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 Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:32 pm
That sums it up completely. Between my boy and my writer's block, I'm...quite useless here.
If you need me, call me. You should know the number....
-Leavy-Kun/Andrew
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:52 pm
Why are straight men @holes? And why do I attract them?
Dear Straight ******** you.
Crystal.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:52 pm
yeah muse probably has it, I don't, plus I tried once to get it before and idk.
lol I need to get a GF, been talking with Muse about it. My life seems to be based around this computer... I want to date this girl I know, she's smart, cute, talented and has similar interests. The only bad thing is I try to set up a double date and forget that she's in Japan for the month on vacation... grr... i'm hopeless... just stamp my forehead with that on it... get it over with.
*edit: @ Muse, um lol nice, i'm straight but I'm not an a**hole, so as far as I know... plus I'm not an lazy a**, well, with household stuff, I may be on the computer a lot, but I can cook, I clean (if i have to), know how to handle kids, I'm more mature for my age then most people I know that ARE my age.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:01 pm
Shadowdragon087 yeah muse probably has it, I don't, plus I tried once to get it before and idk. lol I need to get a GF, been talking with Muse about it. My life seems to be based around this computer... I want to date this girl I know, she's smart, cute, talented and has similar interests. The only bad thing is I try to set up a double date and forget that she's in Japan for the month on vacation... grr... i'm hopeless... just stamp my forehead with that on it... get it over with. *edit: @ Muse, um lol nice, i'm straight but I'm not an a**hole, so as far as I know... plus I'm not an lazy a**, well, with household stuff, I may be on the computer a lot, but I can cook, I clean (if i have to), know how to handle kids, I'm more mature for my age then most people I know that ARE my age.
Ladies and gentleman, the exception to the rule.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:05 pm
the exception to the rule is the fact that most of the good ones are nerds, get used to that...
now i may be nerdy, but so far as Muse is concerned she thinks I have a sexy voice, plus after all I may not be as hopeless as I sound, I tend to be a flirt, even at work (O.o which could end up turning into something bad, should control myself there, but gah, we're trying not to go insane since the store is practically dead sometimes), but yeah, grr... why do YOU GIRLS HAVE TO GO TO THE HOT GUYS, and not the ones that are smart, will actually listen, and help more...
scream stare mrgreen heart
*edit: AND WILL ACTUALLY TREAT YOU LIKE A HUMAN... O.o
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:09 pm
Because we don't respect men we can walk all over, but hate men who walk all over us.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:16 pm
O.o so then what the h*** is the point of even dating then? From what your saying is that women don't like relationships in which they can just walk over their partner. Then on the other side your saying that women don't like it when men walk over them. So what is the POINT?
That relationships always have ups and downs. The good guys will let you walk over them, what is wrong with that? That just means we respect you. I mean some more than others are cowards, but sit the men down, tell us to be MEN but still have our love. Honestly, I would, I don't like not having control of nothing, it's freakish, not normal. Everyone should have control of some part of a relationship, men and women, not just one gender.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:17 pm
Well, dur, you have to find a middle ground. That's the hard part. Most people want to be a leader or be lead.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:26 pm
gah, you're making me do another dr. phil moment... stare
So yeah, but what if both want to lead? Where does that relationship go? Is it stronger or weaker to have 2 leading roles? One could deal with part of the stuff, the other with the other stuff. So basically both genders get to control parts of the relationship to satisfy the need to be the LEADER. Men should cook, women shouldn't have to slave over the grill every day and every meal. Women should every now and then, endulge us men, let us do something we want and in return will (or at least should) do something for you or do something you want to do.
There shouldn't be one side to the negotiation. War can't be fought with one side, there will always be another side, one that wants control. Come to an agreement and get it done with, like a treaty in a war. Say "Well do this if you will take care of that..." share parts of the relationship.
I may have to make my own thread O.o (Talking Time With Shadow) ...
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:29 pm
When two people want to lead it comes down to one simple truth. Someone is going to cave in. There either needs to be equal amounts of caving, or the relationship is NOT going to work out.
