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@ Drywater: I already tried that. >3<;;; She became very... how to put it politely?..... nosy? : emotion_sweatdrop :

): I still believe that you should have the freedom to dress the way you want.. Personally, I was TERRIBLE when I attempted to share Lolita with my parents... I sat down between them on the couch one evening with three issues of the Gothic and Lolita Bible in my lap and then proceeded to go through them with said parental units.. My dad got bored and was watching TV three pages in.. And my mom didn't look away, but I could tell she was thinking, "You can't mean you want to dress like this..." At the end, I was bright red because she hadn't managed to get rid of the shocked/"I am trying to tolerate this because I am a liberal"/twitching spasm look on her face as a result of me informing her than Mana and Aya were both men. "This is a little... extreme, don't you think?" she asked me, trying to sound nonchalant. What I should have done was agree, but then point out that even though it's a little eclectic and full of teenage rebellion, it's also full of "cute" and "beautiful', and that the teenage rebelliousness was in a much more appropriate direction than most girls my age take it. While she never brought up the Lolita character as a child prostitute or some sort of sexual symbol, she certainly became subject to that... visual shock. I think you need to establish that "Lolita does not equal child whore" with your mother first. Then, establish "Lolita means a childlike persona attributed with innocence and the light of girlhood". Once this concept is achieved, then you can start discussing clothes. (:

Amanikitty~~ Babysitting and petsitting. ^^ It's even better if you're certified in CPR and have taken a babysitting course. But a few nights of babysitting could easily manage to pay for a couple of things. ^-^

I showed my mom one of the dresses.
this is how the conversation went:
me: *shows dress online* (ebay xP)
mom: looks expsensive
me: but isn't it cute?
mom: why? you want it?
me: *smiles really big*
mom: wait until you stop growing
me: gonk

My aunt and Mom came to visit me the other day. I live in the city and they are about 30 mins away (yea, I'm a grown up redface )
But I guess it was the first time my aunt had really seen my dresses. My mother is used to it cause I dressed it at home and on outings and my younger sister is very into it as well.
Now this is the way my very open minded, supportive, cutting-edge 3rd grade teaching, 48 year old aunt put it:
talking to my mom, "you know all the dresses from the movies you wanted to wear when you were younger? They can wear them now!"
I was boasting about my new hand muff and she was like, "we had one in our house when we were younger, but we had to all share it. SEVEN girls! It just didn't work and wasn't very fair"
My mom chimed in, "I remember it, it was mine!"

So Hopefully you can get your parents to relate to that somehow. remind them of shirley temple movies and alice in wonderland.

I was very suprised at my mom's reaction. She's usually very supportive and even shows me "goth" clothes she thinks I may like, but when I tried to explain lolita to her I got a mixed reaction. She thinks it's nice, but the term "Lolita" is what upsets her. Whenever I tried to explain that lolita has more than one meaning she tries to explain that a lolita is a child prostitue. I'm trying to switch over to the term "victorian" instead. Of course, ero-loli probably shouldn't have been the first example I showed her when explaining it... rolleyes

On a completely seperate note, my mom saw a girl at her job wearing lolita-like clothing a few days after I showed her what lolita was. She went up to her and said "Ooh! That's so lolita!" and the girl replied "What's lolita?". I'm still trying to tell her that lolita isn't a mainstream fashion but she doesn't really get it.


EDIT: I just told my grandma about lolita (I called it Victorian) and now she can't wait for me to visit her wearing it! She thinks it sounds adorable. mrgreen

That's a really good idea! I wonder why I never thought of doing that to get money...

Anyway, I'm going to continue calling it victorian simply because I have no idea how to pronounce coquettish (is it like "co-ket-ish"?).