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 Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 8:54 pm
Okay Honestly, I suck at flirting..with older guys.
Even If its a year older.
I get really nervous and can't talk
Well anyways I was with my friend and these two guys were trying to flirt with us well one of them asked how old we were [We are 14] and me being nervous I didn't really reply and then my friend is like "I'm 14 and she's 13" and I was like "No Hello I'm 14" and she said "Oh yeah I forgot" Well after that I felt like he thought I was lying about my age [He was 17!] and so I was acting even more nervous and not a word came out of my mouth torwards them and eventually we turned them down because they asked to hang out and I didn't reply so my friend said no thanks. I was mad at her for mistakeing even though I knew it was a mistake because I didn't want to seem like too much of an idiot and by her mistake I felt like one. So yes. I just needed to blurt this out to the world.
Any Advice?
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 6:58 am
flirting is never easy at any age. even now im still spilling crap on myself and always tripping on stuff xp
just be yourself anf hope the guy ignores the embarressing things you do
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 7:27 am
I'm 22 and I can't flirt lol. I've been dating since I was 13 and it's just something that takes practice. For me, younger guys i'm not interested in and older guys creep me out even if their intentions are innocent. I also have this ******** up mentality like if someone is hitting on me there must be something wrong with them because I don't think of myself as attractive or anything. The only briefly (3-6 months) successful relationships I've had have been with guys I became friends with. My supervisor at my summer job, we were all really close and hung out outside work and it dawned on me at one point that he was hitting on me and I was comfortable enough to flirt back a bit since I knew him already.
Then my last boyfriend is best friends with my friends fiance. So we all hung out as friends and in that situation I was comfortable enough to talk to him and get to know him. The first couple dates were super awkward cause we were both crazy shy and both opened up much more in an environment with our friends but eventually we both felt comfortable to really flirt and eventually much more.
The best flirting I think is the kind you do subconciously. If you force yourself to flirt with someone it will be awkward. If you just talk like you would with any friend or coworker it will be a lot easier. And eventually you get slightly more comfortable with experience.
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 12:57 pm
Maybe you shouldn't be flirting with 17 year olds! That's generally asking for trouble. Stick to boys closer to your own age, if any at all. Just have fun with it when you flirt, don't expect anything to come from it and it will work better. Then if something does happen, you'll be pleasantly surprised.
@CCR: I think you're cute, and I'm sure guys feel the same way and that's why they flirt with you.
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 1:07 pm
crazy cat, if you were in my area and i was single i would flirt with you till the cows come home. you love animals and are very pretty, thats enough to get me interested mrgreen
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 1:08 pm
Vanilla eXee
Maybe you shouldn't be flirting with 17 year olds! That's generally asking for trouble. Stick to boys closer to your own age, if any at all. Just have fun with it when you flirt, don't expect anything to come from it and it will work better. Then if something does happen, you'll be pleasantly surprised.
@CCR: I think you're cute, and I'm sure guys feel the same way and that's why they flirt with you. Guys don't usually flirt with me... With the exception of like a 30yr old creep. The majority of the men i've dated I found online, that way I get to know em a bit before actually going on a date. One guy was massively hitting on me during the whole date and it just freaked me out. The first time I met my ex the only "flirting" he did was hugging me at the end of the night and saying he was happy we met and hopes to see me again. And the guys I've been with have told me that I'm sexy etc. (It was even the nickname my ex boyfriend used for me) but that hasn't done much to change my self-consciousness.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 1:09 pm
Shanna66 crazy cat, if you were in my area and i was single i would flirt with you till the cows come home. you love animals and are very pretty, thats enough to get me interested mrgreen
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 3:39 pm
Vanilla eXee
Maybe you shouldn't be flirting with 17 year olds! That's generally asking for trouble. Stick to boys closer to your own age, if any at all. Just have fun with it when you flirt, don't expect anything to come from it and it will work better. Then if something does happen, you'll be pleasantly surprised.
@CCR: I think you're cute, and I'm sure guys feel the same way and that's why they flirt with you. That was the first time with seventeen year olds. I mean with guys my age and can talk freely and easily. They came up to us..I have never had the guts to talk to some random guy who i thought was cute. All the Guys I like end up being my bestfriend, Like every single guy because I never tell them I like them.
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 7:36 pm
@CCR: I agree, it can be easier to talk to people online. Usually when I meet someone I'm interested in, I add them on aim or facebook and talk to them that way.
@minty: Sometimes becoming best friends can work to your advantage. I had a crush on my best friend in high school and he wasn't really interested at the time, but all of a sudden that changed when he moved away to Florida, then after being gone for a year he came back to be with me and we are together <3
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 8:09 pm
i met my fiance online and i think ithats what made it easier to get to know each other before we met face to face
and flirting with older men isnt easy ever i think. my fiance is 28 and im only 21 and i still feel akward around him when im trying to be sexy. its all a learning expirience lol
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Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2010 8:40 am
XxTheMintyScentOfDeathxX Vanilla eXee
Maybe you shouldn't be flirting with 17 year olds! That's generally asking for trouble. Stick to boys closer to your own age, if any at all. Just have fun with it when you flirt, don't expect anything to come from it and it will work better. Then if something does happen, you'll be pleasantly surprised.
@CCR: I think you're cute, and I'm sure guys feel the same way and that's why they flirt with you. That was the first time with seventeen year olds. I mean with guys my age and can talk freely and easily. They came up to us..I have never had the guts to talk to some random guy who i thought was cute. All the Guys I like end up being my bestfriend, Like every single guy because I never tell them I like them. You're only 14. And you say guys you like that are your age usually end up being a best friend...well, there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes that friendship can lead to more in the future. You never know. As for me & my friend. Back when we were in high school (16, 17, 18 years old), we paid no attention to the guys. We belched out loud and laughed way to much...for some reason the guys chased us at that point. Possibly because they knew we didn't care about impressing them.
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Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 3:05 pm
I have the same problem I can't flirt at all. confused
But they're right starting out as friends can be a good thing, I was friends with my last ex before we started dating. He didn't really like me when we lived in the same state but when he moved lol and we always communicated online. >.<
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Posted: Wed May 19, 2010 4:47 pm
Oh add ME to that list. I am HORRIBLE at flirting and I am 31. Basically I am relationshiptarted. I am incredibly blessed to have fallen in love with the world's best boyfriend though, who understands my "condition" and doesn't need me to flirt. We are best friends, we love each other, He WINS. heart Okay gushing OVER. Even non-flirting girls CAN get guys EVENTUALLY. Even ones much hotter than them. My boy is a HOTTIE of a beautiful black man. If only he wasn't at school in Spain right now.
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