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 Posted: Wed Oct 07, 2009 7:57 am
Alisox I'm going to begin with a story to help explain where I am coming from. I have had a male friend for years who has always been "flamboyant." People have always thought he was gay. He was hurt when people said such things, as he was pretty certain about his sexuality at the time. Now, I've known him for four years, we're juniors in high school now, and he has come out. I found out a week ago. The rest of the school found out months ago. We grew apart over the past year, and he said that was why he never mentioned it, but when I pushed the matter further, saying I thought we were closer than that, he said that I had always been a little "homophobic" and that he didn't want to tell me too quickly. I talked to other friends who knew both of us, and they all said the same thing. I was "homophobic." When I think about it, I'm kind of offended. I'm not "homophobic" by any means. Because of my religion, As a Jehovah's Witness, I have been raised to believe that homosexuality is a choice and a facet of immorality. I disagree with the choices that they make, but that's all. I also disagree with his choice to flush his old phone down the toilet "by accident" to get a new one with the insurance money. It's so frustrating to be tossed into the pile labeled "homophobic" because the label to many means ignorant, close-minded, stupid, intolerant, and even elitist. I don't actively fight their way of life. We remain neutral in all political affairs, so we don't vote. We don't campaign like some other Christian branches have done. My highschool is a special audition-only school, and it has a motto and community feel centered around respect and tolerance. For that reason, many people who would be mistreated at other schools end up at my school. People with disabilities, very religious people, homosexuals, transexuals, bisexuals, immigrants, and all sorts of others end up at my school as a sort of safe haven. Many people from my congregation and others in my area go to my school. Tolerance is abundant. Yet, by being called a homophobe, I feel that I am being criticized for my religious beliefs in a way that I should not be in a tolerant environment. When I respect everyone's differences and keep my beliefs to myself - only my close friends know my beliefs and some of the more detailed parts of my faith - why should I not at least receive the same amount of tolerance in return? So. What does the term H O M O P H O B I C mean to you? .......Since when do bisexuals get mistreated? its like the number one turn on for desperate people around here. >>
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Posted: Wed Oct 07, 2009 1:38 pm
Neceo Alisox I'm going to begin with a story to help explain where I am coming from. I have had a male friend for years who has always been "flamboyant." People have always thought he was gay. He was hurt when people said such things, as he was pretty certain about his sexuality at the time. Now, I've known him for four years, we're juniors in high school now, and he has come out. I found out a week ago. The rest of the school found out months ago. We grew apart over the past year, and he said that was why he never mentioned it, but when I pushed the matter further, saying I thought we were closer than that, he said that I had always been a little "homophobic" and that he didn't want to tell me too quickly. I talked to other friends who knew both of us, and they all said the same thing. I was "homophobic." When I think about it, I'm kind of offended. I'm not "homophobic" by any means. Because of my religion, As a Jehovah's Witness, I have been raised to believe that homosexuality is a choice and a facet of immorality. I disagree with the choices that they make, but that's all. I also disagree with his choice to flush his old phone down the toilet "by accident" to get a new one with the insurance money. It's so frustrating to be tossed into the pile labeled "homophobic" because the label to many means ignorant, close-minded, stupid, intolerant, and even elitist. I don't actively fight their way of life. We remain neutral in all political affairs, so we don't vote. We don't campaign like some other Christian branches have done. My highschool is a special audition-only school, and it has a motto and community feel centered around respect and tolerance. For that reason, many people who would be mistreated at other schools end up at my school. People with disabilities, very religious people, homosexuals, transexuals, bisexuals, immigrants, and all sorts of others end up at my school as a sort of safe haven. Many people from my congregation and others in my area go to my school. Tolerance is abundant. Yet, by being called a homophobe, I feel that I am being criticized for my religious beliefs in a way that I should not be in a tolerant environment. When I respect everyone's differences and keep my beliefs to myself - only my close friends know my beliefs and some of the more detailed parts of my faith - why should I not at least receive the same amount of tolerance in return? So. What does the term H O M O P H O B I C mean to you? .......Since when do bisexuals get mistreated? its like the number one turn on for desperate people around here. >> Bisexuals get mistreated all the time. Some times even more so than homosexuals.
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Posted: Wed Oct 07, 2009 2:01 pm
Homophobic... IMO i see it as a person who is uncomfortable with the concept. Example:
My sis and I were going to watch South Park where Ms. Garrison discovered she was a lesbian. It came to the point where Janice Garrison was confronted by another woman who asked her the question "Have you been with another woman before" and it was edging to the situation of sex. My sister immediately walked out of the room truly disgusted and horrified on what was about to happen. I watched the rest of the episode knowing it is on Comedy Central and I don't see reason in hating it, people have their choices.
Heck, I was young in Kindergarten interested in girls, but after being so foolish I'm slowing leaning more closer to guys since I have girls just as friends only kind of relation.
