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 Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 2:02 pm
i am all about spanking, even though i was spanked myself. my parents are good people who enjoy there life, but they can get strict... they aren't particularly mean, and i've been spanked ten, maybe fiftenn times. but they left such an impact, that even when they threaten to spank me i immediately shut up and sit down, losing all obnoxity. and i'm thirteen, about to turn fourteen! my brother is almost seventeen, and he still doesn't like the idea of getting spanked. i am not very sociable, but that is all my fault...... not my parents. i am nice to some and not so nice to others. with me it's not anything personal or experiences that caused my late social blooming, it's how people react to me, and first impressions are key with me.... mostly they warn us. then they take some of out things... then they just threaten to spank us, and we usually apologize. when i have my children, i might or might not spank them..... it depends on gender, because in my mind, different genders need different punishment, as do different personalities.....
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Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 2:04 pm
Spanking is fine. idk about where you guys live, but here there are pretty clear guidelines that define how you can spank, and what ages. You must use an open hand and use 'reasonable force'. The kid must be between 2 and 12. It can't cause lasting bodily harm and it can't be degrading. No belts or straps. Can't hit the face or head.
"Reasonable force means that;
(a) A parent can only use “minor corrective force of a transient and trifling
nature”,
(b) Corporal punishment must be for “educational” or “corrective” purposes and not be motivated by anger, frustration, or abusiveness; and,
(c) Inflicting corporal punishment must be limited to the use of the open hand."
That is perfectly fine by me. As long as the parents aren't super strict and liberal with what they think needs to be 'corrected'. it's all good.
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Posted: Thu Feb 03, 2011 4:00 am
I don't think spanking them is necessary when you can just speak to them in a nice way.I know that there are some children who still tend to what is not right despite of your nice way of saying that it is not right. But spanking your children will not actually help them. It might just get worse since children tend to rebel when they think they are in pain.
Also in our country it was now a form of child abuse. As they said it children should be disciplined in a different way. Doing it in a harsh way is not a good thing it can just make the situation worse!
(My very first post since I joined this guild!---sorry bout that!)
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 7:55 am
I think spanking or any type of discipline depends on the child. If its a child that doesn't learn a lesson the first ten times, sure spank them. I personally wouldn't hit my kid, because I would feel guilty.
Breviary works xD
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Posted: Sat Feb 19, 2011 5:42 pm
my psychology book says that spanking your child, if used correctly, should not have long-term damage.
which is pretty much the point. it should leave short-term damage, that's how your kid learns not to do it in the future.
i was spanked as a child, and it certainly did not turn me to a life of crime.
drawing on personal experience (babysitting and pre-school teacher's aid), children who aren't physically disciplined are rotten brats because they're told "no" and given a slap on the wrist and nothing else.
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Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 1:08 pm
I believe spanking is ok depending on the situation, maybe a spank on the bottom or hand. But there are those that mis-use or over-use spanking which can be a form of beating. My older brother and I were spanked a lot and there were times that it made me hate my parents but I turned out ok. However, my older rebelled like crazy and hung out with the wrong crowd which made my parents understand that spanking can be harmful and have kept him in mind when it comes to disciplining my little brother and sister.
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Posted: Mon May 02, 2011 2:49 pm
I think to beat a hcild is wrong, dunno about spanking..not entirely sure about that.
But the odd soft slap or smack won't kill a child. Trust me form my own experience such things stopped me from doing bad things, like what I had done, again.
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Posted: Mon May 02, 2011 3:28 pm
I pretty much agree with 'Coon
I was spanked as a kid and when my brother and I fought too much my mom would smack our heads together. It must have been really lightly because well a little kid remembers a lot. I think that only happened twice
I liked the Simpsons episode about Ned being a violent kid who's parents wouldn't punish him
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Posted: Fri May 04, 2012 10:26 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 16, 2012 9:00 am
I see nothing wrong with spanking a child. I was spanked as a child whenever I did something REALLY bad. But that's the thing, you only do it when they've done something really bad.
I'd also wish parents these days would learn how to develop that "look" and "voice" that the child ends up learning it means the parent is angry and they done screwed up. That voice and look that makes the kid go, "oh. . . crap. I'm dead. O_O" My mother had a voice and look and it scared me whenever she used it, because I knew I was in deep trouble.
Some parents either baby their children and try to be their friend instead of being a parent, or they don't understand how the spanking thing works and just go off and smack their kids in the face and claim it as disciplining their kid. I had a woman who went off and smacked their kid in the forehead, a bit in the face, with her back-hand because the kid was acting like a complete brat (and he really was). But I didn't think that smack to the face was a good idea. In that situation, a "look" and "voice" from her probably would have been better if she had ever developed one.
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Posted: Sat May 11, 2013 12:09 pm
i have worked a long time in day care.
if the kiddo is in diapers, a quick swat will not injure them it does make a loud noise! and it makes them jump! and they may cry, because they are surprised, and because somebody is being something other than nice to them.
but it gets their attention, and lets them know something serious is going on.
it can be the first step to pointing out that biting little Timmy's elbow is not acceptable.
they do not have clear understanding that other people can hurt, it's a whole different world inside those young brains.
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Posted: Thu May 16, 2013 2:23 pm
i say yes to spanking. how else is the child going to learn anything?
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