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 Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 10:57 am
Captain Katinator Grin Evilly Captain Katinator Ugh, boys are just stupid. I have no idea what to tell you except for what I would do:
I would dump him!
Or you know reject him or something since you guys aren't offically dating.
IDK Grinny, you have confused me.
I'm sorry that I am no help. ;[ It's okay, Katty. <3
Just ranting to someone helps tremendously.
I hope you feel better! Thank you. x]
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 10:58 am
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 10:58 am
Asashina Well, I know you probably still have feelings for him (on SOME level), but I honestly think you need to let go of him. Cold Turkey. Seriously. >>;
When my ex dumped me, he was still around it didn't help with the coping process, and he just wanted me around to be a trophy prize and be his little "doll" but didn't want the relationship. Basically, your ex is having his cake and eating it too, and I don't think you deserve to subject yourself to that.
So, if I were you, I'd tell him off, say he's a douche, and be done with him (hopefully) for the rest of your life. 3nodding Because he's becoming a player as you so honestly put it, and if he doesn't realize it, he will soon.
I hope you cheer up, sweetie <3 I agree. ._. I'm just... really confused.
If you go up, he said it didn't feel right when he kissed her, and he was single, as he said, when that happened.
And then he came over the next day, did that, and said he didn't want her.
So... I'm just utterly confused, I guess.
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:04 am
Grin Evilly I agree. ._. I'm just... really confused.
If you go up, he said it didn't feel right when he kissed her, and he was single, as he said, when that happened.
And then he came over the next day, did that, and said he didn't want her.
So... I'm just utterly confused, I guess.
Is this not the same ex boyfriend who was practically stalking you and watching you like a hawk and threatened to kill you in your bedroom?
>>; 'Cuz if it is, then my statement above is reason enough to make him go away gonk
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:06 am
Asashina Grin Evilly I agree. ._. I'm just... really confused.
If you go up, he said it didn't feel right when he kissed her, and he was single, as he said, when that happened.
And then he came over the next day, did that, and said he didn't want her.
So... I'm just utterly confused, I guess.
Is this not the same ex boyfriend who was practically stalking you and watching you like a hawk and threatened to kill you in your bedroom?
>>; 'Cuz if it is, then my statement above is reason enough to make him go away gonk ._.;
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:12 am
crying Sorry, I didn't mean to make you upset ._.;
It's just I didn't think you should completely overlook all the crap he's put you through in the recent month or two. It shouldn't be forgotten, because then you really are subjecting yourself to being his little "doll" or "plaything", because then he really IS having his cake and eating it too if you don't do anything about it ._.; And I just don't want you to have to go through that..
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:21 am
Asashina
crying Sorry, I didn't mean to make you upset ._.;
It's just I didn't think you should completely overlook all the crap he's put you through in the recent month or two. It shouldn't be forgotten, because then you really are subjecting yourself to being his little "doll" or "plaything", because then he really IS having his cake and eating it too if you don't do anything about it ._.; And I just don't want you to have to go through that.. Oh, no. You didn't. Don't worry.
It's just so true, is all. xD
I guess we've been together for so long, it's kinda hard to imagine him as just... not there anymore, I guess.
Like, we've been BFF's since about... oh ********. When we were eight? I can't even recall.
Kinda hard to imagine a big life figure like that just... zoom. D:
Maybe that's why I have a hard time letting go when he does something unbelievably stupid?
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:27 am
Grin Evilly Oh, no. You didn't. Don't worry.
It's just so true, is all. xD
I guess we've been together for so long, it's kinda hard to imagine him as just... not there anymore, I guess.
Like, we've been BFF's since about... oh ********. When we were eight? I can't even recall.
Kinda hard to imagine a big life figure like that just... zoom. D:
Maybe that's why I have a hard time letting go when he does something unbelievably stupid?
Most likely, yes. It's probably why I'm having such a hard time grieving over the loss of my grandma. I've known her since I was an infant, and it's hard to imagine her not there, not calling everyday to see how the family is, not offering to help with dinner even though she could barely walk..
It's hard to let someone go that's been apart of your life for such a long time. It eventually becomes like they're apart of yourself, and sometimes it feels like if you let them go you'll let a part of yourself go in the process.
But honestly >>; He isn't healthy for you, sweetie. You're -so- much better off without him, even if you don't see it now. heart
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:40 am
Asashina Grin Evilly Oh, no. You didn't. Don't worry.
It's just so true, is all. xD
I guess we've been together for so long, it's kinda hard to imagine him as just... not there anymore, I guess.