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Posted: Mon Oct 12, 2009 8:19 am
keito melfina Homophobic... IMO i see it as a person who is uncomfortable with the concept. Example: My sis and I were going to watch South Park where Ms. Garrison discovered she was a lesbian. It came to the point where Janice Garrison was confronted by another woman who asked her the question "Have you been with another woman before" and it was edging to the situation of sex. My sister immediately walked out of the room truly disgusted and horrified on what was about to happen. I watched the rest of the episode knowing it is on Comedy Central and I don't see reason in hating it, people have their choices. Heck, I was young in Kindergarten interested in girls, but after being so foolish I'm slowing leaning more closer to guys since I have girls just as friends only kind of relation. I'm not sure foolish would be the right word there. I mean that kinda sounds like you're calling people that like girls/women foolish.
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Posted: Mon Oct 12, 2009 6:24 pm
Creas keito melfina Homophobic... IMO i see it as a person who is uncomfortable with the concept. Example: My sis and I were going to watch South Park where Ms. Garrison discovered she was a lesbian. It came to the point where Janice Garrison was confronted by another woman who asked her the question "Have you been with another woman before" and it was edging to the situation of sex. My sister immediately walked out of the room truly disgusted and horrified on what was about to happen. I watched the rest of the episode knowing it is on Comedy Central and I don't see reason in hating it, people have their choices. Heck, I was young in Kindergarten interested in girls, but after being so foolish being a very very young age at the time I'm slowing leaning more closer to guys since I have girls just as friends only kind of relation. I'm not sure foolish would be the right word there. I mean that kinda sounds like you're calling people that like girls/women foolish. Whoops. sorry about that sweatdrop I think I rephrased it a bit. I was child-like in searching for a relationship at such a young age at 5, well I was influenced from watching Soaps w/ my grandmother (the sex scenes...). I didn't mean to offend anyone who likes girls/women!
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 7:05 am
A Homophobic is someone who is afraid of a homosexual.
I have friends who are homosexual, both male and female, and I find that a few of my other friends are uncomfortable hanging out with them. This is not homophobic. I think that being uncomfortable around something highly different from what you were raised to believe is a very natural reaction.
I have other friends who won't even go near them because they are afraid that my homosexual friends will try to rape them or something equally evil. This is homophobic. The idea that just because you do not comprehend someones ideals, that you should fear them.
A lot of people think that someone is homophobic if they were to say not-so-nice things about homosexuals. This is not homophobia, though is a very common side-effect of it. Some people just happen to be religious, and believe that homosexuality is a bad thing, and believe that by saying these sometimes mean and cruel things, they are sticking to their beliefs. Though this is very rude, and can hurt a lot of feelings, this in itself is not homophobia. If the person were to be afraid to go near enough to the homosexuals to tell them in a calm manor that they believe their ways are wrong, and ask them to try to change, then they are likely to be hiding their homophobia behind the curtain of religion.
My proposal to the OP:
Go and give your friend a hug. Hugs are very simple in execution, yet have amazing healing powers(metaphorically). If you can still show affection towards your friend, regardless of his sexual preference, then you are obviously not homophobic.
Personally, I'm a very affectionate person, and I love to give my friends hugs. I have a few homosexual friends, and they get just as many hugs as my straight friends do.
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Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2009 11:54 pm
Creas Neceo Alisox I'm going to begin with a story to help explain where I am coming from. I have had a male friend for years who has always been "flamboyant." People have always thought he was gay. He was hurt when people said such things, as he was pretty certain about his sexuality at the time. Now, I've known him for four years, we're juniors in high school now, and he has come out. I found out a week ago. The rest of the school found out months ago. We grew apart over the past year, and he said that was why he never mentioned it, but when I pushed the matter further, saying I thought we were closer than that, he said that I had always been a little "homophobic" and that he didn't want to tell me too quickly. I talked to other friends who knew both of us, and they all said the same thing. I was "homophobic." When I think about it, I'm kind of offended. I'm not "homophobic" by any means. Because of my religion, As a Jehovah's Witness, I have been raised to believe that homosexuality is a choice and a facet of immorality. I disagree with the choices that they make, but that's all. I also disagree with his choice to flush his old phone down the toilet "by accident" to get a new one with the insurance money. It's so frustrating to be tossed into the pile labeled "homophobic" because the label to many means ignorant, close-minded, stupid, intolerant, and even elitist. I don't actively fight their way of life. We remain neutral in all political affairs, so we don't vote. We don't campaign like some other Christian branches have done. My highschool is a special audition-only school, and it has a motto and community feel centered around respect and tolerance. For that reason, many people who would be mistreated at other schools end up at my school. People with disabilities, very religious people, homosexuals, transexuals, bisexuals, immigrants, and all sorts of others end up at my school as a sort of safe haven. Many people from my congregation and others in my area go to my school. Tolerance is abundant. Yet, by being called a homophobe, I feel that I am being criticized for my religious beliefs in a way that I should not be in a tolerant environment. When I respect everyone's differences and keep my beliefs to myself - only my close friends know my beliefs and some of the more detailed parts of my faith - why should I not at least receive the same amount of tolerance in return? So. What does the term H O M O P H O B I C mean to you? .......Since when do bisexuals get mistreated? its like the number one turn on for desperate people around here. >> Bisexuals get mistreated all the time. Some times even more so than homosexuals. Really? around the cities here being bisexual is considered cool.
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