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 Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 5:57 pm
You have made a very difficult choice. Now you need to stick with it! It is NOT easy! I went through college alone with a 2 and 3 yr old (one on each hip!) But they were in day care during the day and 6hours per night of study happened after bedtime.
GPG is a great place for help and support!
Stick with school, Yep it is hard, exausting, and you NEVER have ENOUGH time with baby! Make that time worth it! On weekends go to the library and take baby and me classes, learn how to play and interact with your baby. (YES you can play with a new born! And 8 month olds are EASY! Peek a Boo still rocks at 6years old! according to my daughter who still giggles her face off ) REad to your lil one, even if it is "Mitosis of the cell" instead of "Clifford the Big Red Dog" you can still read it in an interesting way! That is MUCH harder to pull off with a 3 year old! But playing X-ray tech was right up his ally! And by the time I was doing real X-rays as a student I was the one they called for the pediatric cases! I could get a kid to do just about anything and stay still... we were not doing a scary X-ray procedure... were were playing a special game of freeze tag!
You have support, be greatful! Set scheduals, time for you, time for school, time for baby... they are all important! Educate yourself on your child's needs, developement, and stages of growth. Then find out how to fulfill the needs, encourage the developement, and enjoy the growth... they grow up all to fast!
Learn apropriate dicipline... it is good to begin around one year of age with lil things like the word "No! Not for baby." By 18 months you can start short time outs... learn about diciplining a child NOW so you are ready! (Pick up a copy of Barbara Coloroso's book "Kids are Worth It" It is the child rearing bible for me!)
Finally I support any girls's right to choose... whatever the choice! Now you need to focuse on that Beautiful, ADORABLE, little sweety in that photo! SHE IS SOOOO CUTE! She is yours and you are all she has! She will be a source of so much Joy, so much worry, and some pain too... be ready for it and keep loving her the way you do!
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Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 11:02 pm
I can understand how you feel so lost and confused I was there once myself desperatly wanting to be there for your child. I am 21 now But I was 17 in my 3rd semester of college when I got pregnant with my son. He turned my life upside down I dont regret him but I decided to drop out to be a full time mom I was lucky I have a wonderful guy in my life my husband at the time was my fiance. Now when you are trying to decide what to do for yourself and your daughter the best way to handle it is to figure out exactly where you want to be in three years. If you drop out you may still be relying on your parents in 3 or 4 years. If you stay in school and even try summer classes to get through earlier you will will be in a good state in a few years to have your own place with your daughter. I must just say goodluck and if you ever need any baby advice or a shoulder about your rape pm me. (you should really go to the support thread I went there and told my story if you want to try and find it so you know your not alone that is fine)
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Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 11:24 pm
Hmm...its already been said many times in this thread, but don't drop out. It's untimately rthe best choice for you and the baby. Better education=better job. Better job=better pay. Better pay=better and easier time trying to raise your kid. Like everyone else has said here, get your kid involved in your learning. Teach him/her simple shapes and equations and stuff like that, (s)he might pick one of them up very quickly, and you might even discover (s)he has a knack and a talent for something. Just remember to show the kid some attention, lord knows we already have an influx of attention starved Emo kids out there today xd
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 10:59 am
Don't drop out of school. Your most likely going to find it just as hard(if not harder) to get your GED when your not living with your parents and you have to take your child to all the school related activities, sports, etc., while holding a job than you are right now.
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 11:45 am
I would look for a good day-care to put her in while you are in school. She needs to be taken care of BUT you also need as much education as you can get. Highschool years are usulay the best of ones life and they will probably be teaching you things you need to know for when you graduate. The baby does look very happy and healthy, she's cute too.
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 6:48 pm
I am always in awe of the teen mothers I see that manage to balance both baby and schooling. It is most certainly a difficult thing to do.
I know it is difficult but I don't think you should drop out of schooling, it will make it that much harder to then go back, and in the long run education does pay off.
What I would however recommend is seeing if there are any alternative high schools in your area. In my town there was one alternative school in the district that was mostly for the drop-outs but also had a day care and more flexable sheduling that made it popular with teen mothers.
