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 Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 7:58 am
I'd just tell my mom about it, and describe it as well, so she won't think anything weird about it.
But about that plus-size lolita... I'm quite plus size to.. my waist is smaller but my chest is big.. and I tried on a lot of dresses wich didn't fit me, and if i could get the zipper closed, it looked horrible.. so my tip, don't order from sites until you know for 100% sure it'll fit you. or else you might get dissapointed. and I also think shirring looks BAD on plus size loli's ^^. I hope this'll help!
~love
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 7:58 am
I told my mom before A-kon, because I wanted to go loli. She was kinda like "Huh? Do you know what lolita IS?" No, no, mom, it's a CLOTHING style! With petticoats! Then she looked it up on wikipedia and everything was just dandy.
So I guess the point is to tell them that it's a style related to the Victorian era and has absolutly nothing to do with the other lolita. And the different styles like gothic and sweet seem to help. So instead of saying "Oh, I like lolita" you would say "Oh, I like the Sweet Lolita style." Or something.
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Posted: Wed Sep 06, 2006 8:54 am
I no longer have worries about that, since I live on my own now. But when I still lived with my dad, I dressed the way that I wanted to anyway. He sometimes gave me weird looks, but he still loved me. My dad and I had a great relationship, and in all circumstances, I believe you should always treat your parents as if they were your friends. Their opinions should be valued, but dont let them get in the way of you being the way you are. So just be honest.
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Posted: Sun Oct 08, 2006 12:10 pm
petite belette I'm having a similar problem.
I tried slowly getting my mom used to the style by wearing peices of it at a time like a nice skirt with other casual things and lacy head pieces with normal clothes that matched. She seemed to be cool with that.
But she's iffy when it comes to wearing full outfits. She thinks it makes me stand out too much and look too different.
So I usually just go for casual lolita when I go out in public but wear complete outfits when I go over to friends' houses or parties.
I've yet to tell her the name of the style because I don't think she'll understand and will think it has to do with porn/*****. Maybe I'll figure out a way to make her understand eventually ^-^; That's how my mom is. I comissioned a costume (she was so reluctant and angry for a long time). But i just had to work on it with her. It takes a long time to explain that this is something really important to you, and that you want her to understand and respect that. If she feels that it is inaproriate, you will just have to work harder. My mom thinks that all the lace that I love to don is my way of hiding my body, not so. But she has begun to approve of loli style as it is currently creeping up in department stores, so she figures allright, whatever let her wear what she wants. Just make sure you are clear in communicating.
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Posted: Sat Oct 14, 2006 1:20 pm
Meh I'm pretty lucky. My mom's pretty open-minded.
I think, lolita, she thinks is very cute and that she wishes that I would wear dresses more often.
Try going moderate at first because going extreme might "WOOSH".
Like my friend did that to me with like... "sk8ter"-ness or whatever one would consider it. I got really pissed at first because it was so random and all at once, but I got used to it. So mothers should be the same.
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Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 1:53 pm
my mom thinks that Lolita is cute. like all the clothes, shoes and accesories. At hot topic my mom saw a lolita maid costume and she was like "omg how cute! dont you just love it?!?!? if you didnt have that kimono for haloween then i would have bought this for you!". i really wish that i didnt have my kimono crying
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Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 4:04 pm
heart &hearts heart The hardest part for me is the name and the fact that it costs so much.
Mom wouldn't like me spending a ton on frilly foreign fashions. =/
And as far as plus size Lolis go...I think that it could be just as beautiful as a skinny minnie Loli. you just have to find the right pieces to accentuate your more "curvy" figure. ^^
And@ponytacute: You lucky duck! gonk
AND@General Mao: My mom said the same thing. I'd actually never heard the story of the "other" Lolita, lol. xD heart &hearts heart
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Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 5:38 pm
My mom HATES gothic lolita to no end... I mean she'll lock me in my room before I go outside wearing that stuff... o.O I have to sneak out with the clothes in my backpack if I wanted to wear it.
