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StrawberryDaifuku

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 12:58 pm


Arthela
At least u can tell ur mom...she may be disappointed but at least she didn't disown u or try to do an exocism on u.

She probably would if I told her I'm Pagan... The fact that I'm not Christian was the only thing I mentioned.
She's actually pretty clueless... XD

But yeah...
PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 5:24 pm


Rainbow_Flavoured_Pocky
Arthela
At least u can tell ur mom...she may be disappointed but at least she didn't disown u or try to do an exocism on u.

She probably would if I told her I'm Pagan... The fact that I'm not Christian was the only thing I mentioned.
She's actually pretty clueless... XD

But yeah...


Good Idea

Arthela


dark_angel_32189

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 8:48 pm


The longer you hide it from your parents, the more likely you are to let something slip, and then they'll be mad at you just for hiding it from them.

I actually found out not too long ago why my brother didn't freak when he found out about me being Pagan. I always wondered why all he said was that it was stupid. I always figured that he'd freak out the worst. Anyway, the girl that he liked at the time when he found out about me being Pagan is Wiccan.

And my mom still thinks it's just me rebelling. rolleyes And that's why I've been Pagan for 3, almost 4 years now... and hid it from her for 2 of those years.
PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 8:54 pm


dark_angel_32189
The longer you hide it from your parents, the more likely you are to let something slip, and then they'll be mad at you just for hiding it from them.


Yeah but if they find out they will disown me but first try to do an exocism on me...trust me...I know this cuz they gave me a lecture for reading Harry Potter about how it would make me an easier target for the devil...so I think it is better for me to keep it to myself.

Arthela


dark_angel_32189

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:06 pm


Arthela
dark_angel_32189
The longer you hide it from your parents, the more likely you are to let something slip, and then they'll be mad at you just for hiding it from them.


Yeah but if they find out they will disown me but first try to do an exocism on me...trust me...I know this cuz they gave me a lecture for reading Harry Potter about how it would make me an easier target for the devil...so I think it is better for me to keep it to myself.


The only thing that I have to say about that is wow... just... wow. That's ignorance for you. How old are you?
PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:25 pm


dark_angel_32189
Arthela
dark_angel_32189
The longer you hide it from your parents, the more likely you are to let something slip, and then they'll be mad at you just for hiding it from them.


Yeah but if they find out they will disown me but first try to do an exocism on me...trust me...I know this cuz they gave me a lecture for reading Harry Potter about how it would make me an easier target for the devil...so I think it is better for me to keep it to myself.


The only thing that I have to say about that is wow... just... wow. That's ignorance for you. How old are you?


15...y???

Arthela


Kiwi x Pop

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:31 pm


I don't want to sound like I'm supporting being something you're not. Just let them know how you feel without bringing Wicca up. You don't want to cause a rift. Its easier to break out as a full pagan when you have a space of your own.

I decided to wait until the time was right for me, because as a teen I didn't feel that I could control my emotions. I didn't want to be upset and do something I would regret or harm someone. Now, as an adult, I feel confident that I have the right mind when doing spells.

Blessed Be and Good luck to all who need it. &3
PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:40 pm


Age has a lot to do with how parents react to this sort of thing. In all honesty... they just want to ensure that you're safe. That's their job.

Chances are that they don't really know the real truth about Wicca and Witchcraft and they really do believe that it's all devil stuff. I mean, the last church that I ever went to, the first time I went there it was pretty much a Pagan bashing (I was Agnostic at the time). And they were doing it based off of traditions and beliefs that cultures and religions had thousands of years ago. And they believe that those things apply to all Pagan traditions today, when they don't.

I learned a lot from my Understanding theatre teacher. I swear, she's so intelligent. Anyway...

You're parents don't want you reading Harry Potter because they believe it makes an easier target for the devil.

Ask them some questions... (who, what where, when why, how)! If you do it right, you'll end up putting them in a corner and they won't know what to say. I swear it works if you do it right (well, in most cases). I use it all the time and people just get so speechless... it's great!

Ask them why they feel that way about Harry Potter.
Ask them why they feel that it's an easier target for the devil.
If the subject of Witchcraft or magic comes up... ask them how they feel about witchcraft and magic and why they feel that way.
Ask them if they realize that it's just a freaking fictional book. Books don't have powers... they can't make someone do something or believe something. They're intended for entertainment (well, fictional books anyway).

