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 Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2005 1:56 pm
shayloup hi, I've got this problem where, well.... I've never told anyone about the fact I'm Bi. Not my parents, friends, no one! I know that if I tell my friends they will either steer clear of me and/or spread it around school, and well if I told my family (how would you tell them), they might react differently to me (my dad cracks jokes about gay/lesbians/Bi.s) or my sister and i know this for a fact would make fun of me. my mom is the only one who I know will accept me and not treat my any differently, but If I told her she would pass it on to my dad (that funny one parent knows so the other has to knows bond).I can't let people get to know how I really feel because , I know that they won't accept me for who I am. So I make up everything from how I feel about certain conversation,s to what I like to wear, to wo I like. I know it's not good for me to keep my feeling bottled up but, well, I'm close to giving up on actually letting the actually get to know the real me. it feels alot better to tell someone even if they don't know who I really am. There are three options 1) Continue on the path you are steering, though since that course has been driving you crazy let's toss that one out. 2)Slowly start to clue people in through inuendo, gestures, and comments; culminating in telling a close friend who reacted fine to your bisexual hintings. 3) Just come out and tell everyone and let the chips fall where they may. Personaly, since I've never been one to play it safe, I'd chose option 3. After the initial shock that would last anywhere from a day to a few weeks things would settle. However for your case and who you seem to be, I would recommend option 2. But, even with option two, when you tell someone you must still let the chips fall where they may.
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Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 3:37 am
Hi, I'm Bi and I currently have a loving bf. He and a few friends know that I am bi, but there are somethings going around school about me and him and why we got together. People are saying that I am a whore for breakig up with my ex and then getting with my current bf so quickly. They are also saying that I don't need him because he is only wanting sex for me. I'm the kind of person that takes to heart what people say and let it eat away at me. I'm really happy with him but at the rate of what people are saying I'm really doubting our relationship, but deep down in my heart I know that he isn't like that to me. My question is how can I over come this?
Apollo's Edit: Addressed over AIM
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Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 7:11 pm
KishyBear06 Hi, I'm Bi and I currently have a loving bf. He and a few friends know that I am bi, but there are somethings going around school about me and him and why we got together. People are saying that I am a whore for breakig up with my ex and then getting with my current bf so quickly. They are also saying that I don't need him because he is only wanting sex for me. I'm the kind of person that takes to heart what people say and let it eat away at me. I'm really happy with him but at the rate of what people are saying I'm really doubting our relationship, but deep down in my heart I know that he isn't like that to me. My question is how can I over come this? Apollo's Edit: Addressed over AIM and answered here People's assumptions about others do suck. All I can really say is hold on to the knowlegde of what you know is true and just tell yourself that those that say you are a whore, and don't even know who you are and who asked who out are ignorent fools.
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2005 2:38 pm
Here's a question...Not really about my sexuality per se, but about a relationship issue.
I am the kind of person who tends to fall in love more than like; that is, I would rather be emotionally involved than physically, and I'd rather have a long, lasting, serious relationship. Unfortunately, I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. I thought I was straight until this year, when I joined my school's GSA (Gay/Straight Alliance) and developed a crush on the president. She's a lesbian. (This brings me to question A.: Am I really bi or do I like her because this is the first really close encounter I've had with a lesbian? I really think the former rather than the latter; however, I'm open to your opinions.) However, she's also four years older than me and has a girlfriend.
Now. To give you an idea of how I get when I fall head-over-heels for someone: my nickname at my school is "Scary Stalker Girl." I get a little obsessive. I sent the girl I like a SongOGram, which is a singing valentine thing we do at my school. She was really embarrassed, and now she's not speaking to me.
Okay. Now, for the questions:
A. (mentioned above.)
B. Is there any way to get her to understand that even though she has a girlfriend, I still love her, and if anything happens between them I'm here for comfort?
C. Even if I can't have her love or her friendship, how can I apologize to her for the Songogram without her thinking I'm stupid?
Apollo's edit: Addressed over PM.
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Posted: Sat Mar 05, 2005 12:07 pm
Okay, I go to a Christian school, and alot of the people there make fun of homosexuals. Their favorite game is to "pretend" they're gay, cause they think it's funny. But in all truth, they're all just really homophobic and make fun of gays. I'm personally straight, but I consider all people equal, no matter what their sexual preference is. I've gotten into fights before over this subject, because it really ticks me off how judgemental they are. They keep saying stuff like: "All gays should rot in Hell" and stuff, and insult them constantly. Should I continue to stand up to them, or should I let it go?
-Torn
Apollo's edit:Message answered.