Like, we've been BFF's since about... oh ********. When we were eight? I can't even recall.
Kinda hard to imagine a big life figure like that just... zoom. D:
Maybe that's why I have a hard time letting go when he does something unbelievably stupid?
Most likely, yes. It's probably why I'm having such a hard time grieving over the loss of my grandma. I've known her since I was an infant, and it's hard to imagine her not there, not calling everyday to see how the family is, not offering to help with dinner even though she could barely walk..
It's hard to let someone go that's been apart of your life for such a long time. It eventually becomes like they're apart of yourself, and sometimes it feels like if you let them go you'll let a part of yourself go in the process.
But honestly >>; He isn't healthy for you, sweetie. You're -so- much better off without him, even if you don't see it now. heart Very true. And I agree.
Awhile ago, he said he didn't know if he should just leave the both of us alone, or continue to talk to us.
And I cried so hard. Someone like that just going is just... ;___;
Eh... I guess I'll just have to think about it long and hard over the holidays...
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:46 am
Grin Evilly Very true. And I agree.
Awhile ago, he said he didn't know if he should just leave the both of us alone, or continue to talk to us.
And I cried so hard. Someone like that just going is just... ;___;
Eh... I guess I'll just have to think about it long and hard over the holidays...
Well it's not like you don't have time to think 3nodding Average high school vacations are 2-3 weeks, and mine, since I'm in college, is a month whee
So it isn't like you won't have time to think heart I hope you feel better. I'm going to the mall X3 <3333 Toodles hun
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:52 am
Asashina Grin Evilly Very true. And I agree.
Awhile ago, he said he didn't know if he should just leave the both of us alone, or continue to talk to us.
And I cried so hard. Someone like that just going is just... ;___;
Eh... I guess I'll just have to think about it long and hard over the holidays...
Well it's not like you don't have time to think 3nodding Average high school vacations are 2-3 weeks, and mine, since I'm in college, is a month whee
So it isn't like you won't have time to think heart I hope you feel better. I'm going to the mall X3 <3333 Toodles hun Lucky.
You get a month. D: I only get two weeks.
Have fun! =D And I feel better after getting a day off.
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 11:54 am
A MONTH!!!!
That's unfair... *pouts*
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 1:10 pm
Captain Katinator A MONTH!!!!
That's unfair... *pouts* It makes me wish I was in college more!
DD:!~
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 1:24 pm
All I'd say is think which would make you feel better?
Laying down the law but giving him one last chance
to keep him in your life because he makes you happy
(if that's the case but it kinda doesn't sound like it),
or if just dropping him and moving on would be your
best motion.
If you are that attached, and this hasn't been going on
that long, I'd say have a nice long lay-down-tha-law
talk. But if he has done this on several occasions,
I say drop his sorry arse and move on with your life.
You deserve better, Grinny, then a cheater or player.
If you think he'll hurt you again, leave him behind.
You don't deserve to be hurt.
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 3:51 pm
 You had at me at Hello. I'm going to be honest to god blunt here:
You don't own him.
You don't. You don't. You don't.
You might get angry at him, etc. But really, he did nothing wrong, I guess morally, it might be wrong. But all it was, was a kiss. It's nothing at all to get yourself so hyped up about.
I've been cheated on by boys. Who went and had sex with other girls. I got upset, but then dropped it.
If it's getting you this upset, you need to drop it. All together. Because jealousy is a nasty disease and it can eat you alive. I've learned the best thing to do, is to cut anything that causes those feelings out, because it's not healthy at all.
Also, you put yourself in the position to have sex with him, even after you realized that there might be something going on between him and that girl. If anything, you were setting yourself up for failure.
And if you thought sex might reel him back in a little bit more. Hunny, welcome to boys. Boys are sometimes (not all the time) the most unemotional, unattached beings on this Earth. Girls can be the same way, but girls take things a lot harder than boys most of the time.
I understand you're upset. But don't blame this entirely onto yourself. Take a step back and look in the mirror, and learn from your mistakes. Because s**t like this is going to happen to you in your life, but you got to learn to deal with it.
And I don't know, I've never been in quite a situation like this. But I have been in a situation where I was the "other girl.", but I never really thought twice about it.
And sometimes, in the "adult world." sex is just sex. Some people don't put emotions towards it. Kissing is just kissing.
Maybe he doesn't share the same feelings as you. You probably just need a talk and sort everything out. Would it be okay, would it be okay if I took your breath away?
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