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 Posted: Sun Sep 12, 2010 9:56 pm
...his male crush.
Im in a long distance relationship with him (not gaia related) and I put alot of faith and trust in him to not do anything that might jeopardize the relationship, as I know he trusts me the same with. Hes told me for awhile that he has a crush with one of his best friend's (yeah Im alright with that) but Im the first he ever really loved and his friend proposed the idea of a 3-way, the next time Im in town. We've been chatting about that over the phone, jokingly, and yesterday, things lead on between him and his friend that I would rather not think about. (And I was still on the phone...;>__> ) Later that night I reminded my boyfriend that I have to put alot of trust in him since we live so far away and that I dont want to be misled, since I dont mislead him at all.
Today, he calls in the morning and we dont talk about what happened between him and his friend the night before, just stuff in general. He saves that little bit for later that day. Tonight, he called me up and I practically had to pull his teeth out, trying to get him to directly say what needs to be said. (He has a habit of beating around the bush alot, and really if someone needs to be honest with me, I would rather they say it directly, instead of trying to work around the truth.) So yah, he had the balls to admit that he had indeed cheated on me with his best friend. I wont go into details, but he said he didnt like it (he was a virgin), felt confused about everything going on and cant forgive himself for hurting me so terribly.
I forgave him just this once and Im adamant that if he admits doing such a thing again, I wont continue to be with someone who cant be faithful and get hurt again. Im surprised with myself for not crying or anything, but then again, Ive been in alot of bad relationships in the past, so maybe Im getting desensitized. Im just a giant mix of emotions right now, and I dont know why this is getting to me so much, even though this isnt the first time I was with someone that became unfaithful, whether intentional or not.
Im sorry if this is too long, but I couldnt find a way to shorten it at all and I wanted to get this off my chest. (Plus, I dont like the LD and the Life Issues forums, since the trolls there are like "lol kill urself ho") If you have a story to tell or have a kind word or some advice, feel free to share. <3
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Posted: Sun Sep 12, 2010 10:20 pm
I'm not even angry; I'm being so sincere right now
Even though you broke my heart and killed me Ugh, that's horrible. I was in a sort of similar situation. We were in a long distance relationship, engaged.
I was warned by a friend of hers that she was hanging out with weirdos. [Addicts, underage alcoholics, etc.]
One day she just stopped contacting me and I hear from her cousin that she's with one of those alcoholic kids.
I felt pretty numb at first, then it turned into hatred, then a wanting, then I just stopped giving a damn.
[We had come back in contact for a short time. I don't get her to this day.]
The only advice I have is be careful... there's a chance it may happen again, and he may not be honest about it. And tore me to pieces and threw every piece into a fire
As they burned, it hurt because I was so happy for you!
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Posted: Sun Sep 12, 2010 10:44 pm
That's terrible.
=(
If you don't want to be cheated on again I'd move on.
Chances are that he will sadly.
I had something similar happen to me.
Way back when I was in seventh grade I liked this guy, he was in eight grade and well I was young and stupid. Anyway he would kiss me and buy me things, I thought that we were together and well at a football game I caught him behind the bleachers with another guy.
They were making out.
I just ran away and cried.
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Posted: Sun Sep 12, 2010 11:33 pm
I would of left & not talked to him anymore.
A girl is one thing.. but a guy?
I'm not against gays or Bis.. but I don't like ever thinking about MY boyfriend with another dude.
I'd leave em if he cheated on me with a chick.. but if it was a guy I just.. no.
Bleck.
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Posted: Sun Sep 12, 2010 11:50 pm
Lady Kira X I would of left & not talked to him anymore.
A girl is one thing.. but a guy?
I'm not against gays or Bis.. but I don't like ever thinking about MY boyfriend with another dude.
I'd leave em if he cheated on me with a chick.. but if it was a guy I just.. no.
Bleck.
I don't really see the difference :/ there is no difference in the level of severeness in the situation. It's not like he would choose a guy instead of a chick on purpose.
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Posted: Sun Sep 12, 2010 11:53 pm
Happedol Lady Kira X I would of left & not talked to him anymore.
A girl is one thing.. but a guy?
I'm not against gays or Bis.. but I don't like ever thinking about MY boyfriend with another dude.
I'd leave em if he cheated on me with a chick.. but if it was a guy I just.. no.
Bleck.
I don't really see the difference :/ there is no difference in the level of severeness in the situation. It's not like he would choose a guy instead of a chick on purpose.
But if the same situation would of happened to me.. that is how I would of handled it :/
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Posted: Mon Sep 13, 2010 10:11 am
I thank everyone for their support. We both are still pretty torn about the event, but we're still going to try and get through it together. We're too close to just let it end like this. He said to me that it was really unintentional and he and his friend had a mutual consensus about what happened and just stay as friends. He too has a girl he wants to get with. I can only hope that he truly meant what he said and make an effort to regain all my trust again. I commended him for having the balls to tell me, instead of me having to find out some other way. But Im still standing by firmly that even if he admits to doing something like that again, I will leave him.
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