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My Girlfriend is 9 yrs. older than me. We've been together for about a year and a half. There were problems about the age when we first started dating, but after a while you suddenly realize that you stopped caring a long time ago. I love her and I always will...but....I have ALWAYS liked older men and women. There has always been a man/woman at a job I've worked at or something along those lines with whom I've had immense crushes on. I've never even dated someone my age. I always fall for the older, dorky, awkward, nervous, weird older guys/gals. It never fails. And to be honest, they've always liked me back (atleast the guys do) I think it's something about having a young attractive girl like you and take an interest that gets them. I love it. ....rambled....sorry....

i so agree with u love is love no matter the age difference so just love those u love

Thats a horribly big stereotype. You can't catigorize people like that; its not right, and can be harmful. Everyone is different. I myself, at 18 years of age, already know what I want in life and have had an idea since I was in the 8th or 9th grade.


Love comes in many different forms. Like the "love" some people have for ice cream or a surtian video game, and telling someone you "love" their hair or shirt.
And then theres infactuation. A sudden attraction to someone based on one or two qualities that person may have. be it money, eyes, big boobs or a car. Infactuated people often ignore eachothers bad qualities and focus on the good ones. This kind of love that doesn't last long, and can end sooner when the two people are apart as the trust and devotion may not be there. I guess it can also be called "lust" or a "booty call". Then theres real love, which also may also not always work out. Real Love is loving the other person for who they are, exceptance of all the other persons qualities, good and bad, and being able to balance them. It is excepting and supporting eachothers dreams and goals and liking to spend time together no matter where you may be. However, this type of love can also come into play by having a crush one another. it all has to do with how much you know the person and if you like them for who they are as a whole or not.

Younger girls liking older men is not as uncommon. It seems to happen everyday that a younger girl falls for a older guy. There's different reason I supposed. All that I've seen with these two eyes of mine. Mostly it's Psychological than anything. I do believe there is no age for love. Some girls are just more mature, even though mostly for the wrong reason. The problem is the other way around. A man liking girls. It's considered completely sick and wrong. A lot of blame is placed on them. Which makes complete sense. But what happens when a 14 year old girl and a 18 year old guy fall in love? Well the guy is riddiculed and the girl is told that it's wrong. Makes things complicated. You can't be together because it's illegal. I speak of experince. I've dated a 14 y/o and I was 18. I didn't plan it that way. I wasn't looking for a younger girl. I liked her and fell in love with her regardless of her age. It make things difficult for both of us.

But as the age gap grows even harder it becomes. It's only wrong for me and my gf to be together because it's illegal. But if we both were older the age difference wouldn't matter much any more. I remember reading a book once, it was for girls, ~realizes how wrong that sounds~ Believe what you want to believe but I was trying to study human sexuality, I will not deny the fact I'm kinda of a perv. Anyway, It said in it that it was ok for younger girls to like older guys but you always have to ask yourself why would an older guy be interested in you, specially if the guy is married. There's so many wrong intended people in this world and it's hard to believe that a older man doesn't have an alternative motive to wanting to be with a young girl. Of course there are exceptions. There is a reason why there's laws. I'm happy for these laws and I wouldn't change them even if they do handy cap my relationship. If both love each other enough it wouldn't matter and eventually things will work out.

I have had the mind set of not younger nor shorter my whole life. And, my boyfriend is almost two months younger then me, but I guess he makes up for it by being over a foot taller then me. Though I do completly get what you mean, I have always found the idea of dating a guy shorter then me to be weird (well, I'm only 5ft tall xd )

Oddest thing I've ever heard. stare

Why stress? You can't do anything about it now, your too young to start anthing if thats the case and if its not than no harm done either way. The only way you can figure out the answer is within yourself through time. Not on a forum. I know that answers harsh, I don't understand my own sexuality at the moment and its frustrating. Best of luck with your revelation.