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 Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 10:04 am
Hey... i know this might sound kinda stupid... But i have a question, how can you know for shure if your gay... Anyway eventhough it might be a stupid question, i've just been wondering...
Anyway... ninja
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Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 10:21 am
Sexuality is a very fluid thing, it's not "You're gay" or "You're straight" or "You're bi" there's all sorts of levels in there... and it's more of a matter of being comfortable than having a label
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Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2007 10:39 am
You right.. my life is just confusing right now.. sometimes i dont even know what im talking about myself...^^
Anyway.. i like this guild..^^
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 4:18 pm
Well, I said I was bi at first, and for a while, it was true enough. I was about a 70/30 guy. But as time went by, I liked more and more guys and less and less girls. Especially physically. And not to gross anyone out, but sexually too. Before a year had passed, I had become a 90/10 guy, and now I'm a perfect 6 on the scale. (I've been told that I radiate the rainbow!)
So you see, as Baka has said, sexuality is very fluid. You have to choose the title that makes you feel the most comfortable. And not feel bad about changing your mind later--after all, it's really more your body that changes, right? It just takes your mind with it! 3nodding blaugh
Of course, with that having been said, I'd also like to remind you that sexuality is a very confusing topic as well. It's really easy to get lost in the tide of LGBTQS attributes. Changing too often may...well, it may confuse other people, if not yourself as well....
Love and Vale,
-LD
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 8:09 pm
BakaTulip Sexuality is a very fluid thing, it's not "You're gay" or "You're straight" or "You're bi" there's all sorts of levels in there... and it's more of a matter of being comfortable than having a label I agree with Baka. I spent SO much time just trying to find what category I go under I really was never paying attation to what I really felt. I'm only /really/ now starting to understand things for sure.
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Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 7:49 pm
The course of love...
Well I find that my sexuality has changed very much in the last 3 years
from being probably asexual to gay, to straight-curious (started to think about girls), to bi, and now on my way back to gay.... now I'm on like a 4.5-5 scale
I've just decided to stop using the words gay, bi, or straight to describe myself
I find it much easier if you just let your feelings flow with out the boundaries words make, although if someone ask you it might be difficult to explain.
hope that helped in some way...
... never did run smooth.
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Posted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 9:18 am
It's very hard to describe people. It's very hard for me to say that although I usually only find girls attractive, there's the rare guy that I like.
It's really just what sex are comfortable with as friends, and which you'd rather get into relationships with. But I will repeat that sexuality is very fluid.
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Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 2:51 pm
Yes, it can be hideously confusing. For a while, i was changing my mind a few times a DAY. I'm still not officially out yet, I'll wait until I settle more. Yeah, also, I don't have a bf anymore, and I don't have a crush on anyone right now, so that makes it harder. I've gine from bicurious to bi to straight and repulsed at even looking at girls, to liking girls more, and back to bi. I've compared myself to a pinball before. But in due time, you will be all sorted out. The trick is, (and obviously, I'm guilty of not doing this sometimes) simply not to worry about labels. Just do what feels right and what comes naturally. It's been said before for a reason!
Do what you like, like what you do.
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Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 7:10 pm
Bakas totally right. The simple fact is that sometimes you can't be sure. Do what makes you feel happy and love without reservation. Thats all any of us can do.
That being said its incredibly annoying to hear stuff like that when your counfused, at least it was annoying to me. But its true, don't stress on it too much or it will just drive you nuts. See what comes.
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Posted: Mon Jun 23, 2008 7:41 am
I classify myself as percentages too, and those percentages change quite a lot. Usually I'm 80/20 leaning toward girls, but I do have what my friend calls "hetero moments." My percentages change temporarily then. It's not a matter of waking up in the morning and saying "I am going to like girls (or boys or both or neither) today." It just kind of happens depending on your mood and the people you're with.
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Posted: Thu Jun 26, 2008 10:35 pm
Yeah, I'm trying not to worry about words like bi, straight, gay, whatever. If I like a guy, I like a guy. If I like a girl, I like a girl. You don't really need much more than that for yourself. The terms, methinks, are just easier for telling people what you are instead of going "Well, I like guys mostly, and I've dated guys, and I went out with a girl last week, but she wasn't my type...etc." You don't need to explain that to yourself! Right now, I'm a.....mmm.......70/30 guys, since we're going with percents.
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