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I never cause drama on FB. I never rope myself into any of it. Nope, I don't need to. Why? Other people do it for me!

I always thought FB drama was so ridiculous. "Oh no, she befriended someone I don't like! Oh dear, someone is too lazy to update~ OMG, he said THIS on someone else's wall, I must make this my business!!" It still is ridiculous, especially when I'm sitting here, minding my own business, and someone decides they need to stir the pot and toss my name in there. It's happening more and more often now.

Who are the culprits? Not my friends, whom I may have removed or confronted already, but family. That makes it a lot harder for me to say something, because I get a lot of anxiety when faced with social situations. Hell, it's hard for me to even post on the internet (I lurk in here a lot but hardly ever post), so even the thought of confronting people I know and am related to in real life makes it difficult for me to sleep at night.

A couple people in my extended family have taken it upon themselves to peruse my facebook profile and stick their nose into everything of mine. They nag me constantly to change my profile picture, they harassed my dad for posting a joke on my wall (basically saying it was inappropriate but in a much more argumentative way), and they're constantly telling me I "should" do this or I "need" to do that (or that my mother should/needs to do this or that). As in, if I don't do it, I'm making people angry. They practically jump me when I'm online so they can talk crap about what a bad person my dad is and make subtle backhanded comments about my family and me.

I'm just getting sick of it all. I'm 20, I can manage my own FB account. If I didn't have such bad SA still when it came to family members, I would have said something by now. But, I can't bring myself to do it. I feel like just deleting the whole freaking thing, and it makes me so mad that I'm allowing some nosy busybodies to get in my mind like this-- OVER FACEBOOK.

The thing is, these aren't just random people on the internet, these are people I have to hear about for as long as they know my address and my mother is alive. If I remove them, I have to hear about it. If I say something, I have to hear about it. I don't want to rock the boat, but I guess they don't care as long as it satisfies their need to micromanage how everyone else does facebook. They've been doing it all our lives, but the only difference is it's now a lot easier for them to force themselves on us.

Ugh, sorry for dropping a rant here, I just had to get it off my chest somewhere. Thanks for reading, if you did. smile Do any of you have FB drama of your own?

Edit: Sometimes, my dad can be really awesome. He sent a message, without my asking or persuading, to her asking her to keep me out of their problems and, basically, stop patrolling my page and chastising him for what he writes to me on my wall. heart So it takes the focus off me and she gets the message.

I know you said you don't want to and everything and I agree it would be hard. I hate confronting people. But I would first, kindly tell them you don't want to change your profile pic. etc. If they ignore that, tell them your 20 and you can manage your own life. And when they talk s**t about your dad, ask them to please stop it because it's your father. I don't know the story behind him or anything, but it obviously bothers you. The fact that he is your dad should be a good enough reason. If all else fails, just remove them. They'll ask why and be pissy. But atleast they won't bother you as much... oh, or maybe when they say something you don't like, you could ignore them, or delete their comment of you wall or whatever.

I like facebook. But I don't like it if somebody says inappropriate stuff that I find insulting. I also hate it when my pop goes into my photos, sees one of all my friends and I, and randomly says we're all wankers... I usually just ignore him and he doesn't bother me so much

luckily no, i dont have to deal with facebook drama. the worst things that have happened to me are that i learned some horrible things about some of my family members who ive never met, everyone is assuming im going to invite them to the wedding, and that no one like my profile picture because i edited it a little

sweatdrop I almost caused a little FB drama,but only cause this chick let her cat have a litter of kittens (she has more Im sure) and since it IS cheaper to spay a cat then to raise a litter of kittens AND their way of controlling the situation is to shoot the tom cats that come near their barn AND last year they had 3 cats,that kept having kittens,ended up with 21 cats and they ALL got eaten by coyotes/foxes/owls and I told her she shouldnt get anymore THREE DAYS before she went out and got a box of them! so I really wanted to say something stare

EDIT: I did it DX I cant stand not to,I mean,I love kittens,but its just not right! and I wish people would know what happened to her last years cats/kittens and the tom cats who came to try to mate with her females!

well,I did comment,but then I got yelled at XD by someone else,not her,I dont think she has noticed yet,cause....my comment hasnt been deleted....

I know how that feels. But I'm not totally innocent about the drama thing. Ive been known to blah a thing or two ONLY when someone starts it when I've been doing nothing. Take for example my best friends current girlfriend, who decided she hates me so makes it her status that she hates me and how she finds me ugly and crazy and whatnot. Whatever. I didn't even know she existed BEFORE that issue. So now she blocked me on her account which is.. weird cause clearly I dont give a flying eff about her drama rofl but now she also opened my best friend's account to block ME plus threaten him with crap if he chats with me again. Pfft. That right there, aint a true friend dramallama dramallama dramallama


I sympathize with you. Facebook turned certain people into lunatics rolleyes