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 Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2005 4:14 pm
What worked for me was to slowly move to less and less harmful things. From starving myself, to cutting, to hitting, to scratching, to tugging on my hair (not pulling it out), to exercising, to drawing/videogames/playing guitar.
Probably, if something bad enough happens, i may relapse, but i'll try not to.
If you have a therapist, and you are really really afraid to tell her about the cutting, you can try talking to her/him about the things that are bothering you. And if you want to, you could just ask your mother if it is okay for you to see a therapist without telling her about the cutting. That's what i did at first. She didn't realize how bad things were, though, so it took her longer than it would have had i told her.
Eventually, a really good friend of mine called the school for me, and they called my mom. If you don't have a really good friend, you could also request to see the counsellor at your school on your own, and they could tell your mother for you.
I hope things get better for you soon! heart
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Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 4:24 pm
I'm presently recovering from that problem. I used to cut 2 or 3 times a day and I'm now down to 4-5 times a week. Counselling really helps because you have someone to talk to who isn't allowed to say anything you tell them (exept under special circumstances, of course). Also, a lot of people who cut stop hanging out with their friends. I suggest to keep contact with your friends, unless they are th source of your stress, of course. And then there are many techniques to try to keep yourslef from cutting when you are about to. Try squeeezing ice cubes for a while, taking deep breaths, punching a pillow, or doing smething you like (a hobby)... Everything I mentionned helped me get where I'm at right now. I really hope I could help you.
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Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2006 4:46 pm
Please don't exclude me, but I've never had a cutting problem .
I never had to cut, because I had a counceler you caught me just in time.
She said some people like to cut themselves when they're hurt, angry, or depressed. She said if I ever felt like I had to let it out to rip paper in small lines, to yell and scream in a pillow, to write a venting journal, or ask her if I wanted to go to a self-help group.
Those are just a few ways that might be a better option for you then cutting.
I had tried cutting twice before seeing my counceler, so I am not really an experince cutter, but I did go threw many negative emotions.
I still to this day keep my venting journal with me at all times though I don't use it hardly anymore.
Please hun, don't hurt youself anymore. If you still go to school ask your teacher or principal if you could talk to a counseler about something.
You're a good intelligent person.
I'm very blown away at how brave you are too. I never had the courage to ask for help with my problems when I was going threw my troubles.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 4:49 pm
I never told my mom. I dont want her to know. I started writing everything that i felt. Just free-hand. Or drawing. Poetry, cliched and all that. But it helps. Cutting is bad for you. I have the scars. It's really horrible. There are better ways to deal. Maybe take up sports, or just find something that you enjoy, that is good foryou, and do that when you are feeling like you want to cut. Be strong. Think about how you are hurting yourself before you do it. In the end you will realize that it isn't really what you want. neutral
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Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2006 6:56 pm
i first cut last year around summer time...cuz my bf of 6 months forgot my b-day and i broke up with him...and i just was feeling horrible...and what kinda hurt...dont know why thought but..like my mom never noticed and it would kinda be ovious..i dunno if she just pretended its not there or what. but still it kinda became a habit..until this year i kinda stopped for awhile but things got out of hand and well...my friends started noticing and were getting worried and i was always reassuring them i was fine. people started to call me emo or morbid cuz i started to be more distant and wear black alittle too often(which was kinda odd since im a blonde lol) but then my bf came along(the one im dating as of now) and he found out...well...he was so worried about me and was like gonk baby...please stop...and he would make me show him my wrists and he would just look at me and i knew he was hurting inside..and i felt horrible...so i tried to stop which i did for along while...but i mean i sometimes do...like if i get depressed beyond belief and when i cant talk to him to talk my depression out...but other than that ive pretty much stopped...but i still can see marks and it stays as a reminder..so those who do cut...i feel your pain...but its not worth it...really...try and stop...it will turn out ok in the end 3nodding heart
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