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Posted: Sat Mar 05, 2005 1:17 pm
Raine_Storms Okay, I go to a Christian school, and alot of the people there make fun of homosexuals. Their favorite game is to "pretend" they're gay, cause they think it's funny. But in all truth, they're all just really homophobic and make fun of gays. I'm personally straight, but I consider all people equal, no matter what their sexual preference is. I've gotten into fights before over this subject, because it really ticks me off how judgemental they are. They keep saying stuff like: "All gays should rot in Hell" and stuff, and insult them constantly. Should I continue to stand up to them, or should I let it go?
-Torn
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 6:44 am
Prince Apollo Raine_Storms Okay, I go to a Christian school, and alot of the people there make fun of homosexuals. Their favorite game is to "pretend" they're gay, cause they think it's funny. But in all truth, they're all just really homophobic and make fun of gays. I'm personally straight, but I consider all people equal, no matter what their sexual preference is. I've gotten into fights before over this subject, because it really ticks me off how judgemental they are. They keep saying stuff like: "All gays should rot in Hell" and stuff, and insult them constantly. Should I continue to stand up to them, or should I let it go?
-Torn
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Posted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 5:00 pm
ok I'm desperatly seeking advice about this and any advice from anyone would be apreciated...ok I'm bi and my freinds all know along with a few ex freinds who told my brothers..who don't care but the problem is that they think my parents should know and I live in a very religoius family so I'm really only left with one choice...I need to tell them myself even at 18 I love them and I dont want them hating me over that...so how would be the best way to come out to them? please anyone!!
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Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 8:52 am
~zzang~ ok I'm desperatly seeking advice about this and any advice from anyone would be apreciated...ok I'm bi and my freinds all know along with a few ex freinds who told my brothers..who don't care but the problem is that they think my parents should know and I live in a very religoius family so I'm really only left with one choice...I need to tell them myself even at 18 I love them and I dont want them hating me over that...so how would be the best way to come out to them? please anyone!!
((note-this is only one suggestion, listen to other much smarter people as well. I'm only saying something because I come from a Christian home myself ><))
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Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 1:00 am
Raine_Storms ~zzang~ ok I'm desperatly seeking advice about this and any advice from anyone would be apreciated...ok I'm bi and my freinds all know along with a few ex freinds who told my brothers..who don't care but the problem is that they think my parents should know and I live in a very religoius family so I'm really only left with one choice...I need to tell them myself even at 18 I love them and I dont want them hating me over that...so how would be the best way to come out to them? please anyone!!
((note-this is only one suggestion, listen to other much smarter people as well. I'm only saying something because I come from a Christian home myself ><))thank you for your caring advice *I might do that but I dont think I can take the fall from the beloved son to outcast homo*
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Posted: Tue Apr 05, 2005 8:40 am
Two words - School dance
Do I invite a girl and go or should i not?
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Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2005 4:31 pm
Lady _Lita Two words - School dance Do I invite a girl and go or should i not?
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 5:49 pm
please apollo help me? here is the problem:
My dad despises people who are gay and Bi. he really hates them with a capital H. My mom.. idk what she thinks of it. But im only 13 and im confused about what i am. I find myself attracted and turned on my females body's. I stare about 5 seconds more than im supposed to at beautiful females. But guys turn me on too. but ive never been with a girl.. and im not sure if i want to. but my family.. they might hate me. and im afraid to tell my online friends and my reality friends because at school im alreayd labeled lesbo. so if they find out im really Bi everyone will beat me up. I feel so confused. can you tell me if im completely Bi or not> and if i am.. what do i do to tell ?
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Posted: Sat Apr 09, 2005 6:44 am
AoD_Khoai please apollo help me? here is the problem: My dad despises people who are gay and Bi. he really hates them with a capital H. My mom.. idk what she thinks of it. But im only 13 and im confused about what i am. I find myself attracted and turned on my females body's. I stare about 5 seconds more than im supposed to at beautiful females. But guys turn me on too. but ive never been with a girl.. and im not sure if i want to. but my family.. they might hate me. and im afraid to tell my online friends and my reality friends because at school im alreayd labeled lesbo. so if they find out im really Bi everyone will beat me up. I feel so confused. can you tell me if im completely Bi or not> and if i am.. what do i do to tell ?
Though if you need to talk to one of them, I'd suggest your mom, since she's been where you are in regards to age and such. Just tell her how you feel confused about what your behaviors mean, she prolly felt very similar to the way you are now when she was 13.
As for the label at school, since it seems you are uncomfortable with the label... hmmm rather than just telling you what do, I'll PM you and help brainstorm some ways to end it.
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Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2005 9:49 am
Please help me! Heres my problum:
I'm 14 and some of my friends will say that I am the most "un-gay" guy that they have ever seen. But on the other hand a lot of other kids will call me name or even beat me up because they suspect that i'm gay(or bi). The real problum is that I dont know how to "come-out" because if I do they could continue to beat or harrass me or the WHOLE school will know and everyone will harrass me. Could you please help me.
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