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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 3:53 pm

She is my best friend and has gone power crazy. She screams at the rookies and calls them babies and says they have no say in anything whatsoever. She calls them stupid too. Should I confront the bd and pit instructor about her? Tell them whats going on? And one girl who is a jr she reduced to tears because the leader screamed at her for playing with one hand while we were aimlessly warming up.

Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 4:18 pm

First tell your friend shez being harsh on the rookies (my section leader waz sooo mean last year) then if she keeps going tell the bd...thatz the best idea i hav...sorry.

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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 6:40 pm

Of course. I agree. You should try to reason with her. And if tha doesnt work tell your director about it.

Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 6:52 pm

if nobody does anything about it then, i dunno, yell like crazy at her and see how she likes it. xp

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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 7:13 pm

The best route would be to talk to her and explain what is going on. If that doesnt work, go to the band director.

Posted: Fri Sep 03, 2010 10:40 am

i have a few steps to add before you go to the instructers. If talking to her one on one doesn't work then talk with the other vets of the pit. thean all of you go to her. if that fails then try talking to the feild captins and drum majors. then if all else fails to the intructors you go.

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Posted: Fri Sep 03, 2010 3:50 pm

Chain of command. Talk to her next higher-up about it, and if that doesn't work, so on and so forth. Someone will make it stop one way or another; that's just abusive.

Posted: Fri Sep 03, 2010 4:47 pm

Twinkle Twats

She is my best friend and has gone power crazy. She screams at the rookies and calls them babies and says they have no say in anything whatsoever. She calls them stupid too. Should I confront the bd and pit instructor about her? Tell them whats going on? And one girl who is a jr she reduced to tears because the leader screamed at her for playing with one hand while we were aimlessly warming up.

Wow, this happened to me too, except my best friend is one of two brass captains. During band camp she went power crazy (she did the year previous too). What we typically do:
A. TALK TO YOUR BAND DIRECTOR. Ill send a text message to my BD (while on the field) and he'll either talk to her after rehearsal if the end is near, or send a message to a tech to talk to her about calming down.
B. GIVE HER SPACE. This is the most critical thing in my opinion. Let her calm down.
C. TALK TO YOUR UNDERCLASSMEN. My friend and I both confronted the freshman about her, he took the guys and I took the girls. We made sure they weren't hurting at all from the comments, and that they knew they are doing a great job! If they have a strong confidence level (not cocky), the power hungry leader won't get to them.
D. CONFRONT HER. My friend and I went to her and confronted her about how she was being way too harsh on our freshman, and needed to take a step back, and calm down. While this wasn't taken well initially, in the long run it really helped her out, and now everything is calmer, and she forgave us for confronting her.

Now while every situation is different, this method or a variation of this method almost always works.

If you need to chat or more help, feel free to PM me!

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Posted: Sun Oct 10, 2010 6:28 pm

OK, so i dont know if your problem has been solved yet, but if not, talk to your friend. Truth is, she probably doesn't realize she is being how she is.

I'll admit, my section was being a bit unruly and disrespectful. Unknowingly, i started being a jerk. I didn't realize how mean i really was being until someone else talked to me abou it. Since then, I've been trying to be a little nicer to them, and have apologized for being disrespectful to them as well.

Posted: Sun Oct 10, 2010 6:57 pm

Just tell the BD about it. If your section leader is being THAT much of a jerk, talking to her isn't gonna help.

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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 7:52 pm

You need to tell her to calm down and stop being so harsh. If it gets worse you might want to tell the bd or the percussion person.

Posted: Sun Nov 07, 2010 7:12 am

I am -or was- the section leader of my saxs this year. What I would suggest you do is confront her about it. I didn't go power crazy -I hope- and I listened to my group, even the eigth graders, about what they wanted to do. And none of my group would listen to me anyway, so I was the pushover kind. rolleyes Back to your friend. I agree with everyone on here. Talk to her. It is the best way to go about it. Bring others who have seen similar problems with her and talk to her in a group if neccessary. Let her know what she's doing wrong, why it bothers you, and how to fix it. However, if worse comes to worse, talk to your band director about it. Talk to other leaders in your band about it. If she's being thick-headed, the band director has the final and ultimate say.

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Posted: Sun Nov 07, 2010 7:15 am

Le Scratch

Chain of command. Talk to her next higher-up about it, and if that doesn't work, so on and so forth. Someone will make it stop one way or another; that's just abusive.

100% Agreed. 4laugh

Posted: Sat Nov 13, 2010 3:54 pm

Practice like nuts, challenge her and win (although you better hope to god you win or else she'll probably kill you)

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