And just go from there...

And don't allow them to say "because it's in the Bible" or because so and so said so". That's not logical... if the Bible told you to go kill yourself, would you do that too? Honestly...

That is of course, if you have the guts to do this with your parents... most people don't. sweatdrop

dark_angel_32189


dark_angel_32189

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:42 pm


dark_angel_32189
Age has a lot to do with how parents react to this sort of thing. In all honesty... they just want to ensure that you're safe. That's their job.

Chances are that they don't really know the real truth about Wicca and Witchcraft and they really do believe that it's all devil stuff. I mean, the last church that I ever went to, the first time I went there it was pretty much a Pagan bashing (I was Agnostic at the time). And they were doing it based off of traditions and beliefs that cultures and religions had thousands of years ago. And they believe that those things apply to all Pagan traditions today, when they don't.

I learned a lot from my Understanding theatre teacher. I swear, she's so intelligent. Anyway...

You're parents don't want you reading Harry Potter because they believe it makes an easier target for the devil.

Ask them some questions... (who, what where, when why, how)! If you do it right, you'll end up putting them in a corner and they won't know what to say. I swear it works if you do it right (well, in most cases). I use it all the time and people just get so speechless... it's great!

Ask them why they feel that way about Harry Potter.
Ask them why they feel that it's an easier target for the devil.
If the subject of Witchcraft or magic comes up... ask them how they feel about witchcraft and magic and why they feel that way.
Ask them if they realize that it's just a freaking fictional book. Books don't have powers... they can't make someone do something or believe something. They're intended for entertainment (well, fictional books anyway).

And just go from there...

And don't allow them to say "because it's in the Bible" or because so and so said so". That's not logical... if the Bible told you to go kill yourself, would you do that too? Honestly...

That is of course, if you have the guts to do this with your parents... most people don't. sweatdrop

Edit: I'm not saying throw your religious beliefs at them right away. Just start small. biggrin

Tell them calmly that you'd just simply like to learn about other religions. Just for knowledge. And that they can monitor everything that you read, if it makes them feel more comfortable.
PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:45 pm


I can't do that to my parents cuz they r a) just trying to protect me from what they believe in...b)they have fought so hard for me...c)they have enough stress in their life due to work and two bratty foster kids living at my house....d)I do that and I will end up grounded...meaning no internet...meaning for me no life...cuz outside the internet I am a complete nobody.

Arthela


dark_angel_32189

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:48 pm


Arthela
I can't do that to my parents cuz they r a) just trying to protect me from what they believe in...b)they have fought so hard for me...c)I do that and I will end up grounded...meaning no internet...meaning for me no life...cuz outside the internet I am a complete nobody.

That'd be a little harsh... grounding you for asking questions.
PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 9:52 pm


dark_angel_32189
Arthela
I can't do that to my parents cuz they r a) just trying to protect me from what they believe in...b)they have fought so hard for me...c)I do that and I will end up grounded...meaning no internet...meaning for me no life...cuz outside the internet I am a complete nobody.

That'd be a little harsh... grounding you for asking questions.

They would ground me for a) adding more stress into their life and b) for question the word of their god.

Arthela


dark_angel_32189

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 10:03 pm


I wasn't telling you to question their god. I was saying that you should questiont the Harry Potter thing. Although, I suppose that it is self-explanitory. I still think it's stupid... it's just a book.
PostPosted: Thu Oct 04, 2007 12:16 pm


dark_angel_32189
I wasn't telling you to question their god. I was saying that you should questiont the Harry Potter thing. Although, I suppose that it is self-explanitory. I still think it's stupid... it's just a book.

I know that...I totally agree...it is just that they view that magic is going against the word of their god and that by questioning y they don't like it and not accepting cuz it is in the bible as an answer would be an act of questioning their god.

Arthela


Zsa Zsa

PostPosted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 12:20 pm


25, and haven't told my family. And i don't think I ever will. I'm not really afraid of anything, its just something that is mine, and I don't really want to share with them.

I donno. I just keep to myself. I have nothing to prove, and have no wish to put any strain on any of the very different relationships I have with family members. Since they are moving to the other side of the country, though, it finally gives me a chance to live more openly. In the mean time, I put my alter away every time. I have no wish to offend or recreate needless drama.
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