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I'm pretty sure that's partly what happened to her... the freezing up... as for liscensing, I didn't know about that. Originally I heard both were illegal then someone said pepper spray but not mace was illegal. As for the alarm, I don't really plan on her being alone. Her schedual is already set-up so that she shares a class and carpools with 2 other girls and my good friend Joe. At least until we're able to get mace... and another thing... cassandra and I are waiting until marriage. People seem to assume right away that, because we live together, we have sex. We don't. I can't say it's not tempting, but we both have our morals and we stick with them... we do have condoms just in case as well as other methods, but both of us do intend to wait.

I can tell you if you are as dedicated in your whole life as you are in your schoolwork you will make an excellent Mother. I also think if you decide to keep you should take him to court and get a court ordered paternity test so he will be required to give you child support. If you decide not to keep I think open adoption would be the best option for you it does sound like you are getting attatched and I can tell you from experience that once you have bonded with a baby for 9 months you dont want to let them go. I think women who can do it are brave and I wish I coud say I had as much strength and will that they do. Please keep us posted and let us know what is going on with you. We are all here for you.

This happened recently, so I suppose that it's not technically a "baby" yet. However, the most important thing is how YOU think of it. I get extremely protective feelings when I even THINK about potential future children. 3nodding



How much, if I may ask? Is it less than 10,000 dollars per year?

If you get paid more than that, they still have low-cost stuff, and it doesn't have to be hormonal birth control. Definately consider your options.

If you decide not to, then either decide not to have sex or be willing to have a nice, large family.



The pill is not supposed to screw up your period at all. It actually regulates it by making sure there are specific (low amounts) hormones in your body that turn off your ovaries and make the lining of your uterus impossible to implant upon.

This way, if you accidentally drop an egg and the sperm fertilizes it, the embryo does not attach.

The pill makes your body think it is "pregnant" in the way that it keeps your ovaries from producing an egg until the levels of the hormones goes down (at the end of the cycle pack).

My period used to be REALLY horrible, and now it's REALLY regular, so I guess we're kind of opposites.

But then again, I'm a big strong Viking-like girl, and I'm pretty scary. sweatdrop



Personally, I think you need to do more research with doctors and professionals before you nay-say IUDs and birth control pills. There's even a ring that does the same thing as birth control pills and you just put it up inside you and it works all month long.

IUDs do nothing to "screw" with your period. And, none of these "screw" with your period more than a pregnancy.



Not everyone needs anti-depressants, but I know a few people with hormonal problems that needed them to function properly.

My autistic friend? If he didn't have his meds, he would not be able to function in society. I've seen him when he doesn't, and he becomes a different (and scary) person.

So, definately, I think that the best thing to do is talk to a professional who knows in-depth what you may need and what will work the best with your body chemistry and your psychological state.



Unfortunately, as I'm finding out more and more, there's tons of weird stuff that does not naturally belong in your body that you inhale every day, just because it's in the air, or in the food you eat (over half of even the "fresh veggies" you get at the store are genetically modified in weird ways for purely cosmetic purposes).

So, therefore, I would try to get over your squeamishness with "unnatural" things if it will help you to maintain a healthy sex life together with your love, and not have to worry about poverty from having ten kids.

Seriously, condoms are not "natural" and neither is spermacide, but you mentioned using them. Spermacide gives me a rash every time, so I can't use it for medical reasons, but please don't opt out of something just because it makes you feel funny and you don't know much more than hearsay and a few propaganda ads.



I've noticed that when it comes to sex, the failture rate of abstinence is, sadly, rape. And, considering that you seem to be unlucky enough to have had it happen to you on multiple occasions, you cannot be too careful.

It would be awful if some man raped you and made you miscarry just because he was so rough, or worse, infected you with AIDS or something that would make your baby unhealthy and die.

You must protect yourself for the sake of YOU, your BABY, and ALL THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE.

Hell, if I could, I'd be your bodyguard, because no one should treat a kind young woman like yourself in such a way, but unfortunately, we cannot always have someone there to protect us. That is why I highly suggest having a method that you will actually be able to USE if put in such a situation.

I've seen pretty awful footage in my social psychology class of rape victims, especially pregnant women who have been raped while merely waiting at a bus stop or walking to the store.

If you live in an urban area, your chances of rape double.

Please take this into consideration.

We don't have sex so we have never used either condoms or spermicides. We did test the spermacides to see if I had any negative reactions to them and I did to 2 brands but we found one that's ok. Condoms.. we went to planned parenthood and he learned how to put them on etc... and we did discuss birth control and stuff then.. and I was actually going to get on it but I make too much money to get it for free or reduced cost. It would be cheaper if I went through my doctor to get it. That and I just couldn't decide... there's a shot form and patches and pills... and I just didn't know which one I wanted to use... Either way I still don't like taking medications even when doctors say "it's ok" because most of those doctors are the same ones that wanted to put me on anti-depressants at 15 years old and those are serious medications that NO ONE really knows the true potential of. Then when the lady at planned parenthood was going over some of the side affects of birth control there was some serious stuff associated with them... heart attack, stroke, bloodclot? I am not looking to increase my risk to any of those... I understand there's aresnic (and many other things) in the air, believe me, I do... that doesn't mean I'm willing to add more to it willingly. I guess I'm just a paranoid health freak and always have been...