Harsh, but struth.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:37 pm
True, but still what negates the breakdown? I see what you're saying, if we react the same in a fight, it goes nowhere. There does have to be compromises here and there, but I think that both genders should have a part in the big "CONTROL." I mean obviously if one partner handles say planning things better, then they should do that. If the other is good with like handyman stuff, let them do it, ask before helping, don't just hop in, same goes for what I said before.
We kinda have this bias where men should do certain things and women should do certain things. That's OLD FASHIONED and works still yes, but men shouldn't not let women do things that they themselves are not good at just because its more of a MAN thing, same for the Women. The world is about change, if we don't change ourselves and our attitude where are we going to end up?
and why do I talk about this stuff when I myself am not in a relationship and never have been? your guess is as good as mine...
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 11:57 pm
It's not a relationship if one person is always giving in. There has to be a middle ground. Compromise.
If not, then the person leading will lose respect and the person being lead will feel like a tool.
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Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 1:50 pm
Hey I'm back from Koinonia. Two weeks away, I'm not even going to try to catch up. So in the past two weeks, my friends graduated, I went to koinonia, met a bunch of new people from all over the world, (England, South Africa, The Netherlands, Hungary, Scottland). I met this guy Jonathan and he is totally nice and sweet and taken, but only eased up on the flirting when he almost went too far. He is a total geek too, so yes we go for guys who aren't just hot, but most of them are already taken. That was an odd situation, unfortunately I don't think its over yet. I'm going back next week for another week, so I'm probably going to see him. Oh well, he is the one with the girlfriend not me.
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Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 6:04 pm
So all straight guys are assholes... it does make sense, I am quite the a*****e, I poke fun at, and will poke fun at, just about anything I lay my eyes and ears upon. I wonder how my gf puts up with me? Lol.
I think in a way, women need to lower that big old bar I like to call STANDARDS. Or, I dunno, not take any s**t from dudes. Like seriously, you want guys to be three things: Hot, rich and fantastic in bed. Let's not s**t around the bush on this one ladies it ultimately comes down to that. And there's a simple mechanic behind that thinking and here it is:
Hot, because should things take off, at least your children will look good.
Rich, because if things nose dive, you get half.
Good in bed, because being a nice guy only goes so far, am I right? Besides, there has to be some short term pay off.
I've known and still know a lot of women who will and have traded nice, honest, well meaning and all that other good crap women wish men were if they met the above requirements for assholes, cheaters and liars. The good guys are the married ones, the ones with long term girl friends but I'm not going to say gay. Gay people are just as selfish and arrogant as straight men, they just have better listening skills.
Just think, if women have it this hard, imagine the poor single, straight guy and what he has to put up with. Not only does he have to put up with the ridiculously unreasonable image that women have that men should look and act like but the fact that most women are aiming for at least 3 to 5 points above where they stand. That's a LOT to live up to and its completely unfair, so when I see your average Joe Smith with Tiffany Blond Bombshell on his arm I think there's one lucky b*****d. Normal guys aren't rich, they wouldn't look normal if they did, rich guys like to look rich.
The problem with the world is that men want a bombshell and women want a stallion and its only ever good until the bomb flash fades and the stallion doesn't win races anymore, then they move on.
So let's all can thy whining and blame society and the media for making us want things we can't have and Disney for taunting us with dumb things like true love and destiny. Or you could just yell at me for 6 or 7 posts.
So now that my rant is over, I have nothing really to talk about. I might post something later fiction wise that peeps can not read and ******** I lead a boring life, maybe after going camping I will has stories to tell!
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Posted: Mon Jul 14, 2008 12:23 pm
crystalsmuse
Damnit, Tommy. Can't say I know exactly how you feel, but I sympathize with you. I know you can do whatever you set your mind to and if getting him back is what you want, then you'll get it.Thank you very much, Muse. It means a lot to me that you would say that. Basically I'm just at the point of biding my time. Things should be fine, eventually.
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