come out a sane man, but... I know you can find a way, amigo.
And... I really am sorry you have to go through this...
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Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 12:38 pm
I'm sorry to hear the news. I've not personally been in that sort of situation, but I can only say one thing. Don't blame yourself. Don't blame anything. There's no time to be spent looking for blame, when usually there is nothing to blame.
That's all I have to say. Good luck.
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Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 2:17 pm
*hugs*
I'm sorry to hear about this, Kaneharo. You take whatever time you need for your mom, yourself, RL. Those things ALWAYS come first.
Meanwhile, the guild will be here for you to return to if you ever want to.
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Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 9:24 pm
Well, I'm not gonna lie. It's really hard to get over a close relative's death. I recently lost my grandma and I really haven't got over it and it's been over 3 months now. I saw he a month before she passed away and I couldn't make it to her funeral.
Look, I'm not gonna sugarcoat the truth because that would be blinding you from the opportunities you currently have. It's gonna be tough but try doing this: If you imagine yourself looking back at this time today after the tragedy, what would you wish you would have done better? Before things get any worse, forget about what you want and focus on what you need. Do you need closure? Do you need to be with her? Do you need to help her get through this?
And above all, and I'll tell you this from a place where I'm not allowed to do that anymore, make sure you take your time to say goodbye. So that whenever...that happens, you'll know she's gone to a better place. Because she has! A place much better than this dump we're all in where she's gonna be happy and cool about everything. She won't have to suffer that lame sickness she has now and everything will be fine and dandy. So right now, make sure you give her the peace of mind she needs to allow her to go to that place where she can finally let go of the lameness of Earth.
You got plenty of years ahead of you. Whatever time you spend with your mom is nothing compared to the years you have left. Forget about this game called Gaia; it's not as even remotely important as you spending time with your madre. If you come back or not, it doesn't matter. And I mean that in a nice way. Take as much time as you need; the guild will always be here. Or not. Either way, like I said, this place isn't as important as being with a relative when they need you. I wish I could do the same with my relatives but they're all so far away. So you do it since you have the chance. And make the best of it.
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Posted: Sat Dec 04, 2010 5:08 pm
That's rough, bro. I'm sorry. cry
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