I can't reason with her, she says I'm crazy and I'm just being a "teenager".
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Posted: Tue Oct 17, 2006 2:24 am
Classic L o l i t a My mom HATES gothic lolita to no end... I mean she'll lock me in my room before I go outside wearing that stuff... o.O I have to sneak out with the clothes in my backpack if I wanted to wear it. I can't reason with her, she says I'm crazy and I'm just being a "teenager". hell, i know that... my mom used to be like hat when i was a bit younger... i still don't wear headdresses when she's around and stuff alike and i would NEVER tell her about lolita... but she is okay with me wearing frilly stuff now although she used to hate it... so my tip: let your mom get used to her daughter being different... might take some years, but, well, it's worth the time. someday she'll reaize that you are serious about it and not just 'some teenager blablabla' and then she will probably let you wear your stuff. parents have to grow up, too...
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Posted: Sun Nov 05, 2006 11:19 am
For my mum its not so much the style (she thinks i'm crazy in a cute way anywhay XP) Its the cost, a lot of the stuff i want costs a lot altogether and we have to buget, so my dream wardrobe is on hold. But as far as explaining goes, sit her down and be serious about it, let her know that this is your style and you love wearing it.
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Posted: Sat Nov 25, 2006 5:59 pm
*Sigh* I tried to tell my mom about lolita once, after I drew a picture of Misa from Death Note in the style, but she thought it had to do with the lolita complex, all slutty and stuff, and since I was fairly new to the style myself and Misa was my only counter-example... well... I haven't tried since. (Misa sometimes wears rather/very revealing outfits.)
For now, when I dress up in punk-lolita-inspired outfits, she calls them "manga style." That works. neutral And she thinks they're cute.
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Posted: Tue Nov 28, 2006 5:39 pm
I don't think my mom knows about the other lolita. <3 So it's easy to explain to her. I just said how it's Victorian-era style and that I wish I could start dressing like that when we move. I draw it a lot too, and she seems to like it.
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Posted: Wed Nov 29, 2006 6:51 am
I never trully've told her, mother simply figured that on her own -
After all, she's aware about most stuff I own in my closet. [The good, the bad and the loli.]
Actually, my mom seems to like me alot more in kodona/dandy O^O ....
Well, I shouldn't be so suprised, for she is the kind of person who'd fall for
lacedup lovely prince~charmings of the sort.......
Her problem is with my actuall crossdressing [kodona isn't so manly now, is it? *sighs*],
and my hobby to dress my younger sister in amaloli/punkloli with me.
I guess she's scared of the extra attention I gave to lil sis'
since I started this obsession... though she shouldn't. I'm not into girls who are aller than me anyways.
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Posted: Fri Dec 01, 2006 3:44 pm
We can't remember...
We think We showed her our magazine that We bought.
And she said it was cute.
Then We said We wanted to adopt that style [or something...]
And she gave a funny look,
and said We couldn't do it b'cuz mychasi isn't secure enough.
LIES!
Well, anyway, it was fairly painless.
She supports it now.
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Posted: Sat Dec 16, 2006 9:54 pm
Hm. My mom isn't all to bad with it actually. She encourages me to buy weird clothing and stuff because it makes me want to excersise more or somm'n so I can fit into an actual lolita dress from meta or something. I just like once day told her what it was and she just nodded all casual-like. =/ She thinks it cute as hell.
And she likes the fact that I love sewing/drawing/writing and I'm not into something else like drinking/whatever. She loves
My dad, on the other hand..oh my god. He's a totally different story. I won't even attempt to explain it to him because he will just flip out. He calls it 'costumes and slutty stuff' I had a picture of mana on my desktop and he was all flipping out because he thought that it was a girl and that I liked women or something.. Pfft. I had to tell him over and over that mana was a boy. x__x He's insane. Yuh.
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