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Well, I have an odd feeling being that I''m older than most (if not all) of the people in the Guild, I may have a bit more experience with it. I am definitely a switch, but I prefer to be submissive most of the time. However, I am quite a kick-a** dominatrix also..hehe. wink What I see people saying here is, ''I like to help people, so I imagine I''d be submissive''. So not true my pretties. Being helpful or outgoing, or your desire to please others has nothing to do with submitting sexually, not anymore than being a real jerk makes a good dom. If you''re not experienced with this sort of thing, you''re not going to know until you are in the situation, which you really prefer exclaim

Being a good sub does not mean just saying yes, or submitting as previously stated. It means giving in, one hundred and ten percent, to your dom. You have to know how to submit, just as you need to know how to dominate. Being a dom or a sub is an artform. A true dom knows how to take that control, not ask for it. The reason most people prefer to be subs, instead of doms, is really rather simple. In today''s world, we all have to be in control of so many things, so many responsibilities, under enormous stress. Being submissive, for whatever amount of time to another person, gives us a break away from all those responsiblities and stress, giving them over to another individual for a brief period of time.
Sorry to write so long, but I know about this one a little. twisted

Hope this made sense to all or helped some out! If anyone has any questions, feel free to PM me. If the Mod''s would be interested, I would be willing to do a sticky and answer questions/offer advice on this subject on a regular basis! heart

Wow, that's truly an interesting read there. I often wondered why my friends were either dominant or submissive...and most of them are lazy, so now I know why they're like that when they do stuff with their GF/BF's they tell me ''she or he did all the work''. XD

i also suggest making a thread. I'd love to read up on such lovely information! heart

I fourth the thread idea on one condition: Hands on help and attention. mrgreen In the words of Oni: And a great deal of fun is had by all. twisted

*gets in line to lick Seori's boots*

In all truthfulness? I am most likely a sub. The thought of submitting to someone all the way is a thought that turns me on frequently. So.... yes. Just a sub, not a switch, and certainly not a dom. xp Although my best friend is a switch.

I get annoyed at this too. I am a switch. I like being dominant, but I like rolling over and being controlled from time to time. I like complying to others' requests and serving them...it's so fun and makes me happy. Problem is, I get stuffed into the dominant role all the time, and it's just so frustrating, mostly because it really seems like people think that being submissive means they don't have to do anything, and that's no fun at all. I am a good dom because I take the power, and I have a pretty good repitoire for what turns on the body. But communication is also very helpful. The submissive supposedly has "all the power," but I think that a lot of the subs out there are kinda sad indeed, as they would rather just be lazy. I whip them into shape, but as someone said before, it's hard to be in control in both the bedroom and the real world. Sometimes it feels safer when you have someone who controls you and gives you things to do.

Personally, I find it sad that I'm the woman, yet I'm constantly having to be "manly" and dominant....it's like I can never be feminine....O_o