Even better was a place called "Contract." It was a school run by the three districts in the area and geared to teen mothers and other non-traditional teen students. Basically your education (as best I can tell) is contracted. You meet with and adivisor a period a week and do have some required in-class work but your assingments are more flexible and so are your hours. I know some students who actually only had to be at school something like 3 hours a week. There is homework yes, but you are allowed to set, and work at a pace that is managable for you.
Alternatively, if you really don't want to leave regular high school, look and see if there are any support groups for teen mothers in your area. This could also be a place to find other women who understand what you are going through and who perhaps can give you tips in time management and advice on how to succeed.
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 1:02 am
You have a beautiful girl. I do not like abortion either and in my book though it could have downward effects for a while until back on your feet family comes before all else. Now I do not mean quit school but if what you are doing now is causing problems and they will only worsen if you keep it up then obviously another course of action is needed. You will need friends and family for support because this is going to be and is I assume a rough part in your life but with help you will pull through it. Now I do not know if your area has something called G.E.D. or not but if so then you probably know what it is if not it is where you still go to school but not as long as a normal school day and you are not actually at your school. Remember this is assuming you do have G.E.D. and they do things similar to they way it is done here. This would give you more time with your daughter and maybe a small part time job. You may want to get information on similar programs in your School system incase you ever have to do something like this just to be prepared. I wish you and your daughter the best of luck.
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Posted: Sat Oct 22, 2005 6:17 pm
First of all, you have a beautiful baby smile
I really respect your decision to have the baby (I probably would have done the same) Please don't drop out of school. Like everyone else is saying, it's better in the long run if you continue school now. It's going to be hard but you have to do what you have to do. If you have anyother friends or relatives that have time and like babies, you can use them to divide the work or for extra support. That's how me and most of my relatives were raised. My parents worked alot and had my aunts or grandparents keep me. It's a pretty good system if you ask me 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Oct 31, 2005 3:25 pm
Hello...I didnt read all the post but here is what I gotta say..I wouldnt drop out of school because in the future you might not get a good enough job to support youself and ur baby.(very cute by the way) and I dont believe in abortion either..its just wrong..well thats what I think..and being a mommi at 16 is hard but try being a mom at 13-14, this happened to my friend, she was raped and she didnt believe in abortion and she is a strong christian but she didnt want to basically kill it, so she was going to give it up after birth but she decided not to and her parents were ok with it cuz its her like you said her blood, all hers and so she is doing fine actually..the school let her have a job there and she still does work..she helps in the office and around and gets to bring her kid and its great there..in missouri where I live they have high schools with nurserys ...i am homeschooled now but at a school called Winnetonka High School in Kansas City, MO has tons of pregnant transfers or teens who already have kids go there..so yeah check a place out like that if urs isnt already well I need to go but PM me later if yah want to..Bye
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Posted: Thu Nov 17, 2005 10:23 am
Have you ever looked in to altraven(spelling pls) school other know as a trouble school? Most schools have one and are more then happy to put a soon to be or parent into it. My friend went till her child was 5 then she went back to just plan or high school,but you can go all threw high school there and thay work around your what you need and some even let you bring your child with you or have a day care center in the school. There helpfull and not so bad. You should look into that or there always online classes for high school some schools have that know too that what my cousin does and you do all your work over the internet and teacher are there and you can even call them 24/7.
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Posted: Thu Nov 17, 2005 9:26 pm
Balancing motherhood and anything is extremely difficult. By the looks of that healthy and happy-looking baby, you are doing as good a job as anyone could ask.
Should you drop out? Only you can make that decision. Personally, I would say no. I say this because a lot of people who drop out do so with the intention of going back later, but are never able to. When you are older, and maybe no longer as reliant on your parents, being able to go to school can be extremely difficult. Furthermore, it will be much more difficult for you to support yourself and your new family without a High School degree.
You do, however, have other options. Look into Adult High Schools in your area. Even local colleges. You may be able to go to school part time instead of full time. That may be a little easier for you. It might take you four more years instead of two, but at least you will be working on it.
And I applaud you for using your right of free choice in the abortion matter. Pro-choice goes two ways: to have an abortion and not to have an abortion. Many girls would have gone for it in your situation and I think it took a lot of courage to choose to be a mother.
Best of luck to you. I know you will find a way to make this all work out biggrin
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