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SinfulGuillotine
I would have a problem with the no-touching rule. I'm such a touchy-feely person. I grope/cuddle with/kiss just about everyone I know. I just love physical contact, and I've never understood why physical contact always seems to carry sexual connotations. But then, I'm discovering that my views on physical intimacy in general are somewhat abnormal, so maybe I'm just weird. I'm just lucky that my partner trusts me and isn't a jealous person, or else we probably wouldn't have made it through the first gathering with my friends.
My main issue with the idea of courting is that I don't like the notion of going out and specifically looking for someone to marry, or dating with the mindset that if it doesn't end in marriage, it's a waste of time. In my experience, that's just not how people really fall in love. Just...get to know the person, have some fun, and don't put the pressure of "forever" on either of you. If things are going to work out long-term, that'll become evident eventually. If not, well, then you've had some fun and gotten to know a (hopefully) somewhat interesting person.
Not that I'm some expert on relationships. Different things work for different people. I just know that I'd be bothered if I was dating someone who thought I was a waste of time if they couldn't see themselves marrying me, or who was talking about names for our children on the second date.
My main issue with the idea of courting is that I don't like the notion of going out and specifically looking for someone to marry, or dating with the mindset that if it doesn't end in marriage, it's a waste of time. In my experience, that's just not how people really fall in love. Just...get to know the person, have some fun, and don't put the pressure of "forever" on either of you. If things are going to work out long-term, that'll become evident eventually. If not, well, then you've had some fun and gotten to know a (hopefully) somewhat interesting person.
Not that I'm some expert on relationships. Different things work for different people. I just know that I'd be bothered if I was dating someone who thought I was a waste of time if they couldn't see themselves marrying me, or who was talking about names for our children on the second date.
I don't think there is anything wrong with touching and I agree that it doesn't mean that things will turn sexual. Generally I don't care about touching and would prefer if people didn't touch me. I don't hate giving hugs or anything, but it's just annoying when people expect you to hug them when they leave.
I also never liked the idea of fooling around with someone or having a fling because I get attached to people easily and it would just hurt me in the end if things weren't serious. I prefer looking for a serious relationship and I don't mean planning the wedding on the second date or something because that would just freak me out. I need to know more about them and be with them for a long time before marriage even comes up.
