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 Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:40 pm
This goes back a bit but anyhow, I had started seeing this guy and we were getting along well,He was Kind sweet and very open with me. He was one of those people that you could just talk to about anything, It was great I thought that I had found somebody special, as all we had to do was be together, He had told me we didn't need to go out much that he was just happy being with and around me. But about Four months ago things changed. We had planned to go hang out at a park with a group of his friends, and I was looking forward to going, Well soon after we had made the plans My mother in her ususal late fassion informs me the night before that we were throwing my sister a suprise bithday party, There for I had to tell him that I may not beable to make it to the park and I explained my reasoning.(this was through texting). I got no reply for quite some time so I asked if he was mad at me and all I got back was "I just don't understand you" Then nothing. I texted and called to appologise to no avail. It hurt it hurt deeply yet I can't stop thinking about him recently, I thought I was over it but apparently not and now I don't know what to do. (i have this posted in the standard life issus area but i figured that I might get better and more advice here)
He has moved in with his brother recently thus I can't just go see him as I don't know where he is.
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:57 pm
Is your problem that you're constantly thinking of him and of what might have been? Or are you having problems with your Mom not letting you know these things? What exactly are you asking advice about?
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:15 pm
I am asking advise about him and my constant thinking of him
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:50 pm
Gabriel_Knight I am asking advise about him and my constant thinking of him Okay, well first, you need to acknowledge that he meant something to you and probably was very important to you. I don't know if anything can be done now, but be aware that if you talk to him now, he might be a very different person, and it is highly unlikely that things will ever be the same.
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:50 pm
Sudden changes like this usually signifies earlier problems, some of which you might not have been aware of. In any case, what you face now is basically unresolved feelings. Sure, he may have moved past this, but you still need closure. Until you actually talk to him, you'll still think of him. Therefore, the best advice I can give is to try at all costs just to find and talk to him about this. However, you must go into the situation with the mindset of not getting back together with him, but rather figuring out what went wrong.
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 8:11 pm
Thomas Neo Anderson Gabriel_Knight I am asking advise about him and my constant thinking of him Okay, well first, you need to acknowledge that he meant something to you and probably was very important to you. I don't know if anything can be done now, but be aware that if you talk to him now, he might be a very different person, and it is highly unlikely that things will ever be the same. do you mean that I need to acknowledge that he ment something to me on a personel levil or somthing I need to let him know?
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 8:15 pm
Gabriel_Knight Thomas Neo Anderson Gabriel_Knight I am asking advise about him and my constant thinking of him Okay, well first, you need to acknowledge that he meant something to you and probably was very important to you. I don't know if anything can be done now, but be aware that if you talk to him now, he might be a very different person, and it is highly unlikely that things will ever be the same. do you mean that I need to acknowledge that he ment something to me on a personel levil or somthing I need to let him know? He definitely figures into your values, he has meaning to you on a deep personal level. Soleq has good advice.
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 8:22 pm
Soleq Sudden changes like this usually signifies earlier problems, some of which you might not have been aware of. In any case, what you face now is basically unresolved feelings. Sure, he may have moved past this, but you still need closure. Until you actually talk to him, you'll still think of him. Therefore, the best advice I can give is to try at all costs just to find and talk to him about this. However, you must go into the situation with the mindset of not getting back together with him, but rather figuring out what went wrong. If I end up talking with him one way or another and we talk about what happened and the oppertunity arises would it even be a wise choice to attempt to get back together?
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 1:42 pm
I dunno this kinda reminds me of me and my ex.. It took me a while to realize everything.. but obviously if he just turned his back on you... like that.. then.. there is obviously someone out there who is better for you. it's ok to think of him cause i still think of my ex some times.. not much.. but.. you know it's just how some get over things.. thinking it through in your head.
that's all i can really think of telling you.. I hope that may of helped at least a little.
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 2:15 pm
Gabriel_Knight Soleq Sudden changes like this usually signifies earlier problems, some of which you might not have been aware of. In any case, what you face now is basically unresolved feelings. Sure, he may have moved past this, but you still need closure. Until you actually talk to him, you'll still think of him. Therefore, the best advice I can give is to try at all costs just to find and talk to him about this. However, you must go into the situation with the mindset of not getting back together with him, but rather figuring out what went wrong. If I end up talking with him one way or another and we talk about what happened and the oppertunity arises would it even be a wise choice to attempt to get back together? No. Pure and simple. Your relationship ended for a reason, and that reason will continue to haunt it if you get back together.
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Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 12:26 am
Soleq Gabriel_Knight Soleq Sudden changes like this usually signifies earlier problems, some of which you might not have been aware of. In any case, what you face now is basically unresolved feelings. Sure, he may have moved past this, but you still need closure. Until you actually talk to him, you'll still think of him. Therefore, the best advice I can give is to try at all costs just to find and talk to him about this. However, you must go into the situation with the mindset of not getting back together with him, but rather figuring out what went wrong. If I end up talking with him one way or another and we talk about what happened and the oppertunity arises would it even be a wise choice to attempt to get back together? No. Pure and simple. Your relationship ended for a reason, and that reason will continue to haunt it if you get back together. I think thats actually part of the problem I was never given a reason or explanation for why the relationship ended it kinda just did.
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 5:16 pm
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 7:08 pm
hum... it sounds to me like there was more going on then just you not being able to go to the park. Is there anything else that you can think of? Was going to the park really super important to him? Seems rather odd to me that he'd just stop talking to you for having to go to your sister's birthday party instead. ... there has to be something more.
As for thinking about him... try to hang out with friends more, or find a new guy if you want. Just try and do stuff to keep you mind off of him. If he won't talk to you or even just be friends then you might as well forget about him.... as harsh as that sounds. It's all for the better though.
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