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 Posted: Wed Nov 03, 2010 10:07 pm
Have a question? boyfriend/girlfriend issues? need advice?
Ask here and i'll try my very best to help! ive spent around 7 years giving advice to those who need it.
so feel free to ask !
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Posted: Fri Nov 05, 2010 9:20 pm
I found someone on Gaia that is living with a family with very strict rules, and the rules, unfortunately, cause her to not be able to make time for a job. She wants to make or buy things for the family that took her in to show her appreciation, but they can barely scrape by on the nescessities. sad
I saw her post, and, since my parents have been trying to encourage my artistic abilities by buying me buttloads of crap I've never used, I just sent her a PM offering to buy her some sewing things to get her back on her feet, or give her a large craft package using things I have in my room that I'm not going to use, or a check if she'd prefer to buy it all by herself.
I'm sick to my stomach right now... I know that asking for personal informatio on Gaia isn't allowed by the ToS (I'd need her name and address to send it to her), and neither is sending unwanted offers/PMs (I know it applies mainly to chainmail and advertising bots, but it still applies here). I sent her a picture of myself holding my username on a pice of scrap paper so she knows I'm not a crazy stalker trying to killer her, but I'm so worried she's going to think it anyways, and report me. >.> Did I go too far for a stranger to find normal? Should I have not done that? I feel physically ill that this is going to end badly, but I don't want to not offer it to her, since she said that she has no other options...
What would you do in this situation? Am I overreacting? Should I not have done that? sad I'm sick with a cold right now, and I'm not thinking clearly. I don't want to loose my account and everything I've worked so hard for because I can't keep my mouth shut. >.>
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Almost Poetic Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Nov 05, 2010 10:52 pm
your trying to reach out to a girl in need, you were doing the right thing, but you should have email'd her instead of PMing her because she may report you. i think it was nice of you to offer those things and you are a good person so try not to feel bad, i would have done the same thing as you. has she accepted you sending a package to her? or has she said anything? i think it was nice of you to go out of your own way to help a complete stranger and alot of times those nice people can get screwed over if you think she will report you i would block her, i mean it would be really werid if you just met me and you offered that but it was a good thing to do.
maybe write her a letter and tell her that your sorry if you came off to strongly its just you really felt for her and her situation and you had supplies you werent going to use and if she wants to talk more before getting the package that would be okay with you. she may be freaked out because people arent use to having someone be so nice and trust worthy and here you are offering a complete stranger your supplies.
Just dont let it get to you. just talk to her if you feel she will report you.
~swurge
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Posted: Fri Nov 05, 2010 10:55 pm
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Posted: Fri Nov 05, 2010 11:27 pm
mizoryluvsme- Thanks ,ive been doing advice for years and really wanted to do something like this online, ive been through alot and want to help others.
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Posted: Sat Nov 06, 2010 9:30 am
Sweetviolenturge your trying to reach out to a girl in need, you were doing the right thing, but you should have email'd her instead of PMing her because she may report you. i think it was nice of you to offer those things and you are a good person so try not to feel bad, i would have done the same thing as you. has she accepted you sending a package to her? or has she said anything? i think it was nice of you to go out of your own way to help a complete stranger and alot of times those nice people can get screwed over if you think she will report you i would block her, i mean it would be really werid if you just met me and you offered that but it was a good thing to do. maybe write her a letter and tell her that your sorry if you came off to strongly its just you really felt for her and her situation and you had supplies you werent going to use and if she wants to talk more before getting the package that would be okay with you. she may be freaked out because people arent use to having someone be so nice and trust worthy and here you are offering a complete stranger your supplies. Just dont let it get to you. just talk to her if you feel she will report you. ~swurge Ah, here is the logical thinking that I need. ^^ I made myself more sick last night over worry because I knew I was doing something wrong. If I had her email, I'd email her, but I guess a secondary letter is fine. She just got online and she already read my message. I told her that if she's uncomfortable with it, I wouldn't think twice if she decided not to respond back to the message. If she does decide to respond, I'll try to explain myself. I checked her posts (stalkerish, I know >.>), and she seems to be in an "I'm not going to report you; in fact, I'm kinda touched but I'm a little confused" kinda mood, so I'm pretty sure I know what the next message is going to say.
Oh God... There's a message in my inbox. >.>
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Almost Poetic Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Nov 06, 2010 5:02 pm
yeah , she was shocked someone she doesn't even know would offer something like that to her, alot of people arent use to that sort of niceness. your intentions are good you just shocked her, if she says no to the package dont feel bad sometimes it takes alot to get people to open up and trust someone.
~swurge
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Posted: Sat Nov 06, 2010 5:40 pm
She accepted it. ^^ But I still explained a little about about it to aleviate any doubts. We were talking for a little bit today, and I tried to tell her ways to get funding for college. I've already written up the letter and the free lifehacks, collected some items I'm going to send her, and I'm going to buy her some basic necessities and then some supplies to make things to sell on Etsy, and then I'm going to secretly slip $20 in there so she can actually buy some of the materials she may need. I'm just glad she didn't report me. sweatdrop
Thanks, Swurge! heart
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Almost Poetic Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Nov 06, 2010 5:50 pm
Thats good smile im glad she took the package, im glad your willing to help others out there arent even people like you out here! so keep being nice smile
if you need any more advice im here for you!
~swurge
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Posted: Thu Dec 02, 2010 8:32 am
A Ghost named Flo is after me
she even tries to make me wear a unibrow
What should i do?
Will huggin her help?
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Posted: Thu Dec 02, 2010 1:39 pm
RanmaRaj A Ghost named Flo is after me she even tries to make me wear a unibrow What should i do? Will huggin her help? i think you should wear the unibrow proudly she thinks you look good with one so maybe she will stop haunting you if you wear it. yes hugs for ghosts will help biggrin
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Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 12:32 am
Sweetviolenturge RanmaRaj A Ghost named Flo is after me she even tries to make me wear a unibrow What should i do? Will huggin her help? i think you should wear the unibrow proudly she thinks you look good with one so maybe she will stop haunting you if you wear it. yes hugs for ghosts will help biggrin wearing the unibrow O_o hugs guess what you should have been a murderer I would have been the hero today aah well lol I guess I'll call you Flo from today Sounds kool on you biggrin
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Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2010 12:39 pm
RanmaRaj Sweetviolenturge RanmaRaj A Ghost named Flo is after me she even tries to make me wear a unibrow What should i do? Will huggin her help? i think you should wear the unibrow proudly she thinks you look good with one so maybe she will stop haunting you if you wear it. yes hugs for ghosts will help biggrin wearing the unibrow O_o hugs guess what you should have been a murderer I would have been the hero today aah well lol I guess I'll call you Flo from today Sounds kool on you biggrin Im really horrible at being the murderer lol yeah i like flo it just randomly popped in my head
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