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sweatdrop I just don't like the idea of putting that in my v****a before seeing if I'm illergic to it.

I've noticed you seem a bit shy when it comes to certain things. The only way to overcome that is to become more comfortable with yourself and these situations.

With lube, I recommend not putting it all inside the v****a, rather, put some on the outside, it really seems to help. Like it was said previously, if you are worried about allergies, do the small skin patch test. You can't be scared of everything. Most people have to find out the hard way when it comes to condoms and latex allergies.

As for talking during sex, I think it's vital. If you're not comfortable talking to each other expressing needs and wants sexually, then how can you communicate about personal issues to each other? I can certainly understand the embarassment of it, but start small! Tell him what you like and vice versa.

Agreed. I've been down the route of not talking to my partner (now my ex) about sex, and it sucked. He couldn't please me because I was too embarrassed to speak up - he thought our relationship was all about sex, when it wasn't. It led to a lot of problems between us, and it really sucked.

You don't have to talk during sex, you can talk to him beforehand too. But whenever you decide to do it, as Lunashock said, communication is vital. It's hard to have a loving, stable, healthy relationship without good communication. You two can discuss what works for the both of you, and what you each like, and then go from there.

I haven't orgasmed yet, and I'm 20. ^-^;; I hear that many girls/women don't until they're in their late 20s. *__*; It's a pain, but oh well, I guess. XD; Maybe if you read up on it or something, you could show him what info you find, and be able to say "see, it's normal" with confidence. :3