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I'm going to have to agree with you here Gallows, suicide is never the answer. Even if your life is hard or painful or you've had something tragic happen to you, as you say, there are people out there who do care for you and to rob them of your life is both selfish and cowardly, how does ending your own life and causing pain to others resolve anything? It takes courage to wake up in the morning and face your troubles. Suicidal people take the "easy" ways out. That might offend some of you but its the truth. In no situation is suicide the best option...ever. The hardest thing is always to keep living...even in the face of terrible adversity or suffering. If you live, you can make thing right again. Death is meaningless and is just the end of all your possibilities. >.> A man might lose his whole family in a tragic accident...but if he lives he can do something worthwhile to prevent it happening to others. He can also rebuild his life which while not the same, it will help to heal the pain in his heart.

Also, as Tasn said, that person is most likely suffering in some way. >.> Say that you don't help this person and in some time to come the worst case scenario happens and you think "I should have said something". Is'nt it better essentially to live without regrets. I'd advise you to reach out to that person. You'll probably find that there were many people who think just the same as you but did'nt take that step to help. So, try to help even if you're not sure or you're a little scared.

Thinking of those people in Haiti, its easy to compare the two, but circumstances play a large role in anything. Essentially, the human mind is fragile and easily influenced. The people there are bluntly put...all suffering together, through that they can bond with each other and find the strength to carry on. Thats just one example of being positive in even that kind of tragedy. Sure, there are many who will end their lives anyway, but in the end, suicide is still the cowards way out. People are strong and yet they are weak. Two people in the same situation may react differently as their lives and circumstances are all different. Choosing to keep living is difficult, sometimes the pain of loss or despair is so great that one feels they need to escape it and they try to run. They might conclude that ending their life will end the pain...but that in turn hurts others. Even if you have no loved ones left and you can't think of someone alive who'd care if you died, there are people around you who will notice and while not vocal, they may care deeply for you. Also, if its regarding loss, those who are dead do not come back but they would not want you to end your own life because of their death. That just creates a worse situation.

From what you say, I'd imagine that at present you are stronger (mentally) than a suicidal person, and as such would'nt you say stronger people are meant to help those who are in a weakened state of mind? Helping others to find their strength and then they in turn can help others. Its an ideal you can believe in, anyone can, and whether you think so or not, it can be seen if you merely observe the people around you. People can get courage as easily as they can lose it, a kind smile or a small gift might have an unforseen consequence. Perhaps a person you greeted randomly with a warm smile was contemplating death that very day, you may have unconsciously saved them. Small actions can either help or break a person. People are influenced by the tiniest things. I've said quite a bit and rambled a great deal but my point is if you see someone who wants to give up on life, try to talk them out of it. Sometimes your words won't get through, in that case their are other methods you can use but you can't ever be certain of the right choice in life. All you can do is your best and at the end of the day, having tried your best, you won't regret it later on in life.

Death and suicide may be the cowards way out, but you can help those people to become better, help them so that they choose to live. Show them what life has to offer if you must, but essentially, its possible to turn a coward into a brave person by giving them meaning and a reason to live. >.> Something everyone needs even if they have nothing left is that reason.

Sorry its so long. sweatdrop

That is an incredibly closed-minded thing to say. Many people, if not most people, at least consider suicide at one point or another, even if it is only briefly. Some people are vocal about it. Then they change their minds later. That doesn't mean they were just seeking attention.

It's pretty tough living in our day and age. Minds are alot more fragile than they were during times past (baby boomers and World Wars past). Children have pressure on them constantly. College, school in general is a HUGE pressure on someone. Not everyone has the strong determination or will to live alot of times. It comes from having a horrid past, weak living environments, some people it's genetics (I'm definitely someone who suffers from depression), and lack of things to live for. Some people can't cope with living just to live, they have to find some sort of purpose or meaning in their life. I mean, look at Japan and alot of Asian countries, their suicide rates are high. They have population crisis, food is scarce, the education systems are rougher than all hell, and they get pressure from their families if they never succeed at anything in their lives. I mean, I'm sure alot of our asian members understand this. We live in a pretty disturbing age, once again. It doesn't help we have the media/television/internet/trendcrap pressuring alot of kids as well. Singing out "If you're not as hip as us, you're not worth s**t." : I've seen people come and go because of that stress and lost alot of friends in HS from it. Debt causes alot of repressed feelings, and so does struggling. It's hard to stay positive in this recession of insanity. I just hope alot of people can persevere and try not to self-destruct. I know I've been on the edge of that thin line in my life before as well.