ButterBalls
I don't think it's really so much that you love someone without loving them, I think it's more that you're loving two people at once or you're having some doubts about your current relationships. I think it's ok to develop feelings for someone else while you're in a relationship because that's human nature. Nobody can really control who they love or love would be really easy and it just wouldn't be as fun as it is. whee I think you can only deny that you love someone.
I could swear I heard my boyfriend talking there. smile Although I agree, I still feel very guilty that I fell in love twice during our relationship..
It is very possible to love someone without actually being in love with them. The love you feel for your parents would be such an example. Also the love for your siblings, or cousin. And then the love you feel for a friend. They're all different kinds of love, but especially the latter can be very confusing, if your friend is of the sex you are attracted to. I can speak from bitter experience with my best friend.
Although the confusion - about my feelings for my best friend, and at the same time, if I still loved my boyfriend - really killed me at times, I'm still grateful for every minute I get to spend with both my boyfriend and my friend.
Time is the best solution, I agree. I also try avoiding dating good friends, because that's how I lost a good friend once. And it's why my best friend is a no-go, even if I break up with my current boyfriend.
You are very lucky the pair of you can talk about it. That must be such a relief..
Take care. I'm sure that your feelings will sort themselves out. They always do, eventually. biggrin
